Kat Sullivan, Stonewall Prep Instructor

[PM] Alright. Hopefully I have answers. Ten years. Conflicted. No, but I don't fully trust his reactions in this regard. I'm not honestly sure. I'm not someone who usually feels uncertain. I've always felt confident and sure. I had a traumatic event and now I feel unmoored.

[PM] There is a significant age difference between us. I don't wish to be either burdensome or creepy to him. He has a great many friends and scene partners that are his own age or at least closer. Or perhaps these are all excuses for my own misgivings.

[PM] Heads up, I've got a heap of questions for you here. How significant? How do you feel about this age difference when it comes to doing a scene with him? Has he ever made you feel burdensome or creepy? What are your own misgivings?

[PM] Do you think it's appropriate to check in with him daily or twice daily in the days after the scene? We have a tradition of sharing a meal every week so I will see him then, but not every day.

[PM] Explain to me why you think it might not be appropriate.

[PM] Yes, yes. I understand. That makes good sense. I like to think that Christopher and I have a good connection outside of any possible scene(s), but still it is all the more important for me to take particular care for his mental health needs because we have not had time to build a long term relationship with everything that comes with that.

[PM] He is not my sub officially or even exclusively. However I care about him a great deal and assure you that I will seek that outside assistance. Just reaching out to you as I have as been a great help. Thank Ms. Sullivan. I look forward to taking your classes.

[PM] I think that is in fact the logical conclusion. I will have to have the conversation with him before we can even consider starting a scene. That being said I will be planting the seed. He needs to speak with someone like you. He needs to understand this is more than just one or two Dominants. He needs to know that it is fundamental. I don't think I can teach him that. Yes ma'am. I am keep my feet on the ground. He and I have been students here nearly the same amount of time. I will reach out if I have any questions whatsoever.

[PM] It sounds like you have this well in hand, Mr. Darcy. Trust your instincts, including the ones that tell you when you or your sub need outside assistance. You're doing everything right to keep him safe here. Keep up the good work.

[PM] Hm, I don't remember doing so, but I suppose you're right. I will. I need to take the class myself so it might be an enticement to take it with me though I think too highly of my influence with him. No, springing anything on him is generally a bad idea. Thank you Ms. Sullivan. I feel as though you've given me some great thoughts and at least some small amount of confidence that I can see him through our scene.

[PM] If you agree that he needs to learn about aftercare but don't believe you can or should get him to talk to me, then the logical conclusion is that you'll have the conversation yourself. Do you think you can do that? I'm glad that you're feeling more confident in your skills, but remember that you're still a student, and it's expected that you may need assistance on occasion. Don't hesitate to reach out to me or any of the other staff if you think your submissive's safety is at risk in any way.

[PM] Yes and probably yes Ms. Sullivan, however I have already made one clumsy attempt at finding someone to speak with him and it did not go well. I dare not try again and without his approval wouldn't reveal his identity anyway. That makes sense. I know some of his comfort foods already and can make sure to have them on hand. I wondered if it would be good to have someone he trusts on standby to give physical comfort in the event he needs it. A touch surrogate if you will.

[PM] It sounds to me like you've just volunteered yourself to talk with this sub about aftercare, Mr. Darcy. Encourage him to sign up for my module next term, but in the meantime, talk to him about aftercare before you get to the point of needing to do it with him. The idea of a touch surrogate is a good one, though it could go either way in practice. You can bring the idea up to him when you talk about aftercare before your scene. I wouldn't spring it on him without prior conversation.

[PM] He does know and knows to some extent the reason for it. He's exceptionally understanding. However, he seems to have some funny ideas about things like aftercare. If asked he will simply say he doesn't require it. Which is obviously untrue in reality. But you see my predicament, yes? I feel like I'm playing with fire.

[PM] Is this sub a student at the institute? Should I be having a conversation with him about the importance of aftercare? I suggest you frame the question as unrelated to aftercare, but simply ask him for the things he finds comfort in. What is his comfort food, his comfort TV programme, even his comfort scent? Take what you learn from conversation with him and apply it after a scene.

[PM] Likewise Miss Kat. I am most comfortable with formalities, but prefer to use names and titles that people prefer. I am going to be participating in a scene in a few days. My issue is that I have a fairly troublesome case of touch phobia. I prefer not to be touched or touch anyone else. It causes me a great deal of discomfort. However obviously the submissive in my care comes first. Is there anything I can do to give aftercare without touching? Is that even possible?

[PM] Aftercare can be given in many ways, with and without touch. Does the submissive in question know about your phobia? Have you spoken with them about their preferred methods of aftercare?

He couldn't help it. He watched her walk into the room, and the laugh that came out of him was shocking. He looked over his girl wearing his boys' clothes, pulling on the whole dude-guy persona. He shook his head softly as he finished his laugh. "You really gonna do this, hmm?" he chuckled again, beckoning her closer with a single finger. He took off her hat as she came closer to him. "Get the rest of this off. Now," he said, smile still on but his voice brokered no objections. "Seems someone might do with a little reminder on how to speak to her dominant, hmm?" he asked with a raise to his brow.

"Do what, bro?" Kat asked, throwing her hands out to the side as she sauntered over to him. With a grin on her face, she undressed as she was instructed to do, taking more care than usual with the garments. They weren't hers, and she didn't want her joke to cause Dallas any issues. Once she was naked she faced Robin and cocked her head to one side. "I've not the faintest idea what you mean," she said, innocence dripping from her voice.

Kat loved pushing boundaries... as long as everyone involved knew that it was just a game and no actual disrespect was meant. It had taken a while for her to find her footing with Robin and Dallas, but the longer she was part of their household, the more comfortable she felt. That's why she had no problem whatsoever opening up the closet containing her co-sub's wardrobe while on her way to the playroom. She picked out some boxers, a pair of jeans, a t-shirt, and a flannel shirt to go over top of it. She swam in most of it, so that involved grabbing a few hair ties to strategically tie off at least a bit of the excess material of the t-shirt and jeans in the back where it would be hidden by the flannel. For good measure, she grabbed a baseball cap and through it on backwards. Without even a glance in the mirror, she made her way over to the playroom, knowing she was still on time. "You know me, bro," she said, once inside, and it took everything in her not to laugh. "I'm always on time when I want to be."

Then bring it on, bro. It’s not that serious!

Be in the play room in 5 minutes. We'll see what's not that serious.

Yeah, yeah, bro. I’ll be there.