I've known this since before I went vegan, but some personal shit I found out about a few days ago really cemented how most people's stories/stories they've heard about hysterical bitches worst kind of vegans, are, at best, exaggerated/have important details omitted, or at worst are just flat-out lies.
And no, I'm not saying awful vegans don't exist shut up and put the keyboard down. Yes, it happens, and it sucks; yes, vegans are indeed calling it out, and yes, marginalized vegans exist. I don't need to hear about whatever shitty vegans are out there any more than I need to hear about some shitty 'man-hating feminist' who thinks men should all be put into camps or whatever. And no, you don't need to throw animals under the bus whenever you do encounter an actually shitty one.
But since people willingly choose to see veganism only as some fad diet and not, you know, an entire ethical framework, it's easy for them to dismiss us as some oversensitive snowflake who gets upset about milkshakes and tries to shove our 'diet' down everyone's throats.
Buddy, you know for a fact it's not about the fucking milkshake.
"Wah this vegan got mad bc I cooked bacon!" It's not about the bacon; it's about the fact that the entire house reeks of death, and the vegan now has to sit outside in the muggy summer heat, getting eaten alive by mosquitoes until the clinging, nauseating stink fades. It's about the fact you knew it would happen and did it anyway multiple times.
No, the feminist doesn't believe unqualified women should get jobs before men with affirmative action just because they're women; they believe that qualified women should have an equal opportunity to get hired as equally qualified men. They believe that businesses should not be allowed to profile people based on their marginalization status and hire based on unchecked biases.
And, as with any advocate for the rights of marginalized groups (both for people in those groups and people not in them who advocate for their liberation because that's the right thing to do), microaggressions pile up until we snap. Because there is so much bullshit we have to deal with.
No, the vegan didn't snap at you because you're talking about the steak you just had. They snapped because you've consistently not shut the fuck up about it every time you're around each other, on top of whatever billion-dollar industry bootlicking propaganda of the week you keep spewing.
Your girlfriend didn't snap at you because you left your dirty dishes on the table; she snapped because you've been an unhelpful and rude boyfriend since day one, and you came at her when her tolerance level for your bullshit was zero.
It's the same shit. Stop acting like some generic reactionary trump supporter whenever a vegan says something you don't like. Stop whining about your emotional support violent hierarchy.