Staying True to Yourself
Creating an identity may seem fairly easy considering all of the influences present, however maintaining an identity that is true to who you are, not celebrities, is quite difficult. In professor Joanna Lee Williams’ article “Developing Adolescent Identity,” from the University of Virginia, she conveys the many methods of how teens of varying ages might approach the “Who am I?” question. And in the process, Williams provides advice for how to protect and preserve the identity of a teen. The various methods are meant for parents to apply to their kids; however, these can be used by anyone.
By creating an environment that is very caring and accepting of others and their varying identities, it makes it easier for people to be themselves. And when people are comfortable with being themselves, without a care to who might be judging them, it makes it so they don’t try to be someone else. They no longer become susceptible to finding other identities to match with. They will no longer turn to celebrities for guidance for they will have all the support they need with their family and friends. This method allows the teen to be free and to explore the different identities, however if there is a concern that the teen is compromising their morals or doing something that can be considered a risk to their safety, intervention is required. People are meant to be a “sounding board” as Williams calls it, because lecturing can drive the person away. To allow someone to just express how they feel is very simple, requires minimal work, and helps the overall situation between you and the teen. Having a listener can be of great use in that the teen is allowed to figure things out for themselves with the support of people they’re closest to.
Williams’ article so easily conveys the possible solutions to such an issue and proposes how to prevent many teenagers from conforming their undeveloped identity to that of the lifestyle of celebrities. Like many of these teens, I too struggled with finding my own identity through the earlier stages of my adolescence, however with the support from both my family and friends, I realized that it’s acceptable to be weird, to be myself. Before reading this article, I was unsure if there were any solutions to a problem such as this considering identity is very subjective and hard to define. But with this article, I can apply it my life and others can as well.
Citation
Williams, Joanna Lee. "Developing Adolescent Identity." Center for Parent & Teen Communication, 4 Sept. 2018. https://parentandteen.com/developing-adolescent-identity/










