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Please make me aware if you are to attend so I know how many mini cupcakes to make

They showed up to the restaurant and were greeted by a plump woman with curly black hair tied back in a pony tail, and a kind smile.

“Hello! Welcome to unspecified restaurant, where all of our menu options are vague, but our romantic atmosphere is apparent! Do you have a reservation?”

“The table is under ‘Man’, table for two.” The fuck man says, a smile on his face in anticipation of a date night with the love of his life, celebrating five years of marriage.

“Yes, table 69, for the lovebirds, follow me!” She replies, seeing their adoration for each other.

It was a small, secluded table in the corner of the restaurant, just like the one on their first date. The waitress came over and asked their orders in short order after that were seated. The waitress left and the dish man directed his attention to his husband, watching as the waitress walking away and looking around the restaurant, his side profile casting shadow in the low lighting, the dish man started admiring it. The soft curve starting up at his ear, sloping down to make a strong yet soft jaw, slight stubble showing in a 5 o’clock shadow, the way his nose had a slight bump in the middle, the way his eyes glittered with happiness, his wonky dimples as he smiled, the way his hair fell, the dish man knew that this was the love of his life, and was astonished that this seemingly perfect man for him chose to be with him over everyone else. At that moment the fuck man turned his head to face the dish man, catching him staring, but instead of getting mad, he just smiled a soft, loving smile.

“You thought you could get away with staring that easily?” The fuck man asked,

“Well i just cant help it darling, you’re the one who chose to be stunningly handsome~” he replied, a mischievous smile tugging at his mouth.

“I can’t believe its already been five years with you as my husband, time flies, and i savour every moment I’m with you” the fuck man says, changing the topic, he loved when his husband stared, he always knew because the dish man is not a sneaky man. he feels that stare very morning they wake up together, he feels that stare every time they sit in comfortable silence, he feels that stare when he’s raving about his interests. He loves that stare, the full undivided attention from his lover. His one and only. His other half. His soulmate. He meant every word of what he said earlier that afternoon, he loved the dish man with his whole heart.

“You, my love, are sappy” the dish man replies, snapping the fuck man out of his train of thought,

“I’m sorry for public ally showing my affection, i shall be burnt at the stake tomorrow morning!” The fuck man jokes, the dish man and him share a laugh.

“Hm, i shall let it slide this one time, but you are on thin ice, peasant!” The dish man says after he recovers from laughing, as he leans in for a kiss, the fuck man places a finger on his lips causing him to open his yes and see the fuck mans smirk,

“I thought we just agreed no public affection?”

“Well that’s a stupid rule and I don’t agree with it” the dish man pouts, his mouth still pressed against the fuck mans finger.

“Well i guess the rule has been overruled now, because i agree” the fuck man says as he removes his finger and replaces it with his lips.

They share the kiss for a few seconds, but to them it feels like an eternity, sharing an existence together, the spark from that first date turned into a flame burning hotter than ever. The dish man moves his hand to his lovers cheek, caressing it lovingly, like it’s the most precious thing he’s ever held, and will ever hold. The fuck man parts his mouth and the deepen the kiss, tasting each other, loving each other. They part, but the dish man keeps his hand there, and the fuck man tilts his head into it, treasuring his husbands touch.

“I have one steak with a side of mash and one salt and pepper squid, is that you gentlemen” the waitress suddenly says, shocking both of them out of the moment they were just having.

“Oh, uh yeah that’s us thanks.” The dish man says, flustered but proud. The waitress leaves and they dig into their food, the fuck man admires the delicate way the dish man eats his steak, cutting it up into smaller pieces to chew and bringing them to his mouth, not leaning over and ruining his posture.

They finish their meal and head home, leaving a generous tip to the waitress.

“That was quite a nice date my love, thank you for the past ten years of this. Of us. You are my one and only, and I could not be more grateful.” The fuck man says after a pause, thinking over his life with the dish man so far.

“I love you. With all my heart.” The dish man replies,

“I have a surprise for you waiting at home darling, I think you’re going to like it.” The fuck man says after a moment, the dish man doesn’t reply but he speeds up a tiny bit, he couldn’t wait to see what his love had gotten him.

*these are all either my general observations or what I've experienced, I did fact check the scientific things but its mostly from what I’ve noticed

(TW: mentions of sexual assault, rape and pedophilia, and just me generally raging about society (I do that a lot))

All throughout history, women have been compared to each other. Whether in looks, personality or riches. This has created societal structures and has made women feel lesser of themselves for centuries because of beauty standards that are impossible to keep up with and expectation in their life. Feminism as a movement has always fought for women to have equal rights and to have these expectations abolished.

