And have I learned restraint?

Bondage is another really flexible kink that you can apply in a lot of different situations with a lot of different connotations. And they're all great.

The simple fact of limiting someone's mobility is hot. Leaving them progressively more helpless and/or dependent on you is a lot of fun. Bondage harnesses, leather or shibari, are less about restriction itself, but the simple presence of it serves as a constant reminder to the person wearing it, and that's also great.

You can tie someone's hands to a harness to limit them, or cuff someone's hands wrists together (with a slightly longer chain to leave some mobility, or not at all, depending on how you're feeling), or put a chain or bar between their elbows behind their back for the same effect. Or you can just go for an armbinder, box or otherwise to keep those pesky arms out of the way entirely.

For the legs I like ankle, knee or thigh cuffs with chains between them rather than a bar or something, because forcing a limited range of movement is hotter than just taking it away altogether.

Personally, the appeal of a lot of kink is aesthetic, which bondage can really nail. I care more about the restriction and it looking good than I care about it causing discomfort. The idea of, like, casual-wear bondage is fantastic.

But it also lends itself well to support other kinks. Like, most of this stuff before is if you want someone to move at all, but bondage also lends itself to tying someone in place to put them on display. And the aesthetic appeal of displaying someone like a trophy is fantastic.

So as long as it's not ugly, and meant to be humiliation in that sense, I'm wholly on board.

But preference utilitarianism just kicks the can down the road. Forcing someone to feel pleasure is wrong - no comment on forcing them to want it. In fact, giving someone a new preference and then fulfilling it is ethical by default - more satisfied desires in the world!

It's like corruption kink if the corruption was objectively good. Your victim is making the world a better place just by indulging in all the things it now so desperately wants. It's saintly, almost! Your own utility monster on a leash.

And to maximize net benefit, the optimal victim would be someone exceptionally repressed. A huge change, necessarily, and the victim wouldn't care, but everyone who used to know it would.

By Natural Causes for @empress-em-kaldwin

beneath a rotten sun /

coward-eater, unloved, nith-king /