ABDL 24/7 : Is it the right thing for you?
Previous Daddy tips posts below :
Daddy tips - 1 - ABDL : How to make your little crave for their diapers (click here!)
Daddy tips - 2 - Diaper Chart : How to keep your little obedient and motivated (click here!)
Daddy tips - 3 - Baby food : A gourmet journey (click here!)
Daddy tips - 4 - ABDL : How routine makes it work ? (click here!)
As a Daddy, I have always wanted to have a little guy and live the 24/7 ABDL lifestyle, with everything it includes. It has now been the case for over a year and a half, and I could not be happier. However, as exciting as this may sound, this is not something to decide overnight. It must be the result of a reflection as it comes with big pros and big cons. Here are some of my thoughts as a — now — experienced 24/7 Daddy, to help you decide if you want (or not) to join this way of living.
First of all, let me tell you that it is very rewarding. A lot of cuddles and cuteness overload. This is something I have been wanting and that I would not like to change for anything. Yet, I also have to be honest and share the cons. Being a caregiver for this little stinker means being constantly available and ready for anything. That’s obviously a lot of work and requires a real commitment. This is also something you must think about long-term. Would you be okay changing diapers 365 days a year? Taking care of baths, meals, dressing-ups, etc ? That’s a lot of work ! It is always difficult knowing if that is something you are ready for before you dive into it fully. I would recommend to try for a full week, and then perhaps two or three to see how it goes and how you feel.
ABDL is either a fantasy, a hobby or a lifestyle and this is where you will be able to draw the line. There is no right or wrong answer, simply what corresponds to you the best.
Remember to take time for yourself, as a caregiver. Early bedtimes for your little one are a perfect way to do this and fit ideally in their schedule!
Of course, there are both sides of the story here and both need to be taken into account. Therefore, make sure to have open conversations with your — maybe — future 24/7 little one. Set boundaries, expectations (that’s where rules may enter the discussion), limits, etc. That way, you may even discover aspects of ABDL that you had never have heard of, and find your own balance. There’s no perfect way to live this life, this is your own to make, however you want it to be.
During these conversations I personally set everything I was expecting from my little guy, including all aspects of his new life and checked if that sounded good to him. (Believe me that the bulge in his padding was an answer on its own 😉). I was an active listener to hear his ideas and wishes but remained firm, since Daddy knows best after all, am I right?
Hot topic right here ! Once again, there is no model to follow. To each their own situation. There’s no judgment to have on anyone regarding this. It all depends on your personal preferences and opportunities and should not prevent you from enjoying ABDL. However, this is something I must talk about, since I have gotten a few questions about that in private.
Living ABDL 24/7 is expensive, there’s no doubt about that. Diapers only are a big part of the budget. Baby usually goes through an average of 3 diapers a day, sometimes 4 which is about a 100 diapers a month (more or less). As you can imagine, that is a considerable budget. This also comes with additional expenses for wipes, powder, diaper plastic bags, etc.
To that, you can add everything else you may want to include to your life : Baby food, baby clothes, bibs, bottles, toys, accessories.
Another question, still related to money, also comes up often : does Baby work?
Well, that’s been the center of many conversations but eventually, the current answer is no, baby does not work. There are several options to make full-time ABDL work : partial job, fully remote, self-employed from home. I have personally decided that my little one will not be working as it is not a need and this is something he has agreed on. Make sure to think this through and see your options there.
Working does not mean 24/7 ABDL is impossible! It might just mean adjustments need to be made.
You may have guessed that being 24/7 ABDL does not mean staying at home 24/7. Of course, you must also think about what you will do about going out. This is up to you but keep in mind that ABDL can be a sensitive topic for some people and that this should be kept private. There’s no wrongdoing in this lifestyle but this is not something other people need to be involved in.
As a result of this, my choice has been to keep Baby diapered when we go out, with a onesie under his clothes at all times but generally covered by dungarees or jeans and a sweater to keep it as neutral as possible (nothing too big boyish though!).
If a change is needed outside, which eventually happens once in a while (even though it’s been more and more frequent recently…looks like someone is now trusting his padding 100%), there’s always somewhere hidden available or a public restroom. I quickly became an expert of standing-up diaper changes, which is not an easy thing!
Probably one of the toughest elements to control when it comes to 24/7. Baby and I do not live close to family members, so this issue does not come into play.
When it comes to friends, I have two ABDL friends who are absolutely aware of the situation (and even come babysit Baby from time to time, but that may be for another post! 🤫). When it comes to the rest of our friends, they are not aware of our lifestyle but I think I do a great job at hiding my little guy’s padded bum.
To finish this post, I would like to remind you that this lifestyle is clearly not suitable to everyone and that’s OK. Why not try other options such as weekends only, evenings/night only, once in a while, or even one week a month? Possibilities are endless and you should not define your options to 24/7 only and get discouraged if you cannot reach that goal for any reason.
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