Here’s a story from my current place of work. It’s an office environment, so there is a dress code, but basically nobody enforces it. From the lowest of supervisors straight up to the head corporate honchos when they visit, nobody gives a shit. So, I have a friend/coworker there, let’s call her Sandra. One day, Sandra came in to work wearing a tank top with very thin shoulder straps. The rest of the top was pretty modest in terms of neckline and full midriff coverage, but it showed a lot of shoulder. Now, multiple choice: Who do you think said ANYTHING about it whatsoever?
Myself and the others in our circle.
A morbidly obese feminist who nobody likes.
If you answered 1, 2, or 3, I hate to tell you this, but your answer is…
The ONLY person to say ANYTHING about her top - good, bad, or indifferent - was the bitter-ass feminist cow who went straight to HR to complain about it. And yes, I will call her those things, because I have absolutely no respect for her, and neither does anybody else - not even her family, I checked. And once the complaint was filed, Sandra had to change, because there is technically something in our dress code about how wide shoulder straps have to be. Something nobody enforced before and nobody has enforced since. She’s worn the top since then.
And you know what? We DO talk about it now, we DO talk about what she wears now. Sandra and the rest of us have meme’d it for a while now. Anytime she wears anything less than a full sweater, we tease her about her alluring shoulders, and she’ll wag her shoulders and say something like “oh boy, don’t look, I’m just so distracting!”.
I don’t know where people like OP find these men who complain about women being “distracting”, but from my experience, the only people to have EVER bitched about what a woman is wearing are OTHER WOMEN - and it’s usually bitter feminists. Us real, actual, normal men? If a coworker happens to be wearing something revealing or clingy, even if we might find her outfit hot, we’re respectful adults who won’t say anything about it.