Hello! So, in a weak moment I accidentally let it slip to a friend I was raped mid February. He is forcing me to go to the police, if I dont, he will, he has given me a week and there is only a few days left. Im only 17. I want to leave it in the past and not get authorities involved, however, he won't listen to me. Please help, I cannot sleep and I have thrown up multiple times due to aggressive anxiety over this. How do i convince him to leave it alone? I'm really scared.
Hi my darling, This is such a terrifying situation for you. But please be rest assured that no legal action can be taken against your rapist without you saying so. Your friend going to the police and simply saying you’ve been raped is really anecdotal and without interviewing you etc and having you personally report your rapist, nothing will be pursued. As for your friends actions, tell him you really appreciate him caring about you so much but that he needs to listen to what you want and respect your boundaries. Everyone deals with things in their own way and a lot of people who have been raped never go to the police and that’s okay. Just make sure whatever happens ends up being your choice and really what you want. All my love xx
