Bad news and adapting
In one of the first posts I said it was hard writing a story where the end was unknown. This has been a tough post to write as Toby’s story took an unexpected turn and it wasn’t what we wanted or expected.
As explained Toby developed a limp on 27 December. This improved quite a lot over the next few days, we were booked for his assessment with the surgeon on 9 January so we hoped he would tell us what the problem was and how to put it right.
On 9 January we went back to West Midlands Referrals. Toby had to walk up and down the car park and then be checked over, the limp was noticeable but Andy said he hoped it was just soft tissue trouble that could sometimes flare up. He took Toby off for an x-ray.
He returned with bad news. Toby had somehow dislocated his hip, something that was really unusual at this stage. Somehow, also unusual, he had coped with this and was walking and didn’t appear to be in pain. We had two options, neither were great.
We could operate, this would be difficult but as it was almost two weeks since the dislocation it would be even harder, it would set him back to the beginning of his convalescence again, it might mean a permanent weakness in his hip so there would be a risk of future dislocations, and it would be expensive.
Or we could leave it as it was, he was coping and should improve. Exercise and hydrotherapy would help strengthen him and, though he would always limp and might not be as active he could be happy enough.
To add to the difficulty we had to decide quickly, with every day an operation to relocate the hip would get harder to do. We decided to leave it as it was for him and left in some shock and very upset, it seemed that all the efforts we had made to give him a normal life had failed. We still can’t really think about his second leg and what we do, though it will be at least two months before we could do anything with that as we need to strengthen the dislocated leg.
We’re still, over two weeks later, very upset. Toby is happy enough, he is going for short walks and can go out in the garden without a lead, he had his first hydrotherapy session a couple of days ago and that went pretty well. We’ve ordered a joint supplement for him hoping this will help too.
Not the result we expected or prepared for, we are looking for anything positive we can do now to help him to become reasonably active.











