James Deen

I see it, the way your body tenses whenever I enter a room. The way you hang on to every word, desperately hoping I’ll tell you it’s time to go to the bedroom. Your heart fluttering anytime I look at you.

Desperate for my touch. Desperate for it not to be over when I blow my load all over your face.

Desperate to please me. To make me cum harder and more intensely. Desperate for me to make you do things you’d never thought you’d be brought so low to even consider.

Desperate for me to let you cum, but desperate for me to make you wait longer. Desperate for my feet, but desperate for me to take them away.

Hating feeling like this, desperate for me to keep it going.

Desperate to suffer for my amusement.

So… no. The socks are staying on and your balls are staying swollen.

You’re normally a very good boy. Don’t do anything like that ever again. Do you understand?

Yes Sir. Sorry Sir.

Go kneel in timeout for 15 minutes and then come back and tell me what you’re going to change to make sure this never happens again.

He will ask you to do things that are inconvenient, uncomfortable, difficult, and you do not want to do. If he is a true Alpha, that you know respects you and takes care of you, you will do then voluntarily. Force is not a tool of an Alpha.

It’s about serving someone because you want to, not because you have to.

In the modern world, the slave does have to submit and surrender but as a slave, it does as is ordered under the control of its Master. If it doesn’t want to be a slave and love as a slave then perhaps it’s more a boy in designation and role.

Gay men have this tendency to make stuff up and change it it goes along. If you want to be a slave of a Master then act and love as one. If a slave can pick and choose what it wants to do then it’s not a “slave”.. period. Be a bit, be a faggot, what ever but STOP this notion that a Master/slave relationship is built on anything mutual. For those of us who are living the true Master/slave life, those who are trying to redefine what it means only works to weaken what mine stands for.

Gay men have serious identity issues and are some of the most temperamental queens i’ve ever encountered.

You either submit and surrender to the control of a Master or you don’t. If I were a Master and the slave started making demands and refusing orders, it’s cut lose. I’d never hurt anyone but many of the things these boys who call themselves “slaves” today aren’t cut out to actually be one. By trying to dominate from the bottom is to say that aren’t online with their Master and should be cut lose. Int he 35 years I’ve been part of this lifestyle the biggest reason these loves break up is the subs inability to commit to his place and wants to call shots and chose when to serve. And when you drill down, it’s not because they were asked to accept poor treatment, rather, it’s because they just didn’t want to.

I saw this quote and I want to discuss it: “Stay focused on the Alpha bulge and you will sink further in your fag mentality.”

Any fag is fascinated with the Alpha bulge, like a poor man driving past a row of mansions on his way to work, he wonders how the people inside must live.

Focusing on the bulge is a way of showing that a sub has respect for Alpha Manhood. It’s an appropriate way of expressing inferiority.

In fact the superior bulge can be the focus of a fag’s existence.

But does someone “sink” into a fag mentality? I suggest that we rise to it.

Consistent service needs energy, focus and determination. You cannot sink into those things - you must rise to them.

Here are some tips on becoming a better bottom that the tops you have sex with may not tell you either out of a desire to not offend or because they get a thrill from telling others that we bottoms cannot handle their cock ;-)

SPREAD YOUR KNEES WIDE. The wider the bottom spreads his knees, the easier it will be while in doggy style. YES! If this is the first position he puts you in, use this trick to get used to his cock. 

ARCH YOUR BACK. This will not only look sexier to him, but also make deep penetration easier and less painful.

PUSH YOUR ASS OUT. This shows the top you crave his cock in your ass. Once he is in, you can push back to the rhythm of his thrusts.

PLACE YOUR CHEST SQUARELY ON THE BED. There is a reason a top pushes your head in the pillow or the sheets. This helps arch your back and push your ass out. It’s visually stimulating, because the focus is now completely on the ass you have presented to the top. The symbolic submission is also a big turn-on to a dominant top.

RELAX YOUR ANAL SPHINCTER. Having adopted the position described in steps 1-4, you should now focus your mind on relaxing your anal sphincter. It may help to remember how you take a dump, because the muscular relaxation is identical. Steps 1-5 should, with practice, enable very deep penetration with little or no pain.

