Earthly Kindness

welcome star darlings 💫

this is a system positivity blog run by two alters, Blue and Amethyst. being a system can be scary and isolating so this a space where all systems can be free from judgement and discourse.

we believe that endogenic system's cannot exist but we believe everyone is deserving of human kindness regardless of their syscourse stance. This is an endo-neutral blog and endogenic systems are allowed to interact with our posts.

our only ask is that you refrain from starting discourse about our stance. this is not the place for syscourse.

we will create uplifting content about being a system that is based on our own lived experience and our asks are always a safe place for anyone. this is a judgement free blog and we respect everyone's individual journey of healing.

please read below the cut for more information about us, and remember we are proud of you 💜

hey systems. please remember that healing looks different for everyone and regardless of how it is going i am so so proud of all of you.

to systems that are still in dangerous situations and are focusing on stability rather than getting better im so proud of you for being here

to systems that are still struggling to find the right therapist, i know it can be tough to keep trying and i'm proud of you for trying.

to systems that were healing and uncovered traumatic memories, it's okay to pause healing your safety means more than anything and im proud of you

to systems that have started integration between parts i hope it's going amazing and im proud of you for making it this far

to systems that feel they've healed from their trauma you never cease to amaze me and im so incredibly proud of you.

it doesn't matter where you are at with healing, it doesn't matter if you're finished with healing or if you haven't started yet. i'm so proud of every single one of you. you're doing so amazing.

a reminder for all systems.

It's Okay to Hate Being a System

this disorder is dreadful and we all suffer so much because of it. the flashbacks, the dissociative seizures, the dissociation, the amnesia it's all so horrible and it would make anyone hate being a system.

it's hard.. sometimes when you see other posts talking about how they love being a system and how grateful they are when you feel so negative about yours... but it's okay i understand and your feelings are okay.

you might even appreciate your parts for getting through the trauma while still hating being a system and that's okay.

wishing that you never became a system, wishing that you could have had your personalities integrated, that's all so normal and okay to wish. it doesn't mean you hate your parts either you just hate this disorder and the trauma that created it.

this may be a positivity space but one of the most important things about positivity is knowing when it's okay to not be positive and knowing you can let yourself feel negative sometimes.

and even if you hate being a system, you're still here and im proud of you for that.

Statement On Endogenics

hi star darlings 💜

recently we've been getting an influx of hate messages from endogenics and pro endogenics about our blog and our views.

we have the view that endogenics cannot exist. this is something that will not change and something that we'd prefer not to discuss on this account.

however we are all human and if an endogenic relates to our posts and it makes them feel seen and heard, we believe they should have to right to reblog and interact as they wish. all humans are deserving of reassurance and kindness.

we have deleted the past few hate asks we've decided and we will continue to do so. this is not the place for discourse and discussing our personal views. we request you please refrain from doing so and if you do it will just be deleted.

thankyou. and no matter who you are remember we are proud of you 💜

it really can be so scary but I think that's why the positivity is so important.

because it's scary but you're never alone and knowing others also are afraid is comforting.

thankyou

don't ever feel ashamed of your system.

all the parts of your system helped you survive.

they are all the way because they needed to be that way, for your survival, for you to get through the trauma.

i know sometimes it can feel overwhelming when you have parts that present differently from the norm. but it's important to remember that many parts come from a child's mind. a scared child's with an overactive imagination perception of what will help them endure the suffering they can't run away from.

everyone's trauma and the way they cope with it is different, you can't quantify it.

you are the way you are and the parts of your collective self are the way they are.

you have a part that's a thousand year old vampire? perhaps as a child you used books on supernatural beings as escapism from the abuse. perhaps in some way they were comforting to you and maybe you thought if you were one of them you couldn't suffer anymore.

no one on the internet can tell you how to deal with your trauma, no one on the internet will be able to understand how your trauma affects you.

don't feel ashamed of your system and instead, be proud. be proud that you've made it this long.

im proud of you.

hi darling. so im not sure where you got this idea but me and blue don't hate anyone 💜

please stop sending syscourse into our asks, you can go to our hosts blog @imperfectarchives for that. i don't want to turn off anon asks but i will if you continue.

How are you telling an entire group of people who have experiences and exist that they aren't real?

You're not neutral, you're an ANTI-ENDO.

Endo neutral = anti-endo.

Hi honey this isn't the place for discourse.

This blog is a positive supportive place and we have no problem if endo's feel they relate to our posts, and it comforts them. We aren't going to change our views.

Please refrain from arguments in our asks, this isn't the place to do that.

Sometimes we all succumb to the thoughts of "am I faking?" especially when we see the disorder presenting so differently in someone else, as a caretaker I know it well with some members of my system.

So I thought we'd start off with the diagnostic criteria for DID that is in the DSM-5. This is the only must have with dissociative identity disorder.

Disruption of identity that is categorized by two or more distinct personality states.

Recurrent gaps in the recall of everyday events, important personal information, and/or traumatic events that are inconsistent with ordinary forgetfulness.

The symptoms cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social, occupational, or other important areas of functioning.

The disturbance is not explained by cultural or religious practice.

The symptoms are not attributed to the physical effects of a substance (ie alcohol intoxication) or underlying medical condition (ie complex partial seizures)

All of that is pretty standard, you have alters, you have amnesia, and it negatively impacts your every day life and it's not the result of a spiritual practice or substance abuse. That is all the criteria that you need to meet for suspected DID to be DID.

I know that there's a lot of self proclaimed misinformation experts online who bring out a lot of anxiety regarding faking DID. But the truth is a difference in presentation beyond the criteria for DID is not indication of faking DID. It's important to note that DID is severely under researched and even articles in the last 10 years are outdated (such as core theory being disproven semi recently by the theory of structural dissociation).

If you're polyfragmantion, if you have subsystems, if you are introject heavy (fictive and/or factive) there is a reason for it and you are NOT faking for having difference in presentation. The reason all those misinformation blogs don't focus on those subjects is that the research regarding it is very lackluster as the current moment.

The brain is very intricate and your presentation likely could be influenced by commborid disorders that others you see online do not have. Personally we have OCPD and the presentation of OCPD commborid with DID is something we have yet to find any research papers on.

You know yourself better than strangers online. You know your symptoms and your trauma better than strangers online.

Introject Positivity 🔷

factive introjects who introjected from abusers, I know how hard it must be but this is a reminder that you are not your source and you're doing amazing.

fictional introjects from problematic/triggering sources. you are not your source and your source is never your fault. you're doing incredible.

factive heavy systems, being factive heavy does not make you weird in any way. thankyou for continuing to exist, im proud of you.

fictive heavy systems, being fictional introject heavy does not impact your validity and those who may judge do not know you or your trauma. keep being the most authentic version of you, im proud of you too.

and to any system reading this post, im proud of you too. im so proud that you've made it this far and you've gotten through everything that has happened to you. you're so incredibly strong.