The thing about belittling queer characters for "not being in queer relationships" is, this is legit something people irl face in and out of the community, and have for DECADES. People in the community who are in so-called "passing" or "non-queer" looking relationships have been fighting to be acknowledged as queer relationships. Because they don't just suddenly stop being queer the moment their relationship meets a certain level of heteronormativity. It's the "not queer enough" fallacy in full force. Like with the label queer itself, unless the people actually in the relationship say otherwise, the relationship is queer if at least one person in it is. Because their queerness doesn't suddenly stop existing once it "passes". There's so many nuances that people not in the relationship are not privy to. And to declare that a relationship isn't queer because it doesn't meet a certain quota of queerness is just queerphobia.
Genuinely, that kind of Queerphobia can even be worse than your typical homophobia sometimes since it's coming from within our own community. I'm almost baffled how people who have been on the end of dismissive discrimination can do the same to others. Or how tone deaf some "ally's" can be when they talk down to LGBTQ+ people for not being in the right kind of queer relationship.
It's why the scene of Moxxie talking to his dad is among some of my top favourite moments in the whole series. It's such a simple line and yet it meant a lot for Moxxie to establish "yes I am married to a woman and yes I love that woman more than anything and YES I am still also bisexual".
