i am rati

What time is it, you ask?

Time for your feeding.

To my now thousands of followers.  I love that there’s so many pegging fans out there!!  I’ve gotten lots of mail and messages with similar questions, so here’s some information about me:

I’m in my mid-40s and live somewhere in the mountains of the western US.

I’ve been into pegging sex since 2008.

Yes, my avatar picture really is me -- and yes, I do have great legs :-)

I peg him regularly, but I’m generally the submissive one.  We both just really enjoy switching it up at times.  He’s a natural dominant, but enjoys taking a break and finding some subspace (and those prostate orgasms!).  And I enjoy taking the lead from time to time, though it took me a while to get comfortable in a dominant role.  (But now when I put on corset/heels/cock and am holding my riding crop....well....)

We don’t play with cages/chastity.  To each their own - it’s just not our cup of tea.  (Though stories about hotwives turn me on...).  For me, chastity wouldn’t make him any more eager to please me (he’s very obedient if I’ve got the girlcock on), and I can always tie him up if I need more control.  Also, a cage would deny me the wonderful pleasure of playing with his big, beautiful cock (and getting blasted with that yummy hot come!)  

I’m sorry to say I don’t know any magic way to make a woman peg her man, get her into pegging, etc.   All I can say is communicate and be honest with your partner about your wants and needs.  Having a solid, trusting relationship where you treat your woman right in all aspects of life is probably the best start IMO. My man treats me so well -- physically, emotionally, intellectually, domestically, sexually -- that my desire to please him goes through the roof.   And you have to accept that it may be a hard limit for some.

What are some pegging ideas? -Send naughty texts all day about strapon play, then come home for a session.  Have him waiting and ready.  Something deliciously naughty about coming in, strapping up, and taking him.  Bonus points for coming in wearing it under a trenchcoat.

-When out in public (parties are great), constantly whisper teasing things about strapon play into his ear.  Watch the arousal on his face and in his pants. You’ll be dying to get home...

-Wear your strapon while watching TV.  Get head and other pleasures during commercials while the heat builds. I love wearing it under a naughty schoolgirl skirt for this game. 

-Before a girls’ night out, go to town on him femdom-style.  You’ll have great flashbacks all evening. 

-Say nothing, but fuck hard and make him talk about how much he’s enjoying it the entire time.

-You fully clothed, him fully naked nicely enhances the vulnerability/control aspect.   

-Have a big “fight” - get angry, push and shove, wrestle.  Have makeup strapon sex.  My aggression level skyrockets when we play this little game.

-Make a pair of naughty, too-short cutoffs from some old jeans.  Put on some high wedges, a sexy top, and wear the strapon so through the fly.  Find a full-length mirror for some sucking and fucking -- the visuals are amazing!

-Pegging in front of a bunch of mirrors with him blindfolded.

-Film a session, then have him watch it and masturbate over facetime when you’re apart. 

Finally, yes, we may post anonymous pics/video of us someday...you’ll just have to keep following to find out....

Keep your kink on!

-Rati

Thank you!  The blog is such fun.

If you are first timers, my tips would be to read up as much as you can about toys, prep, methods, etc., then to have fun with it, go very slowly at first, have lots and lots of foreplay on him with toys and hands before you take him for a ride, and communicate openly.  Talk, talk, talk while you’re doing it. 

If you are wanting to kick up the feeling of being in charge, my tips:

-Make a day of it.  If you’re ready for pegging and have such a sexy blog, I’d guess you know how to turn each other on.  Spend the day getting turned on, but with a focus on things that please YOU.  Have him do little things or tasks (both sexual and non-) to your satisfaction.  Remind him he’ll get pegged if he pleases you.  We both find anticipation so exciting.  I also like to make him masturbate for me sometime during the day if we’re planning a pegging for that night.  You clothed in some hot shoes and stockings, him naked.  Again, remind him if he doesn’t do it to your satisfaction, no pegging later.  The more turned on you get during the day, the less apprehensive you’ll be when the moment comes. 