ALLOW DEEP PENETRATION. Once you’ve mastered the previous steps, you may let him spread his own legs wider than yours so he can get more directly above you to pump his cock down and deep, with his balls bouncing off your ass.

REACH FOR HIS BALLS. Many tops find this very arousing, because you are fondling the sacks that produce their sperm, affirming their manhood.

COMMUNICATE. Tell him how much you enjoy having his cock in you. Let him know if you like his scent. Ask him to go slow if you feel pain.

Additional tips may be appropriate to partners who thrive on domination and submission. In all cases, these should be within reason. Both partners must be comfortable with this. Experiment to see what works best.

LET HIM SPANK YOU. A lot of dominant men get turned on by slapping the asses they are fucking, and seeing those asses turn a rosy color.

LET HIM GRAB YOUR HAIR. Another turn-on for many dominant tops.

LET HIM HOLD YOUR NIPPLES OR MAN BOOBS. As he pumps his cock up your ass.

LET HIM CALL YOU NAMES THAT TURN HIM ON IN THE HEAT OF THE FUCK. “Bitch,” “cocksucker,” “fag,” etc. But only when used in a non-derogatory way. This is about breaking taboos (which are charged with emotional intensity) and letting both of you get aroused by embracing your (contrasting) inner natures.

LET HIM CALL YOUR HOLE A “PUSSY” OR “CUNT.” That is, after all, its functional equivalent.

A slave is:

obedient;

respectful;

humble;

submissive;

well-presented;

punctual, and;

productive.

Ground Rules

1. Know your place.  Your Owner, other Dominant men, and all men less submissive than you, are your superiors. Even if you dislike them personally or disagree with what they say, you will acknowledge their superiority at all times.

This does not mean doing anything you are told by anyone, but it does mean raising any objections in a respectful way; check with your Owner if in doubt.

2. It’s HIS decision. You may query an order if you need to find out more information or you need to make sure your Owner knows all the facts. You don’t get to disobey or ignore an order on the grounds that you think you know better. Your Owner always knows better than you.

3. Bulk up, boy. Go to the gym as often as possible, work out hard, take your supplements. The more muscle you have, the more valuable a piece of meat you are to your Owner.

4. Slaves don’t cum. Your cock should be locked in its cage for every moment that it’s practical. Whenever it’s not practical, hands off it! The purpose of all sexual and bdsm activities is the pleasure and amusement of your superiors. You can touch your cock to clean it, put it in its cage, or if told to touch it by your Owner. You cannot touch it to pleasure yourself.

The cage will always be worn when you’re engaged in any sexual activity with another man. The one exception is your current vanilla partner. Even in this situation, you will only orgasm if that is his express wish. You will make it clear that cumming is not your preferred option.

You’ll report any orgasm to your Owner for him to decide if you obeyed this rule.

5. Total. Submissive. Bottom. Firstly, stop all pretence of being in any way sexually versatile. Superiors fuck, you get fucked. You pleasure their cocks with your holes. Secondly, you never, ever attempt to dominate another man. Your fundamental nature is completely submissive - be true to it always.

Your Owner can decide who gets to use you, when and how.

6. Wear your collar. Wear visible evidence of your slavery wherever and whenever possible. The chain and lock should be worn whenever it is unlikely to seriously upset those around you, cause a work problem or place you in harm’s way.

You will wear the chain and lock as a rule, removing it as the exception. You’ll report the exceptions to your Owner for him to decide whether it really needed to be removed.

7. Make it obvious. In addition to your chain, you’ll dress in ways that draw attention to your body and accentuate your status as a muscle-jock slave. If in doubt, go for slutty. When possible, go for fetish. In short, do everything you can to make it easy for superior men to sexually objectify you and identify you as the submissive muscle slut you are.

The exceptions to this are situations where dressing this way would cause undue upset to your friends or family, or risk your employment. Report exceptions to your Owner so he can decide if they’re genuine or not.

