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an independent, private, selective, &. low activity sombra from overwatch written by andy. previously est. 2021. this blog is primarily a character study of sombra with a heavy focus on worldbuilding and character development from the ground up. extremely canon divergent with a heavy headcanon focus. worldbuilding &. affiliation with #headlyne & #spec08. beta editor only!

        ...ESTABLECIENDO CONEXIÓN, @spec08 .

oh dude she is so toxic to be in a relationship with… not in a verbally/physically/sexually abusive way but in the way that she'll know everything about you and you'll know nothing about her. she'll disappear on you without a word for weeks, months, years before MAYBE reappearing like nothing happened. she'll ghost you and then come back when she needs something from you. sending you so many thoughts and prayers if you decide you want to be in a serious relationship with her. everything is casual and short lived. there's past partners who think she died because she had to kill off that alias. even if she wants to stay she's going to leave out of fear that the relationship will go into a more serious direction. it's BAD. now is this fixable? it really, really depends on who you are and how much she loves you. generally i would say no but if this is a situation where she's fallen HARD for your muse and now is in the predicament of going to them despite her better judgement and leaving when she knows shes going too far? it might be salvagable. you can not be nice to her about it, you literally have to hold her down and tell her you wont do this anymore if she keeps leaving. if she cares THAT MUCH… she'll make the effort. you really gotta drag her kicking and screaming thru this shit if you want to bag her once and for all. AND there's still not a guarantee.

        ...ESTABLECIENDO CONEXIÓN, @tlacehualli .

WHAT ARE SOME SIGNS THAT SHE'S HAS FALLEN FOR SOMEONE?

these r funny as hell to me because her signs are honestly kinda cute until she realizes whats going on and disappears.

one of the biggest ones, mentioned in this post, is that she'll go out of her way to spend time with you outside of general social events, sex, etc. if sombra is starting to hang around you more often in casual settings just to chat about shared interests or do mundane shit with you? that's a huuuge tell that she's interested in you past her own personal gain. however, it's not going to be as obvious to the receiving party because she has a way of making everything she does feel genuine even when it's not. is she asking you about your job because she's actually interested in your day or because it's something of interest to her OWN work? that's the tricky part to figure out here. if it's the former, then you got yourself a gal who might be falling for you.

if she's showing an increased interest in helping you with small things like cleaning up with you, making you food, doing you little favors without asking for anything in return, then that's another big tell. sombra's extremely transactional with her assistance and often won't even tell you that she's expecting something in return until she reappears and reminds you of what she did to help YOU. that makes this another big tell thats hard to figure out. it is a bit easier to tell than the first one because if her assitance is more domestic (cleaning, cooking, grabbing stuff for u) then it's way less likely to be used against you later.

big sign that tends to happen if she's in deep is that she drops the mental illness mask a bit. her quips and jokes become more toned down and while she's still talkative, she doesn't feel the need to fill the silence as much. comfortable silence is dangerous for her. the exaggerated snarky bastard side of her becomes more subdued in private with the person in question. it's absolutely still there and she's always going to be an annoying bastard but a lot of that is amped up in public to come off more charismatic and funny.

        ...ESTABLECIENDO CONEXIÓN, @tlacehualli .

IS SHE SECRETIVE ABOUT HER ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS?

is the sky blue? holy SHIT is she secretive about her romantic relationships. she's secretive about her platonic ones. she's secretive about her enemies. she's secretive about her fuckin BIRTHDAY. on a more serious note, the answer is an absolute yes. even if she hypothetically was with somebody for years, married with children, the whole works? she makes sure most people have no idea what her love life is like. that's a huge weakness that she does NOT need exploited. if you asked anybody about her relationship status you'd get a different answer everytime. just give it up.

        ...ESTABLECIENDO CONEXIÓN, @headlyne .

WHAT'S HER LOVE LANGUAGE?

if you asked her she'd probably say physical affection or receiving gifts. these ones are generally less intimate to her since it's easier to brush off as something casual n superficial- she's never going to say no to a gift and she's pretty affectionate n touchy as a whole. acts of service is just fine. not bad, not great, just fine. you'll get a thanks out of her if you help her out at least and she might return the favor. words of affirmation don't really mean anything to her. compliments and all that are always accepted and they're a good brush to her ego but they ultimately go in one ear and out the other. despite how avoidant and distant she constantly is, her ACTUAL love language is quality time. she does not know that this is her love language and would deny it if you accused her of it. if she's going out of her way to spend time with you without the intention of sex or information then that's a huge tell that she genuinely likes you. sombra acts like an idiot on purpose often and doesn't show off how intelligent she truly is so being able to talk about all that nerdy bullshit with somebody who's similarly on her level and spending time doing stuff with them (or even just by them) hits the fuckin SPOT for her even tho she doesnt really realize it.