I think that you need to have a certain amount of rule breaking attitude to be the first to do something.
I think that my grandmother didnβt become the first woman race car driver because sheβs the sort of person who thinks that every time you eat at a dining table you need a full table placement. You canβt just bring a plate and fork to the table youβve gotta have like tablecloth, placemats, two kinds of knives, the works. Her mind cannot comprehend a universe where you could just eat a sandwich off of a napkin at the table.
So in the same vein she couldnβt conceive of a woman race car driver because there werenβt women race car drivers when she was a kid. She was like βoh it just wasnβt done back thenβ so she didnβt even try even though that was her dream job.
Anyways I do often wonder how much talent and passion has been lost over the years because thereβs a lot of people out there like my grandmother who canβt conceive of things outside of the established norms. If there had been even one person who pushed her to follow her dreams, she probably wouldβve been a damn good race car driver but nobody did and she wasnβt.
The thing is, Iβm also naturally a rule follower. I can conceive of breaking the rules, but actually breaking them makes me think Iβm gonna get in trouble. Or at least thatβs how I used to be.
There were people in my life who taught me how to question the rules and assert myself and I had parents who encouraged me to follow my dreams first and think about money second.
I got lucky though. Not everybody has people to teach them how to be bold and not everybody is naturally a rule breaker.
So somebody that wanted to be a race car driver became a housewife because she didnβt know that there were already women race car drivers. And she had a fun and interesting life as a housewife but she didnβt do what she really wanted.





















