make me feel

and it’s true that people should know better and they need to learn how to navigate those parasocial relationships but i think that’s asking too much. that’s why i always put a bit of that pressure onto the celebrity bc they should know better (yada yada i know it’s not fair, i know they don’t need to educate yada yada but i mean come one, society is a fucking nightmare right now).

and in this case with specially hudson, i always get the ick when his pots are too personal, or he tries and give too much. bc people don’t understand boundaries and they will always ask for more. idk maybe im just having war flashbacks bc things i’ve seen in the past in other fandoms, but i just hoped that he was going to lay low like connor and just not give anything away about his personal life.

us as fans, we are not entitled to that. we just deserve what they give us and we shouldn’t ask for more, ever.

you are 100% right in principle that the basic fame contract is: I give you entertainment and I receive your money in exchange. but with the internet and greater access to these people that blurs and sometimes it’s now I give you a part of myself and receive your money and adulation in return. and so it becomes tricky because the self gets lumped in with the art and you become a persona for consumption too. and even looking at it from the celebrity’s pov - in the past you could only get feedback from fans when your album released/movie came out. now they can log onto intsgram every day and get a million tiny serotonin boosts at the small cost of uploading a picture. like I get why that would also be alluring too, despite the negative comments, it’s nice to be liked.

but yes everyone should know better. And like the needing an ‘explanation’ for his relationship is so bizarre because would you ask the same of someone you knew irl?? Would you be bald-faced asking them if their relationship was fake and they were secretly dating someone else? no, you’d gossip and side eye with your other friends and wait patiently for them to tell you what was going on (if anything was).

(Matt just called ben one of the loves of his life and told zendaya in an interview segment it's been a 45-year friendship. I could cry.)

or if you told me 13 years ago harry styles would be engaged to zoe kravitz and louis would be dating someone off love island 🤣 so yes I have learned my lesson with regards to expecting or trying to predict things with famous people haha

true, I think the fame of it all is a huge factor here, because obvs there are people who meet at 19 and stay together forever but probably it's because they get to learn and grow together through the same phases of life. whereas there is this obvious huge imbalance now (with hudson/katelyn) where his life is now massively different to hers and that will not ever go back to how it was, and he needs to spend some time figuring out what kind of fame he wants/can have. equally connor has to do the same but it's 'easier' for him in a way because he doesn't have someone else to keep in mind, now whoever he dates will always only know him as 'heated rivalry's connor storrie' and he can choose how much/little he wants that to affect it. so yes still lots of learning and growing to do but they're in wildly different phases of their lives anyway so they maybe don't even want the same thing right about now. if you realistically might spend the next 2-3 years mostly away from home is that the time you want to spend building a life with someone? but equally does love/feelings wait around that long? ahhh it's chewy huh

I just spent way too long looking for where I might have seen this and ultimately enjoyed rereading lots of articles, but didn't end up finding it. Hopefully someone else has the receipts? I remember that the actual wording of it was kinda lovely. Unfortunately, I can't remember what the wording was or it'd be so much easier to find!

yeah I agree with you I think naturally there is the urge to romance novelify their relationship and tie it in a 'happy ever after' bow but alas, real life... plus like objectively zoom out and if you were hudson's friend and he told you he was breaking up with his long term gf to be with a guy he's known for like 6 months and ALSO in the middle of becoming insanely famous you might tell him, are you ok bro? do you need a moment maybe to yourself, to absorb? plus like...connor is not around. he is BUSY. and so is hudson! they also live in different countries, who even knows if they would want to date another actor (a lifetime of clashing schedules and watching your significant other intensely bond with other people on set? no thank yewww). and like you say, they really have to capitalise on this moment to build the career they want. they seem like smart sensitive guys (not that you'd know it from how I sandbox them) and spoken like a true avoidant I think the smart thing to do if there are feelings would be to put them in a box. maybe they both hope it'll go away (maybe it will!). maybe they both have sort of agreed let's give this a shot in a year, if we still feel this way. if we're not married by 30...what if we went to vegas... get that green card for you baby.... you can escape to canada when everything goes to shit in the us... what if... ha ha ha...