Well, uh, aside from the fact that I am a professional academic historian with a PhD in the subject, who has published peer-reviewed journal articles and book chapters on medieval queer history and therefore am NOT actually just talking out of my ass here, here's a reading list if you want to check my homework and/or learn more:
Adams, Marilyn McCord. βTrinitarian Friendship: Same-Gender Models of Godly Love in Richard of St. Victor and Aelred of Rievaulxβ, Theology and Sexuality: Classic and Contemporary Readings (2002), 322β40.
Boyd, David L. 'Disrupting the Norm: Sodomy, Culture, and the Male Body in Peter Damian's Liber Gomorrhianus', Essays in Medieval Studies 11 (1994), 63-73.
Cadden, Joan. βIt Takes All Kinds: Sexuality and Gender Differences in Hildegard of Bingen's Book of Compound Medicineβ, Traditio 40 (1984), 149β74.
Campbell, Emma. Medieval Saints' Lives: The Gift, Kinship and Community in Old French Hagiography (Woodbridge: Boydell & Brewer, 2008)
Cottier, Jean-FranΓ§ois. ββVitium contra naturamβ: sexualitΓ© et exclusion dans le Liber Gomorrhianus de Pierre Damienβ, Cahiers du Centre d'histoire mΓ©diΓ©vale 4 (2007) 127β43.
Davis, Stephen J. βCrossed Texts, Crossed Sex: Intertextuality and Gender in Early Christian Legends of Holy Women Disguised as Menβ, Journal of Early Christian Studies 10 (2001), 1-36.
Diem, Albrecht. βTeaching Sodomy in a Carolingian Monastery: A Study of Walahfrid Straboβs and Heitoβs Visio Wettiniβ, German History 34 (2016), 385-401.
Easton, Martha. ββWhy Canβt a Woman Be More Like a Man?β Transforming and Transcending Gender in the Lives of Female Saintsβ, in The Four Modes of Seeing: Approaches to Medieval Imagery in Honor of Madeline Harrison Caviness, ed. by Evelyn Staudinger Lane, Elizabeth Carson Pastan and Ellen M. Shortell (Farnham: Ashgate, 2009), pp. 333β47.
Elliot, Dyan. The Corrupter of Boys: Sodomy, Scandal, and the Medieval Clergy (Philadelphia: University of Pennsylvania Press, 2020).
Holsinger, Bruce. βThe Flesh of the Voice: Embodiment and the Homoerotics of Devotion in the Music of Hildegard of Bingen (1098β1179)β, Signs: Journal of Women in Culture and Society 19 (1993)
Jones, Christopher A. βMonastic Identity and Sodomitic Danger in the Occupatio of Odo of Clunyβ, Speculum 82 (2007), 1β53.
Lochrie, Karma. βMystical Acts, Queer Tendenciesβ, in Constructing Medieval Sexuality, ed. Karma Lochrie, Peggy McCracken, and James A. Schultz (Minneapolis, MN: University of Minnesota Press, 1997)
Masson, Cynthea. βQueer Copulation and the Pursuit of Divine Conjunction in Two Middle English Alchemical Poemsβ, in Intersections of Sexuality and the Divine in Medieval Culture: The Word Made Flesh, ed. Susannah Mary Chewning (Aldershot: Ashgate, 2005), pp. 37-48.
Matter, E. Ann. βMy Sister, My Spouse: Woman-Identified Women in Medieval Christianityβ, in Weaving the Visions, ed. Judith Plaskow and Carol P. Christ (San Francisco: Harper and Row, 1989), pp. 51β62.
McGuire, Brian Patrick. βLove, Friendship, and Sex in the Eleventh Century: The Experience of Anselmβ, Studia Theologica 28 (1974), 111β52.
McGuire, Brian Patrick. Brother and Lover: Aelred of Rievaulx (New York: Crossroad, 1994)
Mills, Robert. 'Gender, Sodomy, Friendship, and the Medieval Anchorhold,' Journal of Medieval Religious Cultures 36 (2010), 1-27.
Morris, Stephen. 'Where Brothers Dwell in Unity': Byzantine Christianity and Homosexuality (Jefferson, NC: McFarland, 2016)
Olsen, Glenn W. Of Sodomites, Effeminates, Hermaphrodytes, and Androgynes: Sodomy in the Age of Peter Damian (Toronto: Pontifical Institute of Mediaeval Studies Press, 2011)
Pugh, Tison. βPersonae, Same-Sex Desire, and Salvation in the Poetry of Marbod of Rennes, Baudri of Bourgueil, and Hildebert of Lavardinβ, Comitatus 31 (2000) 57-86.
Roden, Frederick S. βAelred of Rievaulx, Same-Sex Desire and the Victorian Monasteryβ, in Bradstock, A., Gill, S., Hogan, A., Morgan, S., eds., Masculinity and Spirituality in Victorian Culture (London: Palgrave Macmillan, 2000), pp. 85β99.
Scanlon, Larry. βUnmanned Men and Eunuchs of God: Peter Damianβs Liber Gomorrhianus and the Sexual Politics of Papal Reform,β in New Medieval Literatures, vol. 2, ed. Rita Copeland, David Lawton, and Wendy Scase (Oxford, 1998), 38β64.
Schibanoff, Susan. βHildegard of Bingen and Richardis of Stade: The Discourse of Desireβ, in Same Sex: Love and Desire Among Women in the Middle Ages., ed. Francesca CanadΓ© Sautman and Pamela Sheingorn (New York: Palgrave, 2001), pp. 49-83.
Spencer-Hall, Alicia, and Blake Gutt, eds. Trans and Genderqueer Saints in Medieval Hagiography (Amsterdam: Amsterdam University Press, 2020)
Znorovszky, Andrea-Bianka, ββAve Mari(n)a!β Representing a Cross-Dressed Saint in Fourteenth- To Sixteenth-Century Italy/Venice: Influences, Models, and Patterns of Female Sanctityβ, Medium Aevum Quotidianum, 69 (2014), 45-62.