whatevs

“Locks” (2009)

This was such a beautiful film.

1. If you do not go after what you want, you will never have it. 

2. If you do not ask, the answer will always be no. 

1. Self hatred and self blame

2. Not being able to let go of the past.

3. Not being able to forgive yourself.

4. Not being able to cherish who you are.

5. Needing other to validate you.

6. Letting other people define who you are.

1. Rather than listening to the voice in your head that is screaming “I hate this; I don’t want to do this” think about why it is a GOOD thing to do.

2. Instead of trying to pretend that you don’t feel this way, accept that you are feeling very blah and negative.

3. Don’t think about results and how well you think you’ll do, as this could raise your feelings of anxiety and fear, just think about “right now” and the first thing you can do.

4. Accept that life is tough, and is full of things that suck – but recognise that doing hard stuff is better in the end. You’ll likely have more choices and freedom, if you do.

5. Just do a little bit for now – then give yourself a proper break – then go back and do some more – and soon you’ll find you’re in the flow.

1. If you do not go after what you want, you will never have it. 

2. If you do not ask, the answer will always be no. 

1. You can’t change what happened as yesterday is gone - but you can make some choices so the future turns out better.

2. We all have regrets – it is part of being human. There’s no-one who is perfect, or who does things perfectly.

3. See it as a life lesson, and something you can learn from. Good can come from your regrets if you’ll let them change your ways.

4. See yourself as a new person … As a person you believe in …. As someone you are proud of, and as someone who you like.

5. Practise self-compassion and give yourself a break. You still deserve to be loved … it doesn’t matter what you’ve done.

Remind yourself that:

1. This is not the end. You are going to survive. There’s no point in pretending that life is always great. Sometimes we trip and fall, or we make terrible mistakes. Allow yourself to heal, then get up and start again. Take one or two small steps, and know you’re going to survive!

2. Everybody makes mistakes along the way. You’re only a failure if you give up and don’t try. Accept that you are human, and then move on with your life.

3. Positive thinking leads to positive results. If you think you can succeed then there’s a good chance that you will. The mind is very powerful; we create what we believe.

4. Success is closer than you think when you are down. Mistakes can be our teachers; they don’t mean that all is lost. You’re likely one step closer to getting what you want.

5. You are not your mistakes. Don’t fall into the trap of defining who you are by different things you’ve done – or by your failures and mistakes.

6. There are very few mistakes which are truly devastating. Mistakes are merely setbacks. You can always start again.

7. A failure is sometimes a blessing in disguise. Not getting what you want can sometimes be a stroke of luck. It makes you reconsider, and try some different things. And these can often lead to better opportunities.

Life might be better if you try the following:

1. Let go of the past

2. Do stuff (instead of just thinking or talking about it)

3. Don’t let other people bother you

4. Make the effort to stay in touch (especially with those who mean a lot to you)

5. Allow yourself to make mistakes, and fail

6. Accept that things going wrong from time to time

7. Decide not to take things personally

8. Think about how you want to be remembered

9. Give without expecting something in return

10. Choose to be silly, to have fun, and to laugh

11. Value your friends, and always treat them well

1. You can’t change what happened as yesterday is gone - but you can make some choices so the future turns out better.

2. We all have regrets – it is part of being human. There’s no-one who is perfect, or who does things perfectly.

3. See it as a life lesson, and something you can learn from. Good can come from your regrets if you’ll let them change your ways.

4. See yourself as a new person … As a person you believe in …. As someone you are proud of, and as someone who you like.

5. Practise self-compassion and give yourself a break. You still deserve to be loved … it doesn’t matter what you’ve done.

Succession, 1935, Wassily Kandinsky