Can we all just take a breath and remind ourselves that we can refuse to be referred to in a particular way without shitting on people who do like being referred to that way?
You can say you don't identify as "queer" without demonizing the queer community.
You can not want "gay" being used as an umbrella term for you without taking it away from people who do like to use it for themselves.
You can hate being called "it" without taking it out on people whose pronouns are it/its.
You can be uncomfortable being called "they" without blaming people with they/them pronouns.
You can not like neopronouns for yourself without making that the problem of people who do like them.
You can dislike having terms like "joyfriend" applied to yourself without mocking people who'd love to be called someone's joyfriend.
If you're fed up with some kind of expectation that you ought to be okay with being called any particular term, then rage at that expectation, not the term or the people who like it.
