Bring an adult who was raised by an emotionally abused parent can be hard. Especially when you don’t realize that what you experienced was abuse until you’re older. And then you’re constantly learning and unlearning what moments of your childhood would be actually considered “abuse”
You’ll watch a show and people will call the parent abusive and you’ll reject the statement and say - “that’s not abuse because the kid did xyz” or “that’s not abuse because that’s just the parent’s personality” or even “wait, you think that’s bad?”
Anyway, watching Connors Wedding episode and then going on tumblr has me seeing all these posts of people pointing out how well the show did in capturing the nuance of losing an abusive parent
And I’m still here reeling that 4 seasons into this show, it was only until this episode that it even occurred to me that Logan would have been described as abusive to his kids
Watching that episode for the first time was like being in a trance and I felt like I could map each kids’ reaction to what the reaction my siblings and I would likely have in the event of my parent’s death and now I’m tying all that together
Having an emotionally abusive parent is hard. Especially when you are just trying to enjoy your day and something will remind of the ways you’ve been damaged
