SISSY TASK: THE SISSY RESCUE KIT
I wanted to bring this up because my sissy was restocking hers today, as she does at the beginning of every year, and it made me realize something adorable:
A lot of you WANT to be useful to women, you just havenât thought this part through yet, and thatâs okay, sweetie. Thatâs why youâre here. đ
You already know you like the idea of being the thoughtful one. The helper. The sissy who notices things and quietly makes womenâs lives easier.
You just keep imagining it happening SOMEDAY, after youâre braver, after youâre more confident, after youâre âmore of a sissy.â
THIS IS HOW YOU BUILD THAT CONFIDENCE.
âBUT MISTRESS⌠I CANâT CARRY A PURSE YET.â
Of course you canât, baby. NOT YET. And no one is asking you to, until you're ready.
Most of you are still presenting as male in public. Youâre not ready for the questions. Youâre not ready for the looks. That doesnât make you a bad sissy, it makes you a DEVELOPING one. Thatâs why this starts small.
Crossbody bags and sling bags on men are completely normal now. No one blinks. No one asks. And if they do, itâs just, âYeah, I keep my stuff in here.â Simple. Safe. Easy. And secretly... kind of exciting, isnât it? Knowing what youâre REALLY carrying.
WHY YOUâLL LIKE DOING THIS (BE HONEST)
Imagine this: Youâre out with your female friends tonight. She spills something on her dress. Her lash is lifting. Her phone is dying.
You have two choices: you could kindly tell her, "oh, that sucks, I wish I could help," as you begin to feel terrible because your Mistress warned you this was going to happen at some point and you IGNORED her
You open your sissy rescue kit and save the day. You hand her exactly what she needs. She smiles at you like you just saved her life.
âOH MY GOD, THANK YOU! YOUâRE AMAZING!! Do you want me to do your makeup too while I fix mine up? Just kidding, of course you don't! Right?â
Five minutes later, you're wearing makeup, and a man is walking over to hit on her, they leave together, and you go home knowing that YOU encouraged that, simply by coming prepared!
Even if it ends a little differently where all you did was offer her something that helped, you helped, you served, you were a good friend, sissy's role was fulfilled.
From the outside, it looks like a normal male bag. Inside, itâs proof that it goes deeper than that.
A quick note about makeup: some women are totally fine sharing makeup with friends, and some arenât. This part is OPTIONAL.
I personally do not share makeup. It can spread germs which can lead to much worse issues than your eyelashes not being on fleek. As a result, my sissy carries both my brand of makeup for me as a backup just in case as well as a clear version, that they know they will be giving to the other person to have or throw away. They do not accept it back once used. But, it is still good to have imo because it's still going to go to use.
THE SISSY RESCUE KIT (WHAT ACTUALLY BELONGS IN IT)
The part that makes this a sissy rescue kit and not just a regular rescue kit is what goes inside the handbag. The first of which is a makeup bag. You need to separate your breakable mirrors from your power banks, your powders from your car keys, and what better way than a bright pink makeup bag that shows only those you allow, who you really are inside. My sissy has a cute little fuzzy pink makeup bag that goes inside her masculine handbag. It helps her keep a masculine appearance until she's ready to reveal her true self to those she's helping. Your sissy rescue kit is as much about helping women around you as it is about giving you a real world opportunity to express your true self safely and comfortably. It is intended to show you that people tend to react positively when you show them your true self.
A rescue kit is not about excess. Itâs about anticipation.
Every item should answer one question:
âCould this quietly save a womanâs night?â
If the answer is yes and you can fit it, it belongs, but my sissy carries the following:
IN THE MAKEUP BAG ITSELF:
MIRROR & BASICS (THE FOUNDATION)
This is NONâNEGOTIABLE.
If she canât see herself, nothing else works. Look for one that has two mirrors, one standard, one magnified. I like 10x magnification personally, but some like 3x or 5x, so test some out and see what you like. It's also helpful to have a light with multiple settings, that is rechargeable. Again, this is the most important piece in your arsenal, don't be afraid to spend a little to make sure you get one that's going to keep her taken care of.
Tears, smudges, spills, sneezes, donât ask questions, just hand it over. She'll tell you if she wants to, but you're on the clock if that makeup starts to run, hun.
Removes shine without ruining makeup. Quick, discreet, effective. Individually wrapped is required, you will likely not have room to carry the whole package.
This kit is about SUPPORT first, not expression. If it's makeup, it has to be CLEAR, if it's a tool, make it pink girl, just go for it! If she was not wearing pink makeup before, she's probably not going to want to start now.
Disposable mascara wands / spoolies
For lashes, brows, flyaways. Tools, can be pink, need to be individually wrapped for sanitation purposes.
Lets someone touch up without sharing makeup directly. My sissy chooses the finger sized puffs that aren't technically disposable, but individually wraps them herself. Offer to let them keep it if they want, but they are not going to be reused by somebody else.
Cotton swabs (precision tips)
Fixes tiny disasters no one else notices, which is exactly why YOU do. You're not looking for mistakes in her makeup, you are looking for wear over time to help her continue to look as perfect as she did when she showed up. Train yourself to see this and be prepared before they are. Do not substitute for cotton balls, precision tip cotton swabs!
