Fuck Normality

This is a list of prompts I will be using in the future and I will continue to update them as I add more. Some of these are generic prompts, and some are specific to my experiences in life, but anyone is free to use them.

9-10-2022

What are 5 things I want to accomplish before I turn 30? How can I work to accomplish these 5 things?

What are 5 things that I am thankful for?

What are 5 things that I am most afraid of?

What would I say to my child self?

Where do I feel safest?

What can I do now to help heal my inner child?

How did I react to my dad's death when I was a child? Would I react the same way as an adult?

How did my dad's death affect my inner child?

How do I feel about the mental illnesses I inherited from my dad?

How is my dad's death still affecting me today?

If I have children one day, how can I help them cope with mental illness, if they have any?

What happened when I was sexually assaulted? What was I feeling during those moments?

How has my experience with sexual assault affected my emotional state since it occurred?

Has anyone ever stood up for me when I was having a difficult time? Am I still angry at anyone who has not stood up for me?

What coping mechanisms have I used in the past that have not been helpful in my healing?

What coping mechanisms can I use now to help me heal?

How has my experience with sexual assault affected my current relationship?

How can I better communicate with my partner about my problems with intimacy?

Why do I think my relationship with my mom is a bad one?

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What is shadow work?

🌱 Shadow work is deep diving into your heart, mind and soul. It’s a meditation on what really bothers you, pains you and matters to you. Shadow work can be really uncomfortable as you have to be transparent and honest to yourself. You have to face your shadow self and some parts you have hidden even from yourself. At the end it helps you reach acceptance, and processing traumas, unhealed emotional wounds and understanding yourself and your surroundings better.🌱

These are some shadow work prompts I worked with so far, I will add more with time. I hope it will be helpful.

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1- when, where, how and with who do you feel most like your authentic self ?

2- is your perception of yourself and your surroundings filtered by your traumas?

3- are there any parts of yourself you don’t show to anyone? What are they and why

4- what are aspects of yourself you project onto others?

5- what traits get under your skin? Do you possess any of those qualities?

6- how’s your relationships with your parents and how does it affect your relationships ?

7- what is an emotion/feeling you constantly avoid? Do you suppress it? If yes, why.

8- how did your parent show love and what is your love language ?

9- do you have strong boundaries? How do you usually react when someone crosses them?

10- who hurt you the most and can you forgive them?

11- what toxic traits you have learnt from your parents?

12- what’s the best way someone can describe you and is that the best picture you have of yourself?

13- are you honest with yourself about who you are?

14- describe your first heartbreak. Does it still affect you?

15- do you tend to fall for self-destructive behaviors or self-harm activities?

16- when you meet someone what are the first qualities you tend to notice? Are they physical or mental and why are they important to you

17- is there a pattern in your relationships and do you tend to attract the same people ?

18- what are the common themes, symbols , emotions in your dreams ? What could they mean?

19- are there any generational curses/traumas in your family ?

20- what are the things you need to forgive yourself for?

21- did your caretakers teach you about self-care and self-love or was it self-learnt ?

22- do your goals and achievements bring real satisfaction and joy to you or you are doing them for other people and external validation ?

23- what are you afraid someone would judge you for?

24- do you hold any resentment against your parents? What are they and why can’t you let it go

25- what do you think your friends think and feel about you?

26- how do you handle criticism?

27- what is something you are jealous of?

28- what positive or negative patterns keep repeating?

29- think of people who have done you wrong, is there a possibility you were responsible too?

30- did you ever intentionally manipulate someone? If so, why?

31- what are your values and morals?

32- did you ever judge someone for things you did or do ?

33-What really matters to you?

34- what mistakes do you keep repeating?

35- are you living on autopilot mode ? What was the last time you did something for the first time?

36- do you think you are similar/different to other people? Why?

37- what makes you , you ?

38- do you follow your intuition and do you make the difference between intuition and anxiety?

