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So i’m here to say I’ve seen a lot of discourse about weather or not Trans men who like men are “gay” or not. 

I literally saw a post where some one was like “Its making it seem like being gay is a choice!” and??? I’m sorry excuse me? i didn’t CHOOSE to be trans you know that right? 

This is what I don’t understand. 

I didn’t CHOOSE to like men.

I didn’t CHOOSE to be afab.

I didn’t CHOOSE to have dysphoria.

So… how is it a choice? Why do people feel the need to call out trans men who like men by saying “Your not gay! you are a trans man, born female!” like ? that’s really dysphoria inducing? and guess what. i’m WELL AWARE that i was born female. I’m WELL AWARE i spent so many years of my life in pain and agony trying to figure myself out. I’m WELL AWARE i was NOT born with a functional penis.

Am I a man? Yes. Do I like men? Yes. Am I the exact same as a gay man? No. Am I the exact same as a Cis female? No. 

What I am saying is, Is that don’t try and be a dick to someone who calls themselves a gay trans man. I’m aware I Don’t have a penis. don’t shove it in my face about it. Because for god sake if i could be born a cis male I fucking would. 

So i’m sorry i’m not a “normal” gay man. But god dammit I didn’t choose any of this, and i’m as “gay” as the next gay man. 

And i’m aware that not all gay men want to date Trans men. That’s fucking fine lmao. This post is about people arguing that trans men who like men aren’t gay, cause they are. Refusing to acknowledge that, is severely dysphoria inducing.