sup! i'm C, just found you scrolling. I hope you manage to look the way you want to look, but a heads up, massive calorie deficits arent that good for ya. i got pressured into loosing some pounds, dropped fifty actually, thats bout 22, 23ish kg? there was a point where i had a deficit of only a 100 cal. took me a long time, but it was way easier and i felt better than when i only ate a single egg a day (yeesh!).
if i had anything i'd recommend to you overall, stay hydrated, try to eat a veg once a day, or heck, once every two if thats realistic for you, and fruit is a great way to deal with sweet cravings. an apple or banana is pretty cheap, and they're about 100 cal each, depending on size. soups are pretty tasty, and you need to make sure you're getting enough salt if you eat less. same thing with vitamins. not a total replacement, but a daily multivitamin should help a lot
for hydration, im a big fan of tea and homemade "soda". its really just wild herbs i brewed up, added zero call sweetner to, and added sparkling water to. i like cooking, so i also go out of my way to avoid using butter when unsaturated oil will work just fine.
speaking of, if you need some protein in your diet, greek yogurt and some flour make a simple flatbread. i get the kind without fat, as its saturated, and hey, frying it anyway. whole grain cereal is a good breakfast, especially with fruit!
dieting is hard, i get that, but don't put your health at risk! and, of course, take some time to love yourself each day. a lot of people who diet forget to. it's not something im innocent of either. im still a fat piece of dough, but when you count the calories and take care of yourself, it's not too hard if you're nourished and set realistic goals.
i decided that i like my current weight, even with a certain negative someone telling me it was impossible for fat people to be happy. im disabled, so i wasn't going to be a super lean human that advertisers like anyway, and im used to staring. but y'know, nowadays i eat a lot of homecooked food, fruit, vegetables, salad. im no longer a little brat who was allowed to eat whatever i want, given i could cook it. i hope you become happy with yourself, whatever that looks like for you, but please, do stay safe while doing it. i was never told my health mattered more than the amount of fat on my bones. so i figured i might as well do that for someone else.
oh, and breakfast is very important
Hey, it's really sweet of you to reach out so I wanted to take my time to write an actual response.
I appreciate your advice, I've spent most of my life with really disordered eating of one type or another so I'm unfortunately familiar with the effects of extreme calorie restriction. I think I'm averaging about 1,200 calories a day at the moment which looks extreme but I'm incredibly short, like not even made it to 5' short so it's not quite as bad as it looks, I think my BMR is about 1,350.
I've done a lot of experimenting with my diet over the years, I've been vegetarian, done low carb, tried to follow the NHS's plan which just made me unbelievably hungry and keto seems to be the thing that works best for me. It doesn't include much fruit or veg no, but I won't eat it anyway, there are huge amounts of foods I won't eat because of the texture, something that I'm coming to realise is probably actually ARFID and I'm vaguely in the process of trying to find a therapist who can tell me if it is a standalone eating disorder or if I've got ADHD/autism and it's one of the symptoms of that.
I'm absolutely not advocating low carb diets for everyone, I know it doesn't agree with a lot of people, but personally for me, it calms down the food noise, I have to think about what I eat, it almost completely eliminates the binge eating, I sleep better, have more energy and fewer energy slumps during the day, my moods are more stable (when I'm not stressed out of my mind at work anyway) and I have actual hunger signals. Some days I will be really hungry and I will eat well over my maintenance calories, and other days I won't feel like eating so I don't, I figure if I'm not hungry I don't need to eat and I shouldn't do so just because society says it's a meal time. I don't have any proof of it, but I think it helps with my seasonal depression too, it doesn't seem to be as bad the last couple of years I've been in ketosis going into winter.
I do drink more than I put in my diary, I just don't usually bother logging it because it doesn't have calories, I think today on top of my can of monster I've had lemon squash and a can of pink lemonade 7 up which is absolutely not enough liquid and I am going to make myself another drink.
I think the summary of this slightly too long ramble is I can definitely do better, I do need to eat more of the very few vegetables I will eat, I do need to drink more water, I also need to actually go to the gym like I've been telling myself I will do since I moved house over a year ago so I stop injuring myself at work so much.
I am worth more than my weight, and so are you, and everyone who follows or occasionally interacts with my blog in some way, and I hope one day we all reach a point of happiness with ourselves, mentally and physically.
I will fight you on the breakfast front though :P
