We Believe You

It is easy to feel like you’re being rude when you’re actually setting healthy boundaries.

“I want someone to notice when my smile is fake, when I’m staring off in the distance and I’m a million miles away. I want someone to notice that I’m not alright, hold me, and tell me that they’re here for me.”

“Find someone who loves you well. Someone who never belittles you. Even in the heat of an argument. Someone who is gentle with you, but doesn’t treat you like you are fragile. Someone who knows what you’re capable of, and celebrates those pieces of you. Not someone who is intimidated by your strength. Someone who doesn’t make you feel guilty for being flawed. It is not love’s job to punish you. And remember the person you love is just as broken as you are when they fall short. No one is perfect – don’t hold them to this standard. Find someone who is patient, forgiving, and apologetic. Someone who practices forgiveness freely and often. Love someone who is humble, kind, and empathetic. Not only with you, but with a beggar on the street, or a stranger in the supermarket. Common courtesy is important. Compassion is important. Kindness is important”

abuser, trying their hardest to guilt trip me: Yeah it's all my fault isn't it! I'm the true evil! I'm the worst person alive! I was the one who did *something they really did* and it's all my fault that you did *something you reacted with to their abuse*! I should be sent to hell for everything I do! I only want others to live in misery! Everything is my fault!

Just wanted to ask you something! I was reading some of your works and “gaslighting” comes up a lot. I get it’s being manipulative kinda but how exactly is it different? Is it kinda like guilt tripping? Can you please give a short explanation and maybe a bit of an example? 🥰