Xenogenders for the pile

I want to announce a project that I've been chipping away at for the past several months: Otherhome! Meant to be a mix of the two go-to types of platforms the community frequents, blogs and forums.

While I can't publicly showing much yet, I will be putting together a doc showcasing some screenshots and details in the future. For now, the things I have to mention are:

It's visually similar to Tumblr, with a front feed and support for multiple blogs

There's no rigid "main blog controls all side blogs" system like tumblr, meaning there's no restrictions like "only main blogs can comment"

An emphasis is on customizable experience to give people more control over what (or who) they want to see and engage with, and what they don't

freak is an ableist and intersexist slur, and it’s honestly rather triggering to me and others i know. please correctly trigger tag it if you must use it, thank you

freak has been used derogatorily towards groups such as disabled and intersex people for over 200 years. it is commonly defined as “a person, animal, or plant with an unusual physical abnormality” or “a person regarded as strange because of their unusual appearance or behaviour.”, a definition that came around to describe “freaks of nature”, which was commonly seen as people with disabilities, intersex conditions, or other marginalised groups

freak shows literally existed, and still exist, to showcase “freaks of natures” to a paying audience, curious about our “abnormalities”. we were, and still often are, seen as terrifying, and were only socially acceptable as part of these shows

freak is heavily associated with bigotry thoughout the last 200 years, and is still regularly used as a slur, even by those who somehow just think its a quirky insult (its not). it is very clearly a slur, and the LIOM community NEEDS to use it with a lot more care and caution

it is not a quirky word. it is a slur heavily tied to hundreds of years of bigotry, especially towards disabled and intersex people. please consider using other words instead of freak. thank you

I want you to look me in the eyes and tell me that a teenage gamer boy thinks being a boy is more pivotal to his identity than being a gamer. Obviously being a gamer is more important to him! Now, if someone took away from him the fact that he was a boy or attempted to undermine it, being a boy would become pretty fucking important to him. But hey, removing those external factors he might just identify as a gamer.

I feel like neopronouns and xenogenders are our transition (heh) state to that world. It reminds me so much of when they/them started to become popular on tumblr in like 2013 (i'm sure it was before then too, that's just when i got tumblr). Everyone flipped their collective fucking lid, cringe compilations were everywhere, and people cried the death of empiricism and western society. And now I get gendered as they/them, entirely unprompted, by cis people who don't know me.

So much of the criticism I've seen of these identities is that "they're just hobbies!", "that's just your special interest not your gender", or "that's just an aesthetic you like". and, YES!!!! That's the point! All of those things are equally as important to someone's identity and sense of self than arbitrary gender boxes we've made!

Gender abolitionism is a long term goal like any other anarchist principle. I personally like my gender, I like being called a man and referred to as he. Fuck anyone who says I can't. I'd also like for that to not have to be so important to me. I wish I could just be a writer, or someone who really likes the color green, or a gamer.

so, i've been noticing lately that english speakers that don't support neopronouns have been saying stuff like "neopronouns are for americans, no one else uses neopronouns in other languages! they're confusing to non-natives!" and it honestly upsets me SO MUCH, because that's simply not true! neopronouns exist all around the world, and i'm here to speak for hispanic neopronoun users as an argentine myself.

spanish has neopronouns, hispanics use neopronouns! it's not debatable!

spanish does not have an equivalent to they/them, "someone dropped their wallet, if i find them i'll give it back to them" would be "a alguien se le cayó su billetera, si lo encuentro se la devolveré" (someone dropped his wallet, if i find him i'll give it back to him).

so, since there's many non-binary people that felt like they needed a gender-neutral pronoun for themselves, elle/le was invented as opposed to él/lo.

as you may know, a neopronoun is a pronoun that is not official to a language (although some neopronouns may become official), and since elle/le is not official to spanish, it's a neopronoun to us.

and no, this isn't our only neopronoun.

we have others such as elli/li, ellu/lu, il/li, etc. that do not have a translation to english, kinda like how xe/xem, ze/zir, ae/aer, etc. do not have a translation to spanish.

and yes, these are actually used, and not only online: i've had many friends in my country that used these pronouns among nounself pronouns (a friend that used él/ella/elli/quack, another one that used elle/ella, etc.)

so, i've made an il/li/-i pronoun flag!

il/li are pronouns derived from italian, and they're one of the most common neopronouns around here!

[ID: On the left, there's flag with 5 stripes all of the same size, the colors of these stripes from top to bottom are: mint green, turquoise, white, light purple, and brown. The image on the right is the same flag with the color-meanings of each stripe, and from top to bottom, these are the meanings: Mint green - italian origins of the pronouns, Turquoise - disabled and neurodivergent users, White - neopronouns around the world, Light purple - trans hispanics, and Brown - people of color hispanics. End ID]

I, father strange, will be hosting a tumblr show and tell. Please comment or reblog with a picture + explanation of your prized possessions that you would like to share with the class today. I expect to receive so many goblin jars, cursed pieces of Garfield merch, and questionably sourced bones.

my roommate. we met at Walmart (:

questionably sourced teeth, a gift from my dad

an old family photo

my collection of off brand pokemon toys 

my holy rock

a movie poster i made for an art class

bottles covered in crayon wax

once I had a dream i had a pet owl, and it lived on a shelf in my room. now an embroidered owl that i found at a thrift store lives there

First off, we do have a basis of the study. We’re going to be conducting interviews with two groups, one with exomemories and the other group a control group without exomemories. We’re trying to see what the differences between exomemories and present memories are, since we haven’t been able to find any studies on this. However, we’re a bit stuck on what questions are the best to ask.

So, we’ve turned to plural tumblr for help! If you have any suggestions or advice or questions about this, please reblog with them! If you have questions, you can send an ask to me, Jess, and I’ll be happy to answer it as best I can. We’ll probably be sharing any findings we have with the community.

If you don’t have any advice or suggestions, please reblog anyway so that we can get this to more people who might have some advice, so please signal-boost! Anyone can reblog, but we’re looking specifically for those who are plural in any way, and singlets who are well-informed on the subject of plurality. Mainly systems though.

We’re going to be @’ing a few blogs at the end here, who we know and hope will help us get the message out! If you want to be removed from the @’s, please just message me, (Jess).

some uquiz on the site happens to be trolls/exclusionist, so i compiled all genuine uquizzes.

Neopronouns:

answer some questions and I'll give you some neopronouns :) - pics of food and insects, mentions blood

neopronouns but not aesthetic - mentions weirdcore and teeth

Which of my sets of Neopronouns are you? X3

i give you a set of pronouns :)

I give some sets of neopronouns based on your answers

Giving you some of my neopronouns based on your answers - mentions dsmp

Choose Some Pronouns and I'll Give You More Pronouns

make a room and ill give you some neopronouns

Choose Some Pronouns and I'll Give You More Pronouns

U pick things I like and I tell u which one of my xenogenders r u - tw for eating not food things, mentions drowning

pick some outfits and ill give you neopronouns

another neopronouns uquiz! - tws for teeth, liminal spaces, eyestrain, and caps

Xenogenders:

what is gender in the galactian alignment system?

assigning you a specific xenogender for you gender hoarders out there - mentions animal death

tell me your life as a witch/wizard and I'll assign you a xenogender - pic of insects

come get yalls gender <3

which random thing that i associate with gender are you? - eyestrain pics

Which of my xenogender are you?

list is in order of preference