For anyone that maaaaayyy want to keep up with me, I do post on my instagram a lot @tammynestt 

I also do have a new tumblr that I may or may not keep up with. We’ll see. @tammymeetsworld

I don’t know if anyone even remembers this blog. I see some of my old viral posts here and there which is actually what made me log in today. 

I’ll admit that I’ve kept this blog because Ger and I’s relationship was so special to me, despite how things ended. We loved each other a tremendous amount. I went through some of my most important emotional development years with him. He literally at one point in my schooling would wake me up every morning via our ongoing Skype chat to make sure I got to my classes on time haha.

He taught me how to cook. He taught me how to be patient. He taught me how important it is to not always be ‘right”, and sometimes forfeit a fight because it’s pointless in the long run. He taught me what a healthy, supportive relationship looked like. He let me be exactly who I wanted to be and loved me all the same.

We weren’t perfect. Ultimately we had two different visions of our future. Long distance is not easy. There is so much compromise to be together.

I’ll always have a place in my heart for what we were, our little blog, our YouTube videos and the inspiration and support for my old website, LongDistanceDiaries.com (no longer in service). 

I realize back then how much support we had from the long distance community. How many people looked up to our relationship and asked us questions and rooted for us. It honestly was really nice.

I remember once I followed this girl and she sent me a message full on fangirling. I’ll never forget that moment because it made me realize just how much some people looked up to us.

Tumblr is a very different place now. I don’t see myself coming back like I once did. I’m in a really different place in my life now.

I’m a Registered Nurse, living with my not-long-distance boyfriend in America. We’re engaged to be engaged I like to joke. Just saving money for our move across the country soon. I have two wonderful kitties. Lots of plant pets. Some great friends. I found my One and a little life I love.

Also for those curious: Ger is married to this girl that seems totally perfect for him. Moving to Europe I believe. Has a really fantastic job. They are a GORGEOUS couple, my god.

1. Taking one another for granted

2. Not communicating as effectively as we should have with each other, or not actually listening to each others’ concerns and making changes.

3. Taking our time together in person for granted and not making the other feel special. 

4. Unhealthy fighting styles.

5. Becoming boring as a couple, which actually is a big deal. Having fun and keeping things interesting is really important.

6. Having different visions of the future.