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No, to people when you don’t feel like hanging out

No, to people who don’t deserve your time

No, to people that make you feel uncomfortable

No, to people that threaten your happiness

No, to people that don’t let you be yourself

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2. Think of the last time you were REALLY angry. WHY were you angry? Do you still feel the same way?

3. You are on a flight from Honolulu to Chicago non-stop. There is a fire in the back of the plane. You have enough time to make ONE phone call. Who do you call? What do you tell them?

4. You are at the doctor’s office and he has just informed you that you have approximately one month to live. Do you tell anyone/everyone you are going to die? What do you do with your remaining days? Would you be afraid?

5. You can have one of the following two things. Which do you choose? Why? Love and Trust.

6. You are walking down the street on your way to work. There is a dog drowning in the canal on the side of the street. Your boss has told you if you are late even once more, you are fired. Do you take the time to save the dogs life? Why or Why not?

7. Would you rather be hurt by the one you trust the most or the one you love the most?

8. Your best friend confesses that he/she has feelings for you more than just friendship. He/she is falling in love with you. What do you (or did you) do/say?

9. Think of the last person who you know that died. You have the chance to give them 1 hour of life back, but you have to give up one year of yours. Do you do it? Why or Why not?

10. Are you the kind of friend that you would want to have as a friend?

11. Does love = sex?

12.Your boss tells your coworker that they have to let them go because of work shortage, and they are the newest employee. You have been there much longer. Your coworker has a family to support and no other means of income. Do you go to your boss and offer to leave the company? Why or Why not?

13.When was the last time you told someone HONESTLY how you felt regardless of how difficult it was for you to say? Who was it? What did you have to tell the person?

14. What would be (or what was) harder for you to tell a member of the opposite/same sex, you love them or that you do not love them back?

15. What do you think would be the hardest thing for you to give up? Why would it be hard to lose?

16. Excluding romantic love, when was the last time you told someone you loved them. Who were they to you?

17. If there was one moment and one time in the last month what would you change and why?

18. Would you give a homeless person CPR if they were dying? Why or Why not?

19.You are holding onto your grandmother’s hand and the hand of a newborn that you do not know as they hang over the edge of a cliff. You have to let one go to save the other. Who do you let fall to their death? What was your rationale for making the decision?

20. Are you old fashioned?

21. When was the last time you were nice to someone and did NOT expect anything in return for it?

22.Which would you choose, true love with a guarantee of a broken heart, or never loved at all? Why?

Actual journal 

Bullet journal

Username/Password notebook

Movie ticket stubs (train tickets, too!)

Stamps

Book journal

Magazine covers (Composition books fit Teen Vogue perfectly, and 5-Star works for Seventeen!)

Goal achievement & encouragement journal

Art/mixed media journal

Recipes

Travel journal

Lists, lists, and more LISTS

Religious notebook (for bible study notes, etc)

Story Bible (for writers who want to keep track of plot lines & characters)

Swatches (for art supplies)

Photography (details for certain shots tailored for your particular camera)

Sticker storage (double tape the sheets to the pages)

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100: Top 3 museums you've been to

101: Top 3 school memories

102: Top 3 things you don't/Won't miss

103: Top 3 pick up lines

104: Top 3 sports to watch

5 Not Obvious Signs of Self Harm | psych2go x Katia

However, I feel like I should add to this because I thought this video was going to go in a completely different direction - Forms of self harm that might not always be obvious, because they don’t occur externally.

Let me explain.

I self harmed in High School to cope with parental abuse. I made a promise to myself that I have yet to break on Christmas Eve, age 17, that I would never do that to myself again. I am now 23 and happier than ever, having moved out, graduated from college, and found the love of my life.

However, even tho no blade came to my wrist, I continued to self harm in ways that did not manifest in cuts or bruises for a good 5+ years afterwards.

I would self harm in words. Saying things to myself and others like “I’m a piece of shit,” “nothing I do matters,” “I’m worthless,” etc., and although those words never leave a mark, they’re still hurting you on the inside.

I know people who have, by the physical definition, have never self harmed, but by my definition self harm every single day.

In short, we need to expand the definition of self harm.

My grandmother is the first person that comes to mind.

She is on her way out of this world, she’s 81 atm, her husband is losing his memory, and in that way, she is losing her husband.

She is arguably the closest thing to a perfect person I have ever met in my entire life. And I don’t just say that because she is my grandparent. She is incredibly talented, keeps her house cleaner than a hospital, cooks incredible meals, is sharp as a tack and has enough intelligence for the next 10 people, and has the cutest highland Scottish accent you’ve ever heard, especially when she swears <3

There’s only one problem. She’s never been mean to another living soul, but she’s mean to herself every day.

Every mistake she may make, she says “I’m so stupid,” “I’m just a waste of space,” and other things that just make me wanna cry on the spot when I hear them.

I finally told her, ”Grammy, you don’t have much time left. And if I have one wish for you, it’s that before you go, you see how truly amazing and incredible you are. I look up to you. In my mind, you are the best at everything in the entire world and the adult I could only dream of ever being.”

She started crying. (My Grammy does not cry in front of people first of all so this is already a huge deal.) I could tell this message really resonated with her.

Because she lives in Scotland and I live in America, I can only afford to see her once a year. I came back the next year and she was still treating herself the same way.

I still wish, before she leaves us, that she will stop hurting herself the way she does.

When we expand the definition of self harm to include people like my grandmother, we can start bringing awareness to how harmful words can be not only to others, which is discussed all the time, but to ourselves, which is very rarely discussed.

We have already thoroughly acknowledged that words from others can hurt, words can even kill in the form of suicide from bullying, but we never talk about the harm that negative words used for ourselves can hurt or even kill.

Listen to how people talk about themselves. Observe if they express pride in their achievements, or dismiss them onsite. You’ll start to see patterns of self harm in a lot of people this way. Under my definition of self harm, a lot more people self harm than meets the eye. And nobody is talking about it.

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