TW: Ranting about family members/older sister (long)
Sometimes I hate how my sister acts and reacts towards me, my parents and chores.
I'm the little sister, so she often bullies me and gets away with it because I don't fight back. But I'm now learning to fight back, and she's not very happy with me, but it also stops her from bullying me even more, so that's fucking fantastic.
With my parents, she's abrupt and rude, and she often gets away with it because A. My mum knows it's a losing battle to argue with her about her behaviour and B. Either my dad is scared of her, or feels the same way my mother feels.
Either way, no one tells her to stop being rude. However, if I were to speak to my parents the way my sister talks to them, I'd get reprimanded and shouted at. I really hate the double standards.
With chores, I have to still cook, wash dishes, put dishes away, set the clothes and put them away and every other chore there is. My sister hardly washes the dishes, and when she does, it's on a Sunday. She claims that her load is much bigger than my daily load, which is a lie. I still do more than her.
Plus she gets away with not putting away the dishes that I wash, so then I'm forced to do her chores. And again, NO ONE SAYS A DAMN THING ABOUT IT.
Why am I treated like a slave?
Sure, my sister goes to work daily, and straight to the gym afterwards, but that does not absolve her of her chores, duties and respect. Especially since she's working in customer service.
When I have things to do, study or even when I'm having a terrible flare day, I still have to cook, clean, wash dishes and put them away.
How is her work more important that what I'm going through?!
And, my mother made a deal with us: we each have to cook 1 meal a week. Does my sister follow this rule? No fucking way. I end up cooking twice a week, while my mother does the other days.
My mum and I didn't cook today, so my sister came home hungry. I've been busy studying the entire day, plus I had to put away the dishes. She comes home, demands we make something for her to eat (BTW she has a Hospitality degree, so she can cook).
I was busy studying, and eventually I got tired. So i came into the kitchen to tell my mother that I'm overwhelmed, only to find my sister micromanaging my mother while she's making toasted cheese sandwiches. Then when I say I'm tired, my sister immediately says "well then you can help make supper".
That just pissed me off even further, and now I want to throttle her.
You're the one who's hungry, and demanding something to eat, then why don't you fucking make it yourself? And why do you dismiss everything I say like it's just by-the-by?
You would fucking hate it if I had to dismiss your feelings that way. And you know what? That's exactly what I'm going to do now.
You want me to dry your hair? Too fucking bad! I'm tired, so I'm going to sleep. You fucking sleep with wet her.
I am not your slave to boss around and then discard when you're bored.
You need to learn the word "no".
