Danmei Heaven

But it meant that we had absolutely no help or support when we were trying to work on the relationship in ways that *did* value my autonomy. There's basically no advice for people who want to try to make a relationship where there's a big desire gap work that isn't "well you should just have sex anyway" or "just break up lol". And that sucks!

Just after giving birth, during a family crisis, during a mental health episode, during health problems, during stressful periods at work

There are a lot of times when one person is horned up and raring to go and the other has no interest

And the solution often presented is that the person who is going through something should just put out because they are the problem instead of like...finding ways to engage in non sexual intimacy to reaffirm closeness

An asexual person is going to get 10x the amount of pressure and blame put on them and no advice on how non-sexual intimacy can help their relationships and if they get that at all it will only be to sell it as a bridge to sex they don't want.

I really hate the selling of intimacy as only equaling or facilitating sex. Intimacy comes in many forms and should be explored more by every couple as a non sexual act. And it the given importance it deserves. In fact I would argue if we as a society put more value on non sexual intimacy more relationships would be happier and healthier

people would stop getting shit

for being themselves.

If any mutuals / fellow hardcore scummies would like some stickers- I have some leftover! They’re nice and prismatic under the sun!

We're gonna pretend wwx used a spell or something so that jc wouldnt drown ᕕ( ᐛ )ᕗ

No, but you really give a great idea

Guilt Lingers. (Jinlan City Pt.1)

[ID: A Scum Villain Comic. Panel one depicts Chibi! Plant! Yuan kneeling down in front of a pedestal containing Luo Binghe's memorial tablet. It is engraved with his name and a lotus. On the pedestal is a pink floral sword tassel and the demonic butterfly that would most commonly follow LBH. The purple demonic butterfly rests on top of SY's head. It then shows SY noticing SJ!Shen Qingqiu's presence behind him and turning his head to face towards him, saying "Oh hello, A-die. This one thought you'd still be at the peak lord meeting." Chibi!SQQ, holding his hand to the door frame and looking off to the side replies "It ended early. This master along with Mu-shidi and Liu-shidi will be heading to Jinlan City to render aid."

Panel two shows Chibi!SY closing off his expression and turning away from SQQ as he says "Ah. This Yuan wishes A-die luck on this mission. Should I warn Ming Fan not to go on any night hunts while you're gone?" SQQ closes his eyes in slight embarrassment/awkwardness as he replies "Ah- Well-" then mumbles "This father wishes..." as he whips out a fan. Chibi!SQQ uses the fan to cover his mouth and he turns away slightly, dropping his hand from the door frame. He states that "Mu-Shidi recommended A-Yuan joins us. This master is inclined to agree."

Panel three shows SY turning more fully towards SQQ with a surprised expression, his eyes widening and bringing one hand up to his chestas he says "Really? A-die's never let me on a mission like this before-" SQQ closes his fan and holds it in both hands as he replies "A-Yuan is older now. And he will be with this master. Unless, Yuan wishes to stay?" Chibi!SY panics slightly raising both hands up in front of him as he startles causing the butterfly to fly off his head as he frantically says "No-! This disciple would love to help!"

Panel four has SQQ giving SY a slight happy expression as he says "Then A-Yuan should go collect his things. We leave first thing tomorrow." Chibi!SY replies "Right!" as he stands up and brushes himself off. Chibi!SY runs past Chibi!SQQ, who is looking at him with a warm smile, as he excitedly whispers to the butterfly flying slightly in front of him "Did you hear that? An actual night hunt!"