-  Blindfolds are incredible.  We used them a lot at first to overcome apprehension.  Having him blindfolded made me WAAAY less self-conscious to watch, give him instructions, talk dirty, etc.  I still blindfold him often.

-Spend some time alone wearing your strapon before you peg him. Get used to wearing it, the feel of it, the look of it and you won’t feel as apprehensive.  Wear it around the house, lie in bed and play with it, masturbate with it on, play with it in front of a mirror.  I still wear mine around alone, and i find that seeing it and thinking of what I’ll be doing to him with it makes me wet and horny and the more horny, the less apprehension. 

Thanks for the compliment, I’m glad you like my blog.

Except for one time when we played in a foreign country with a sex professional, we are a monogamous couple.  While we love group sex fantasies (I love two-women fantasies, and he loves the fantasy of being strapon spit-roasted), we know that, for us, making them a reality would likely lead to lots of unforeseen issues, emotions, etc., and we don’t want to jeopardize what a great thing we have. 

As to the question on using a larger strapon, it varies for me.  There’s no question that when I’m in the mood to put on my leather corset and thigh-high boots and use my riding crop, I love seeing that huge Outlaw hanging heavy between my legs.  And there’s no question that seeing him take such a huge cock all the way inside is incredibly exciting.

That said, I can’t fuck him very hard or as fast with such a huge tool.  And as readers of my blog will know, I’ve got a fetish for him deepthroating, and my Outlaw is just too big for that.  Seeing him repeatedly take my eight-inch cock all the way down his throat, then take it hard and deep in his ass over and over, is sometimes more exciting than the “wow” factor of seeing him slowly take a huge one.

Thank you for the compliment!  I think he IS a lucky guy, but I KNOW I’m a lucky girl.  It’s not all luck.  We both believe in being GGG: 

G is good -- if you’re going to be a lover to someone, be good at it by learning what they like and knowing how to please them.  Communicate openly, but also learn from other resources about how to please your partner.

G is giving -- Be a giving partner.  Give them what they want, when they want it, as much as possible.  Of course you wont always be on the same page all the time with availability, how horny you are, etc.  We’re both still damn hot for each other, but there are certainly times where one of us isn’t as in the mood as the other...though we almost always oblige when the other has a need for sex. 

Congrats and welcome to the club!  Hope you have lots of fun together!

For me, the feeling has only increased over time.

When we first started with pegging, it was a little bit strange and awkard and funny, because it was so new and different.  In our day-to-day life, I’m very submissive to him and he’s a dominant alpha male, so it was a little bit hard for me to be the dominant. Now we both love the times when we get to switch. 

Early on, I’d sometimes wear my strapon around the house when I was home alone.  It got me used to having a girlcock, and I started to love wearing it.  Once I’d pegged him a few times, when I was less self-conscious and saw the incredible pleasure he got from it, I started to LOVE having a cock and fucking him.  We talked about everything very openly (communication is so key), so I knew that he loved having me ‘own’ my girlcock and doing all the same deliciously nasty, rough stuff he does to me with his cock.

Early on, we also discovered that role-playing games help enhance the dynamic (secretary’s revenge on boss, cop/prisoner, the ‘casting couch’ with me as the film producer and he desperate for the part, rich woman with boytoy servant, etc), and we still do role-plays sometimes. 

That’s so sweet of you to say.  I feel so lucky to have an enlightened man who’s secure with his sexuality, a strong sex drive of my own, and a very kinky mind. 

Sorry, don’t share photos with anyone other than my man.  We talk about posting a faceless photo of a pegging session, so that might happen someday.

PUBLIC STRAPON

I’ve worn it in public a few times.

Once, I wore it in the car and drove around while he gave me road head and fingered my pussy at the same time.

Once, I wore it to a hotel bar under a dress while we had a drink before going upstairs to fuck.

Once, I wore it to a dimly lit restaurant after a day of skiing.

And I’ve fucked him good in hotel windows, but that’s not really public (though I always hope someone sees).

These days, we use MUCH bigger strapons than we used to, so it would be next to impossible to be discreet.  I use my Outlaw the most these days, and I just don’t think I could hide that!