Hey b I'm ugly n uncomfy w everything n im trying to get back into school, gain + lose weight, wear more makeup, and wear prettier clothes bc ik it prolly won't make me feel better about myself but atleast I'll be pretty n sad instead of ugly n sad!! Maybe ppl will actually Like Me but prolly not. Ok advice please. Pleas e. please.
while it is important to love what you see, it has to all start with loving what’s on the inside. you will never find happiness if you keep trying to place value on things that are unimportant. being pretty means nothing at the end of the day, and anyone who likes you solely based on something so superficial is not worth the time and effort because they are not there for the long-run. focus on building beneficial characteristics that you can add to your persona like loyality, curiousity, selflessness, etc., and above all, just try to learn shit about yourself. for so long, i genuinely thought that becoming thinner or looking a certain way would make me happy, but at the end of the day i was miserable because this mindset of “i’ll be happy once i look like xyz”/”i’ll be happy once people like me because i look like xyz” is based on a hunger that can never be satiated. you will always look for something more to change even once you reach the initial goal. believe me.
however, i do genuinely believe that having things like a personal sense of style, a balanced and non-restrictive relationship with excercise and food, etc. can do wonders for your confidence. however, you must be in a good head place before focusing on such things because, as an example, one of my friends is very fixated on thinking that makeup/clothes/losing weight will bring her happiness, but it’s become so obsessive to the point that it’s ruined her (her wording, not mine; i will never ridicule someone for struggling yo)
remember, the road to self love and recovery is never linear. do not be discouraged. everyone starts somewhere
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