Women have had body standards forced upon them because of what's been considered “beautiful” at the time. The thing about this is that those body standards have been constantly changing, for example, in ancient Greece it was admired to have soft curves and a round face, whereas in the 2000s it was popular to have a straight, skinny body and sharp features, these have changed even more in recent years to a skinny waist, larger hips and large breasts with an angular yet soft look with ‘airbrushed’ skin. These recent beauty standards have been genuinely impossible to reach without either a high metabolism or an eating disorder. This is pushed to the extreme and women are seen as lesser if they can't fit these standards, an example is Ariana Grande, as of this year (2026) she is unhealthily skinny and her bones are visible. This also brings up the argument of her being a small woman with youthful, almost childlike features. Lately on the internet theres been a rise in the sexualisation of younger girls, and a rise in general pedophilia being acceptable in society. This is not only morally wrong but also genuinely disgusting with the rise of AI and the rise of child porn because of this AI getting too advanced.

All of the dangerously skinny women being put on a pedestal in the media also creates a rise in eating disorder culture. More young women feel pressured to starve themselves or purge themselves of food and nutrients all to fit this impossible beauty standard that wasn't meant for them. Out of all of the women and AFAB (assigned female at birth) people I've asked, almost all of them, no matter the age, have said that they felt that they need to be skinnier. This has lead to a slow rise of an epidemic of women either starving themselves until serious intervention is needed, or suffering from serious mental illnesses that lead them to suicide.

All of these social standards and expectations surrounding looks have been mostly brought upon by men making women feel undesirable. It is always seen as important for women to be seen as desirable and wanted by men, gender as a whole is in and of itself a social construct that was originally based on biological advantages but it has now evolved into a disgusting amalgamation of extremes despite gender itself being an extreme. Gender isn't a straight line of a spectrum, its a colour wheel of infinite size and colour with all different genders and feelings surrounding those genders, the idea of gender most people were raised with isn't even correct biologically, intersex people have always been forgotten in conversation surrounding gender, which has lead to most people being uneducated with naturally leads them to be defensive to anything unfamiliar, which is the root of transphobia, homophobia and general bigotry.

Its because of this lack of understanding and lack of education that has led to a profound uproar in the ignorance of today's human race, this is directly the cause of Trump gaining power as the president in the United States, he has genuinely no good opinions on anything, he was very open about not knowing how to run a country, he was a proven rapist and pedophile and people still decided to vote for him despite him not being able to run a country on a basic level. Despite my hate for Trump, this is genuinely relevant. The only people who get into power are the people who reflect the masses opinions, this reflection of hate and bigotry proves that the masses, at least on a low level, are generally bigoted.

The thing about this is, you can’t even blame most people because it's how they're raised and it's rooted in our brains from early ages. This can be seen in any kids section in stores where they have a ‘girls’ section and a ‘boys’ section. Most ‘girls’ toys are dolls, or barbies; ever notice how all of the dolls who reflect grown women are impossibly skinny and white? This reinforces to young girls minds that the dolls are beautiful and therefore they won’t be beautiful unless they are like their dolls. As girls grow up they start to form an understanding of body standards, whether from their family, from school or even from friends.

The amount of little comments about weight that is normalised to fit into everyday conversation is astounding, it encourages them to forcefully change their body and if they don't, then they feel unworthy of love. This is all amplified by sex culture, it's normal to assume that by 18 a woman has lost her virginity, when it's generally not true. This not only makes women insecure sexually, but also actively sexualises teenagers and forces expectations onto them, leading to more young girls being raped or sexually assaulted either by their peers or grown men. Instead of this sexual assault being condemned or new laws being set against it, its normalised. Its considered normal to open up to people you trust and trade stories of sexual assault and rape as a woman and its genuinely horrendous how many people who do this. Women should be able to talk about their struggles, but its simultaneously terrifying and a comfort to know that so many women have experienced the same. Until new laws get introduced than these standards will continue and it wont get any more dystopian for women to be continuously be raped by others.

Throughout history women have been lacking the same rights as men, it’s never been fully equal whenever a legal system has been active until recent history. Only 14 countries have achieved full equality with their rights, despite this fight for women's rights spanning almost a century. This has usually been excused by men being smarter than women and women being emotional during events such as periods or pregnancies. It's been excused by “biological facts” when those biological facts aren’t even true. In fact, women are scientifically proven to be more emotionally intelligent than men, this is ironic because men have always claimed that they are more emotionally intelligent. This again connects to the human race being ignorant, so ignorant to the point of setting an emotional and intellectual divide between two genders of the same species, hate and bigotry isn't wired into our brain chemistry, but us as humans still created it. What we need to find out and what we need to understand in order to turn this around is why humans are suddenly dropping in emotional literacy and why the world is actively becoming a more and more hateful place by the day.

In conclusion, women have had these societal standards forced upon them for centuries. The latest trends of women’s bodies have been centralised around being skinny, unnaturally skinny, this has led to more and more women and young girls developing eating disorders and mental illnesses. The expectations as a whole are rooted in pedophilia and the normalisation of it in recent years. The normalisation of bigotry proves that the human race is declining in intelligence as a whole. Finally, all of these expectations and standards are forced upon girls at a young age because of the gender norms within society being pushed onto things such as kids toys. Its become normalised for women to connect over things like being sexually assaulted because of rape culture being normalised.