Hawaii Spanking

Another naughty young bottom painted pink. (More)

After seeing two different posts stating the opinion that punishment spankings were an ineffective punishment, I decided to write my personal thoughts about it. When Lex and I first started D/s only a few months ago, he decided to try a few different ways of punishment to see what worked best for us. Spankings by far were the most effective for me. Do they work for everyone? Surely not. I’ve read accounts where no matter how hard or long the spankings were, some subs still enjoyed them which made them ineffective. One of the posts stated that they could cause mixed feelings and I see how that could be an issue if that same type of spanking is given for fun. This is not the case for me however. Any time I’ve been spanked as punishment, it has not only held me accountable for my actions or behavior, but also alleviated any of those negative or guilty feelings that usually linger in my head. From the moment I’m told to expect a punishment spanking, reality and the importance of our D/s structure start to sink in. The disappointment in his eyes as he pulls me over his knee, the first smack that always seems to sting more than what I ever remember, to the end where he pulls me into his embrace letting me know it’s over...are all things that are more effective for me than anything else. It’s painful, it’s embarrassing, it makes me feel vulnerable, and more than anything it’s what he knows I need if I mess up. Afterwards I feel disciplined. I mean I literally feel it because my skin is still stinging from the spanking. As he rubs my back comforting me, we discuss why it happened and how to move forward to make sure whatever infraction doesn’t happen again. There are zero mixed signals and if anything my mind is usually more clear than ever. I can definitely understand that it’s not the right punishment for everyone. I’m aware some couples who practice D/s don’t use punishment at all. For us, it’s an important part of our structure, so to see the punishment that’s worked best for us dismissed as ineffective didn’t sit quite right with me. We are new to this and are still learning every day. What I have learned in this short time since we’ve started D/s is that everyone practices it differently and has differing needs. I think it’s important to respect those differences without condemning one or the other. I’m not writing this because I feel the need to defend the way we do things, but because there could be other new couples out there who feel like they aren’t doing things ‘the right way’. Lex and I have learned pretty quick that the only right way is what works the best for you... as long as everything is safe, sane, and consensual of course. ☺️

If spanking is a an effective punishment in your dynamic, use it! Every dynamic is different and only the people within it can decide what’s right for them.

It hurts to sit

One good thing about my g[f] being a brat in the morning, is that I can nip it in the bud