This sure is a blog, huh?

Two people do not decide that they are "courting". One person decides to "court" someone else. It's an action, not a stage in the relationship. A man decides to court a woman because he wants to encourage her to have romantic interest in him. He's trying to win her favor. It's not an exclusive relationship--a woman could be courted by multiple men at once. She'll spend time getting to know the guy who's interested in her, but they won't officially define their relationship as one where they only show romantic interest in each other. If they reach a point where they want it to be exclusive, that's when you propose.

bizarrely, America has in many ways gotten more conservative about dating since World War II.

Also, following this, I asked my mom what her thoughts were on the matter, and she said that while she “wouldn’t put it in those terms” she broadly agreed, and thought that anyone expecting any sort of exclusivity when a marriage proposal wasn’t at least on the very immanent horizon was “nuts, honestly.” I hesitantly asked if she was including relationships with premarital sexual activity in that, and her response was “Of course. I mean, gosh, you know your Aunt Terri used to have a guy for every day of the week before she finally settled down.”

And this was when I learned, to my shock, that the oft-repeated story of how “Aunt Terri used to have a guy for every day of the week” didn’t just mean “Aunt Terri had a full dance card” but rather meant that Aunt Terri had a period of her life where she literally dated exactly seven guys at once, all of whom she was sleeping with (or, my mom was quick to disclaim, “well, fooling around with, I don’t know how far she actually went with any of them, but they were definitely all fooling around behind closed doors”), on a literal weekly rotation. Like, they had a schedule. A schedule that all seven of the guys knew.

Don't forget this is the new asexual flag

Meant to be more intersectional

That doesn't mean you can't still use the ORIGINAL asexual flag. That's the classic. The one everyone recognizes.

But the new one is the one that's my profile banner (mostly because my previous banner was a flag that a follower made for me to include brown and black stripes to represent asexual people of color during the BLM movement, but this one was made by an actual black asexual person to be more inclusive so it's better)

So....

New asexual flag. This also includes other asexual people that don't feel well represented. Physically disabled asexual people. Asexual women. Asexual people that still experience a libido. Asexual people that experience low sexual attraction. Asexual people that don't fit the stereotypes of being "pure" or "prudes" (I know I write some of the kinkiest shit out there).

Love you all!