If you include clear makeup at all, it should be:
And only with disposable applicators. Clean equals considerate. Thoughtful equals safe.
HAIR & OUTFIT EMERGENCIES
This is where you're probably going to spend most of your time helping as a sissy. It doesn't seem like much, until you've experienced the worst of it.
Neutral colored hair ties
When the wind, heat, or stress wins. You're looking for black, browns, blondes, white, grey, soft, no damage, those are your key words that are going to score you points. No sissy, we are not going with the rainbow set. Unless you want to start wearing them yourself, we are sticking with natural colors for now.
Straps break. Dresses shift. You stay calm. Look for silver, grey, something that is going to blend in, not stand out. This isn't a crafts fair, this is your friend in a crisis. 19mm is my sissy's go to. Not used as much, but always good to know she has them.
Even if you present your nails in a masculine way, unless you bite your nails, at some point you've had a nail break a piece off. You remember how annoying it was having that small piece of nail broken off and bumping it on things until you fixed it. Now imagine growing your nails out and having that happen, you can't bite them off because that's too short, and they're maybe even painted, the salon isn't open today, but look, sissy's already taken care of it for her. Maybe she'll let you give her a full manicure if you do a good job, would you like that sissy? So, do a good job!
Because sometimes itâs not about looking cute, itâs about feeling OK.
Instant refresh without attention. She doesn't stink, this isn't a hint, it's a, "hey, you want to borrow one? I'm freshening myself up, you can if you want too." Look for individually wrapped deodorant body wipes.
A clean sissy is a helpful sissy. Clean your hands before helping her, you just did something gross, ate maybe, simple but thoughtful.
Spills happen, clean up is easy and efficient. I know a lot of people love the tide pens, and those sorts of multi-use items, but I find that the stain remover wipes are more efficient and appear less dirty immediately after use. When the guy comes over 5 minutes later, her dress isn't still soaking.
Shoes bite. Skin breaks. You already thought of it. Multiple sizes is best, you're prepared for the smallest nicks to the biggest cuts.
OUTSIDE OF THE MAKEUP BAG:
PRACTICAL SUPPORT (THE âHOW DID YOU THINK OF THAT?â SECTION)
I know for a sissy, a lot of it is about looks, beauty, picking up men, but tell me this sissy, say your girl friend wants to finish up her girls night out with you before she goes on a date with this guy tomorrow, but her phone's dead, so she has nothing to add his number to, or maybe she gets flustered by how cute he is and can't remember her own number. It happens. Maybe she doesn't have the same kind of phone as you, maybe she wants to charge something other than a phone, maybe she wants to set her phone down on something so she can watch something or take photos, maybe her phone fell between the seats and she can't find it, he's staring at her, growing impatient, he is SO cute, she CANNOT LOSE him, OH MY GOD, the amount... of STRESS... just thinking about it!!! Relax... sissy's got this, "your phone is at 27...28% and growing, it was under your feet, I pulled up your contacts, you guys have fun!" Ok, maybe that's a bit dramatic, but you get the point. Go for pink on these sissy! Express yourself!
A dead phone is a crisis. Her car dies, she can't call anybody, text, she's lost, she's dead. But wait, you literally saved her life because she was able to charge her phone when you were together. Ok, again, dramatic, but the message behind it is real. If it has a battery, it's going to die, phones, mirrors, headphones, and when it does, it becomes useless. You are useful because you give use back to her belongings.
She has an Android, you got a charger for that, she has an iPhone, you got a charger for that, anything she has, you're prepared. The cables I'm talking about have multiple ports on the other end so you can plug it into many different things. Look for one that has at least mini USB, USB-C, and lightning ports.
Photos, calls, directions, handsâfree help matters. Small enough to fit in your bag, big enough to set your phone on, most foldable options, fold enough to fit.
Dropped items, dark corners, night situations. LED light in a small package, you can find all sorts, keychain or not, it's up to you what kind, but absolutely pink!
My sissy and I are in the car A LOT together, and she doesn't sleep well if there's noise, so whenever she wants to sleep, she just gives me her earbuds and I listen to music in silence. Then there's sometimes, we'll be in public, at the grocery store or whatever, and I won't want to deal with her for a little bit, so out come the headphones, I listen to a couple songs while I gather my thoughts and we're back to normal. These situations happen less when we're around our friends because I'm not around them as much, so that's why this is optional. I don't think she's ever lent out her earbuds to other people, but she has them if it ever comes up.
HOW THIS ALL COMES TOGETHER
From the outside, itâs just a bag. Inside, itâs reassurance. It's a miracle in a bag. And as you carry it with you everywhere, there will be no situation that you won't have something for, and if there is, you can apologize to yourself and add it for next time.
You donât announce what youâre carrying until it's time. You donât make it about yourself. You just quietly ask, âDo you want help?â
And when she says yes? You hand it over. You step back. You watch her confidence come back. You watch her smile. You smile back as she says yes to that boy that approached her from across the bar. And as they leave, hand in hand, you'll know you had a hand in that too.
Thatâs not humiliation. Thatâs SERVICE. That's confidence. That's a good sissy.
There really isn't a better feeling in the world than knowing you made a woman happy, is there sissy? đ
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