39- are there any unfair or tyrannical rules in your family? Do you challenge them or surrender to them?

40- how do you feel about being vulnerable and showing your weak side to someone?

41- do you find difficulties forming long lasting friendships? If so, why?

42- do you stuff down your feelings until you blow up or you communicate them?

43- who were the adults surrounding you when you were a child? How did they make you feel?

44- did you hurt someone unintentionally and how did you deal with it? Do you carry any shame or regret?

45- do you have any repressed anger inside? Where does it stem from?

46- how do you feel about other people’s success?

47- were you allowed to express negative emotions and opinions when you were a child?

48- how do you feel about your achievements? Do you still feel not enough after doing something great? If so, why

49- how do you deal with conflicts, arguments and how do they make you feel?

hey everyone! i’ve found myself in a bit of a journalling/shadow work rut and thought i would give myself a little challenge to do for the next 30 days. i know that this is pretty common for a lot of people, so i thought i would share my challenge with you so we can keep each other accountable and do some reflective work 🤍 obviously you don’t have to do all 30 days, and this can purely be a prompt list if you need it! you can join in whenever you like 🤍

what is something you wish you could be doing right now? what’s stopping you?

if you could receive the truthful answer any question of your choice, what would you ask? why? what response would you hope for?

if you could change anything about your childhood, what would it be?

name 3 of your least favourite things about yourself. then challenge them - why do you think that way? what could you do to change?

what relationships in your life bring you joy and which ones don’t?

how could you show yourself love in your love language?

when was the last time you felt at peace?

write a letter to someone who hurt you - no matter how long ago. write everything you wish you could say to them, every emotion that comes up. burn, tear apart or flush away the letter

how would you treat yourself if you were a young child? how could you make them feel loved? see where you could incorporate that into your life

what triggers your temper most? why does it make you angry/frustrated/sad?

if you had everything you ever wanted, what would your life look like?

what emotions or feelings do you avoid? why?

what are your core values? do they align with the life you’re living right now?

what do you hate about yourself and why do you hate it? did someone tell you you should?

what negative patterns keep repeating in your life?

when you lash out, what part of you wants to be protected?

what is something you fear others knowing about you? why do you fear it?

in what ways do you consciously or unconsciously punish myself?

what is a grudge/instance that you are holding onto that no longer serves you? why are you holding on to it? how can you let it go?

what are your pet peeves? where do you think they come from?

when was the last time you felt wronged by someone?

when are you the hardest on yourself? why? can you find a way to be kinder to yourself?

how do you respond to situations that make you angry?

what are you the most proud of in your life?

in what ways are you hypocritical?

when am i my truest, most authentic self?

what advice would you give to yourself 5 years ago?

what boundaries do i need to set and reinforce in my life?

what things make you feel the most alive and present?

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Shadow work is the act of creating a connection with one’s subconscious mind, often through self reflection. This is a pivotal step that needs to be taken before a witch begins spellwork, because shadow work strengthens an individual’s sense of self- a crutial part of many witches’ craft.

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- write an apology letter to yourself

- why am I insecure?

- how can I be more trusting?

- how do I deal with failure?

- do I feel jealousy of certain people? why?

- how worthy do I honestly think I am?

- what from my childhood makes me angry?

- why do I reject help?

- why do I repress my emotions?

- why do I feel unappreciated?

- how do I feel about opening up to people?

- what is my deepest set emotional wound?

- how do I confront anxiety?

- how do I process sadness?

- who do I resent and why?

- what defense mechanisms do I tend to use?

- why am I a perfectionist?

- how can I be kinder to others?

- how have I behaved in the different stages of my life?

- what are my greatest regrets?

- what are my greatest fears?

- what themes in my life reoccurringly upset me?

- do I feel loved? why or why not?

- what do I value most in relationships?

- what do I value most in myself?

- what do I value most in my life?

- what are my expectations for myself? are they reasonable?