8. Slaves have tits. Take any and every opportunity to encourage superior men - both strangers and open-minded friends - to play with them. 

Make your tits grow, but keep them sensitive and supple. Take proper care of them.

9. You will change. You will cooperate with your Owner to change you in physical and mental ways that make you a better slave. Some changes may be temporary, some will not be. You may become a dumb beast fit only for menial labour, sex, pain and entertainment by the time this process is done, never doubt that is a good thing for you to be.

Humiliation public and private, physical trials, hypnotic conditioning, new rules governing behaviour more closely, or more subtle manipulation may play a part. Embrace this process, accept its inevitability - and cooperate fully. Suggest to your Owner anything you think would help make you more humble and less human.

Why Humiliate a faggot?

Humiliation breaks down a faggot’s ego and allows it to accept its rightful place.

Humiliation ensures that a faggot remains humble.

Humiliation shows that the faggot is inferior to all real men.

Humiliation keeps a faggot submissive.

Humiliation purges any sense of equality from the faggot.

Humiliation makes a faggot more obedient.

Humiliation eradicates all pride from the faggot.

Hey sweetie, 

Practice makes perfect, that also applies to oral sex. You say you felt like you were choking, that probably means you took too much into your mouth. Or did he held your head while you were down there? Because boys tend to do that and personally I think that’s very uncomfortable. So if he did that, you could ask him to not do that the next time. 

I also found some tips and tricks you can try the next time!

Build Up To The BJ - Oral Sex Foreplay. Often you may find yourself making your way straight to your man’s crotch from simply kissing him. This is all fine and good. But men actually enjoy foreplay too! This is an blow job tip that many don’t realize. While men love quickies, foreplay makes their orgasms feel a lot stronger and more enjoyable than just 30 seconds in your mouth.So instead of just ripping his pants off and taking him straight into your mouth, start off slower. Try lowering your hand to his crotch, outside of his trousers and gently massage him through his trousers. When you get his trousers off, stimulate around his legs and groin area before you finally take him into your mouth. This bj tip where you build up to oral sex will literally have him begging you to speed up…perfect for building anticipation! 

From The Base To The Tip: At this stage, your man will be very eager to start getting some oral sex from you. This is perfect. This next blow job technique is the perfect way to transition to giving him an actual blow job. Start by taking his trousers/briefs off so everything is easier to access. Gently hold the base of his penis in your hand and then use your tongue to slowly lick it from the base right to the tip. You can try licking from the tip down to the base of his cock too, but often you’ll find it to be a little awkward.Rather than just constantly licking straight from the bottom to the top, try a few variations of this technique. Try moving your tongue from side-to-side as you make your way from the base to the tip. You’ll also find that your man loves it when you pay most of your attention to the top of his member. 

Make It Wet. Making it wet for him means that it’s going to feel a lot more luscious and sensual which means that his orgasm will feel a lot stronger and more enjoyable when he does reach orgasm.If you naturally produce a lot of saliva, then you are off to a great start at making your oral sex a wetter experience. But if you don’t (or if you want to make it even wetter) then you should consider using flavored lube on him. Alternatively, if you want it to taste even better, then try whipped cream or even some syrup.

Not Just In And Out: Now it’s time to actually start giving him a proper blow job. One of the major mistakes that girls constantly make is using the same old boring oral sex techniques over and over on their man, instead of using a little variation. The main blow job technique that is used over and over again is called the “In And Out.” This is when you simply take his penis in and out of your mouth with your lips wrapped around his shaft.The thing is that most guys love this if you use it with other techniques like:Keeping him in your mouth while using your tongue to “Twirl And Swirl” around it, massaging it as you do.Using your tongue to focus on just the head of his penis.Giving some attention to his testicles. You can lick them or take them into your mouth and gently suck and softly squeeze them.

Try the ‘Magic 8 Ball’: Keeping a regular rhythm with your mouth while giving a blow job helps build a man’s orgasm, but to avoid both of you getting bored by endlessly bobbing your head up and down, perform eight shallow sucks, just taking the tip of his penis between your lips. Next, treat him to seven shallow sucks and one deeper one. After that, give him six shallow sucks and two deeper ones, and so on… until he is ready to burst.

