i'm gonna rant abt smth bc why not? if u choose to read, i appreciate u. if u choose not to, that is understandable since this is going to be quite a bit to read. but this post is in regards to my pronouns bc i always feel like i'm going through this identity crisis and i am so done w having to explain and re-explain myself just for no one to get it or for no one to care.
- she/THEY
when i say that i go by she/they, that does not always mean for u to go and refer to me as she/her 24/7. i think what ppl tend to misunderstand is that not everybody who goes by more than one set of pronouns wants to be referred as just one set of pronouns.
when i bring this up, ppl always tend to think that she/they rly means for them to go and call me she/her. and they instantly tell me, “oh, so u go by she/her, but u go by they/them cuz u don't mind it if ppl don't refer to u as she/her.” no. that's not always the case. it's not that idc if ppl call me they/them bc i WANT to be they/them sometimes. some days, i rly don't feel like a girl. i don't feel like anything.
she/her is what i feel like MOST the time, yes. but there r days where i genuinely do not feel like a specific gender. it's more than just "idc." i do care bc it makes me so happy when someone gives the bare minimum to acknowledge that i go by they/them, too, and they r willing to shine some light on that by referring to me as such. even on the days where i do feel like a girl, i would literally cry tears of joy just to be referred to as a person, they/them.
and it's also pretty disrespectful in my case when i tell ppl my pronouns and they still manage to think that i go by she/her and their only logic behind that is the fact that they think i only go by she/they simply bc "idm if ppl don't refer to me as she/her". “oh, so u go by she/her but u don't mind if ppl misgender u by calling u they/them?” bffr. it's not "misgendering" if i go by both she/her and they/them. i genuinely never knew that the lack of respect for pronouns could be *that* fucking low until i've been told that shit. like.. where do u even get that from? how do u manage to just pull that shit right out of ur ass and tell urself that what u're saying makes total sense? i don't get it. just respect my pronouns and understand what my pronouns mean.
thank u for coming to my painful and long rant of the day. i have probably bored those who've read all 5 paragraphs of this shit, if anyone actually has. if u do relate to this, pls comment. it would make me feel more seen cuz lately i've just been feeling so alone and feeling like nobody rly cares to understand and that maybe the issue is me. once again, thank u