- what do I fear socially?

- in what ways do I doubt myself?

- why do I feel obligated to succeed?

- how do I define success?

- what does it mean to be a good person?

- what do I need to improve in myself?

- how do I deal with loneliness?

- what do I do that’s self destructive?

I enjoy journaling. It’s almost like therapy, but you’re figuring it out by yourself. You’re trying to figure out your own issues by putting it on paper, sometimes it’s for self reflecting or for figuring yourself out. This is very similar to shadow work. 

What is shadow work? 

Shadow work is addressing your shadow self, the side of you that you bury deep down and avoid. It’s your unconscious mind, and it is important to uncover this side of you in order to achieve your highest self. There are multiple ways to do this, but the most known (and most effective in my opinion), is journaling. I thought I should share 100 prompts that really make you think. 

1. What was one time you remember feeling wronged as a child? How did you react? Has this affected you into adulthood? How?

2. Think about one time where you’ve felt betrayed. What would you say to the person who broke your trust?

3. Write about a time you felt let down by someone you’d previously looked up to.

4. What’s one trait you see in other people that you wish you had. Why do you not possess this characteristic yourself?

5. Do you often find yourself over-thinking what you’ve said or how you’ve acted? What usually triggers this?

6. What were your parents’/guardians’ core values while you were growing up? Do you hold these today or do they differ? How so?

7. What are your core values as a human being? What’s the most important to you? What are you morally passionate about?

8. What tends to trigger envy for you? Why do you think this is?

9. What are the first signs that your mental health is dipping?

10. When are you hardest on yourself? Why? Where do you think this stems for? Why do you put yourself under so much pressure? Why are you so reluctant to be kind to yourself?

11. How do you react when you’re angry? Is this similar to other people who have been in your life since childhood? Why do you think this is?

12. What triggers you? Can you identify where this came from?

13. How do you perceive failure? What is your definition of failure? How does it make you feel? Are you afraid of it? Why might this be? How did your parents/guardians react to failure?

14. What situations make you feel less than or not good enough? Why do you think this is?

15. What is your relationship with your parents and/or siblings like? How was it as a child compared to now? Why do you think this is?

16. What parts of your parents/guardians growing up do you see in yourself now? When did these begin to become apparent?

17. What toxic traits have you recognised in your parents? How did it make you feel when you realized that your parents weren’t perfect? Do you also possess these traits yourself?

18. What are your toxic traits? How do these present themselves? How do you project these onto others?

19. What aspects of yourself would you like to improve? Why? Has anyone in your past ever made comments suggesting that you should? If so, how did this make you feel?

20. How do you feel about who you are as a human? Why?

21. How often do you forgive yourself? What kind of things do you feel you need to be forgiven for? Why is this?

22. Write about a time where you messed up and needed forgiveness. Did you ask to be forgiven? Did you apologize? How did it play out?

23. Do you form obsessive or unhealthy attachments easily? Why do you think this might be; do you have a fear of change/abandonment/rejection? Or, on the other hand, do you find it difficult to form emotional attachments; do you struggle with commitment or get restless staying in one place for a certain amount of time? Where do you think this stems from?

24. How do you fill your time when bored? What gives you enjoyment? What self-care do you regularly practise?

25. What negative emotions do you tend to avoid? Why might this be?

26. What negative emotions do you actually feel quite comfortable sitting with? Why might this be?

27. Write about one person you’ve never forgiven. What happened and why did you not forgive them? Was it warranted? How has this event affected you going forward? Do you think you could forgive them now? How did you move on from this?

28. How do you carry the weight of your past trauma? How has it affected you?

29. How did you process emotions as a child, teenager, and young adult? How do you process negative emotions now? Has this changed over time?