Use your hands: If your partner’s penis is on the large side you may find it more than a mouthful. Blow jobs can be difficult to perform on bigger penises but don’t worry - you’re not expected to be able to take it all the way down. A simple trick to blow job success is to use your hand and your mouth together - which will feel good for any size of penis. Use an edible lubricant or your saliva to get things going moving and move your hand from the shaft (bottom) to the tip until he’s really hard. Then add your mouth, taking him in as your hand moves up and down.

No Teeth! Many women want to learn oral sex tips on how to make their bjs better for their man. But very few look for the things they should avoid doing during it. This is critical if you want your man to have a good time.The number one thing that you should avoid when giving your man head is…using your teeth.His penis is obviously very sensitive, so even accidentally grazing it with your teeth can be incredibly painful for him. And for most men, pain is a turn off. If you find that it’s difficult to avoid accidentally grazing his penis with your teeth, then a great technique is to wrap your lips back around your teeth so that they have no chance of coming into contact with his sensitive bits.

Sensitive areas: To make him go weak at the knees, when giving him a blow job linger on the parts of his anatomy that are particularly sensitive - the tip of his penis, his testicles and his perineum - the secret spot between the testicles and the anus. He’ll also appreciate lots of attention around the shaft whether you use your mouth, tongue or hands, some good shaft action will get him closer to blowing his load.

Involving other areas: Oral sex is about using your mouth to maximum effect, on his penis, and other areas too. Try gently (very gently!) sucking on his testicles one at a time. Lightly kiss his inner thighs. Lick his super sensitive perineum (along the line between his anus and testicles). All added together he’ll be totally under your control - a total turn on for you too!

Vary the Motion: Don’t take him in your mouth the entire time for a boring, predictable ride. “Switch from sucking my penis to licking my shaft up and down with only the tip of your tongue,” says Mike, 35. “Then start to suck again, only to stop and tease me with more licking.”

Hot and cold: Blow jobs and oral sex should be fun so if you want to spice it up try playing with temperature and sensations. Temperature play can be fun, so try taking a mouthful of warm tea, swill it around your mouth and swallow then take your man’s penis into your mouth for 20 seconds and suck. Then take a mouth full of cold water and do the same. The difference in hot and cold will feel fabulous for him. You can also try champagne, fizzy water, mint, ice cubes and ice cream for extra unexpected sensations.

Make Some Noise: Enthusiasm makes a big difference, so show him you really, really like it, says Ercan, 28. “Moaning is not only exciting to hear, but it creates a gentle vibration on the shaft for added stimulation.”

Take an Active Rest: Your mouth and jaw might get tired, and that’s OK. Take a break, but to keep things going, touch him in other places to ensure he stays turned on while you stop. “A love bite on my inner thigh or groin area feels amazing,” says Ed, 34. Or keep one hand on him while you kiss his neck or chest for a minute, then return to the action below.

Gagging: Gagging during oral sex isn’t something to be embarrassed about. He’ll think you’re gagging because he’s so massive and if you actually tell him that then you’ll give him one enormous ego boost that he’ll love you for. If you find yourself gagging often then try using your hands as well - see oral sex tip ‘use your hands’

Look Up at Him: Just because you “go down” doesn’t mean you should disappear. Connect with him by looking up into his eyes every now and then

Up Your Intensity at the End: Don’t check out when he says he’s almost there. The more “grand” your movements are at the grand finale, the better the moment feels for him. So grab his butt and pull him closer to you as he’s finishing, or try giving the boys a light squeeze to intensify the feeling.

Ejaculation: When he starts to come, there’s the question of whether to swallow or not. You don’t have to: each to their own. If you find the thought of sperm in your mouth revolting, don’t force yourself to swallow: it won’t make it any less pleasurable for him. Just make sure he withdraws in time. Otherwise let him come in your mouth and then spit it out. Have tissues on hand to either spit into or mop up any spillage. Some men like to come onto breasts, bellies or other parts of their partner but make sure you’ve agreed to this first - it’s entirely your choice. Of course you can swallow too - which brings us onto the subject of taste…

Ejaculation - improving the taste: Some foods and drinks do have an effect on the taste of your guys load. Alcohol, caffeine, recreational drugs and nicotine all add a tang to your man’s semen and make it taste like a bad night out. The day after a binge it’s probably best to avoid blow jobs altogether! Vegetarians have better tasting sperm but too much cauliflower, broccoli and asparagus can have a seriously negative impact - so get your guy to limit these foods if you’re planning to swallow after an oral sex session. Some foods to avoid are obvious - garlic and onions make our breath smell - and add a funky taste to our guy’s semen too thanks to their high sulphur content. If you want to sweeten his spunk try getting your man to eat plenty of fruits that are high in natural sugars - pineapple juice is a winner. Also sweet and fragrant foods and herbs like parsley, wheatgrass, celery, cinnamon, cardamom, peppermint and lemon can all make for a sweet oral sex session.

Sexually transmitted diseases:  When giving (or receiving) oral sex, be aware that hepatitis B, fungal infections and other STDs can be passed on via oral sex and blow jobs. The risk of HIV transmission from performing oral sex is low but it can still happen. If you’re unsure of your partner’s sexual past, use a condom. Mouth infections can also be transmitted via oral sex and remember never to give head when you have a cold sore unless you want to give him herpes!

I hope this helps! But like I said, practice makes perfect. An maybe the most important tip: try to enjoy it yourself and don’t do anything you don’t feel comfortable doing! 

Love, 

-Leen

1. Lose your ego. In this moment, you are a cocksucker; embrace it. You will choke, spit up, and be covered in throat slime. The Man you’re servicing may treat you roughly, even rudely. Accept it. You’re a cocksucker with only one function: pleasing him. Do it without pride.

2. Tease him. Men love teasing and edging at the start of a blowjob. Their balls tighten and the juice within begins to churn in the anticipation of what is to come. Lick the head, especially the underside. Flick it with your tongue. Gently stroke the shaft with your hand every so often. Smile.

3. Eye contact. As you take his cock into your mouth, look up at him. A guy loves fucking holes, but eye contact makes you more submissive TO HIM and tells him that he is your Master.

4. No teeth. Obviously there will be some Men who like teeth running along the shaft of the cock, but that’s rare. Avoid it as much as possible. One trick is to extend your tongue out of your mouth slightly, providing protection from the lower teeth (and also opening the throat) as the cock slides in and out of your mouth.

5. Deepthroat. Not everyone manages to master deepthroating, but this is a skill that can be learned through training. Get a dildo and train your gag reflex. Push yourself. You can improve. Men want deepthroat, and you’re their cocksucker of the moment. Learn it.

6. Don’t forget the balls. A Man’s balls are the most sensitive part of his body. Why would a cocksucker neglect such an opportunity to please a Man or heighten his pleasure? Cradle them in your hand while sucking. Roll them around gently. Occasionally take your mouth off his cock and swirl your tongue over them. One added advantage of this is the more direct exposure to his testosterone-laced musk that concentrates around his balls, which will send you deeper into subspace.

7. No blueballing. Once you start to suck his cock, you’re in it until he squirts his last drop of cum. No complaining about aching jaws or a lack of interest. You’re a cocksucker (remember the first commandment) and you’re expected to do your job TO COMPLETION.

8. Moan and dirty talk. Moaning while sucking cock serves two functions: (a) it tells the Man how much you love the size and taste of it, and (b) the vibrations of your moans rising up from your throat stimulate his cock. You can occasionally tell him how much you love sucking his cock, but don’t overdo it! SHOW HIM you love it with your smiles and enthusiasm!

9. The Man does what he wants. It doesn’t matter what he wants to do, roll with it. He’s the Man and you’re his cocksucker. If he wants to throat-fuck you, fine. If he wants to slap his cock on your face or tongue, don’t object. This especially goes for his cumshot. If he wants to cum on your face, let him. If he wants to cum in your mouth …