30. How do you enforce boundaries? How do you feel when people overstep them? How do you react?

31. What is the biggest lie you consistently tell yourself? Why?

32. What misconceptions have you noticed about your harbor? Can you think about where these started?

33. What are your preconceptions about femininity? Why do you think this is? Where did they come from?

34. What are your preconceptions towards masculinity? Where did these come from?

35. What does the term ‘Shadow Work’ mean to you?

36. What are three main goals you want to achieve with your shadow work?

37. Did you have any heroes growing up? Who did you look up to and why?

38. How were you taught to deal with emotions as a child?

39. How do you deal with negative emotions now?

40. What’s the most hurtful thing you’ve ever done to someone else?

41. What’s the most hurtful thing you’ve done to yourself?

42. How have you moved forward from hurting someone else?

43. How do you plan to move forward after hurting yourself?

44. What’s the biggest promise to you that someone else has broken? How did it make you feel? Why?

45. What’s the biggest promise you’ve broken to yourself? Why? How do you feel about that?

46. Have you ever broken a promise to someone else? Why?

47. When you really think about it, is there any area of your life you’re in denial about?

48. What do you constantly lie to yourself about?

49. What do you lie to other people about? Why?

50. What’s the biggest lie you’ve ever told and why?

51. Have you ever had your heart broken? Write about this time in your life.

52. Have you ever broken someone else’s heart? Was it unintentional or intentional? Write about this.

53. Do you ever find yourself manipulating people in an attempt to protect yourself?

54. What’s a question you had as a child that you never got a real answer to? Do you have that answer now?

55. What is something that you’ve always wanted to confront someone about? Why haven’t you? Do you plan to? Why?

56. What is the meaning of life to you?

57. What was the last argument you had about? Was it resolved?

58. How do you feel about confrontation? Why do you think this is?

59. Do you ever have physical reactions to emotional feelings? Write about these. Why do you think this happens?

60. What’s your favorite way to self-soothe? Describe your perfect self-care day.

61. What family patterns am I repeating? 

62. When was the last time I truly felt at peace? Where was I? Who was surrounding me? 

63. In what situations do I feel less than others, equal to others, or better than others? Why do I feel that way? 

64. How do I define failure? 

65. What has been my biggest personal failure and why? 

66. When was the last time I felt jealous of someone else? What do they have that I want? 

67. What is your ultimate dream? Are you currently living your dream? What steps can you take to make it happen?

68. What is your favorite book of all time and why? Movie?

69. Are you doing what you love for a living? What is your dream job?

70. Make a list of 10 things that make you smile.

71. What do you wish you could do everyday?

72. Write down your own bucket list.

73. Write about someone who inspires you.

74. What’s an embarrassing moment you can look back on and laugh now?

75. List 10 of your favorite things, can be anything.

76. Write down your top 10 travel destinations.

77. How do you spend your time alone?

78. What are you the most grateful for in your life?

79. Do you care what other people think of you? why?

80. What excites you about the future?

81. What are some new hobbies you would like to try?

82. How do you want to be remembered?

83. What do you want to accomplish today and tomorrow?

84. What is your favorite song and why?

85. What motivates you?

86. What are your top priorities in life?

87. What are 5 physical features that you love about yourself?

88. What gift do you think you were born with?

89. What holiday or event do you look forward to every year?

90. How would you describe yourself to a stranger?

91. What life lessons have books taught you?

92. Which fictional character would you most like to be, why?

93. What is your favorite place?

94. Is there anything that has changed your outlook on life?

95. Can you keep a secret?

96. How would you change the world?

97. Are you good at organizing your time?

98. What would you do if you could travel into the past?

99. Where in your life do you need to be more fearless?

A new year can sometimes feel like a lot of pressure to make big things happen! But you don’t have to make big plans or resolutions if you don’t want to! Live your life the way you want, and make changes at a pace and style that works for you! 💛

Lo'ak: Sure, but I don’t see how changing your name is gonna help.

Neteyam: Can I still be Neteyam?

I have been awake since before the breaking of the first silence.