Normally I wouldnât reblog a post such as this. I purposely stay away from Tumblr drama and am very careful about accusing or calling out people, even if there is great effort to pull me into conflicts. However, I am compelled to reblog this for the safety of the community at large and to illustrate how devious predators can be, deceiving even the most shrewd and careful among us.
I first heard about George over a year ago when a follower contacted me needing advice on how to heal after a D/s breakup. Over the course of several months, I learned this womanâs story and how George almost completely destroyed her, nearly to the point of suicide, with gaslighting, lying, manipulation, emotional and physical abuse, and misuse of trust. Together we worked toward her healing and eventually things got better. She warned me that he would come after me because I was the kind of woman he targetedâŚintelligent, sensitive, artist/writers, with gentle perceptive souls. She was not the only victim. During her healing she confirmed that George had abused many others, at the same time as her, and was desperate to make sure that he never did this again. Months passed. Healing took place and George seemed to be silent, his blogs active but not posting.
Around the first part of July, I was messaged by a blog called societal-dysfunction. I had seen some of his ask answers get reblogged and liked what I read. He had been hearting some of my work for awhile. His message was polite and complimentary of my writing. He wanted me to critique some of his work. I asked if we could move to Instagram so I could leave a voicemail, easier than texting for me. His Instagram was seekingmckay. There were nature photos and two face photos on it. He responded to my voicemail with one of his. He had a THICK Boston accent. We texted for about an hour, talking about writing in general, spiritual and medical issues, and just having a nice conversation. He was polite and well-spoken. His words were spelled correctly and intelligent. He came across as gentle, caring, interested, and high quality- definitely not a fuck-boi or a predator. He told me his wife had died ten years ago and he had raised his three children alone. He had had a bad car accident a few years ago and had to recover from severe brain damage- learn to walk and talk again. As a medical person I was very interested in his recovery and gave him ideas for further therapy. His marriage had been a very special D/s relationship and since she had died he hadnât really connected with anyone other than one or two relationships. He was very gracious and open, told me his name was George and he was looking forward to getting to know me.Â
The next morning I read through the chat again. Something wasnât right. This was too good. Too smooth and perfect. I contacted my friend about it and while waiting for her response, I picked out the flags.
1. A few paragraphs into the chat, he let me know that he would keep anything I shared with him confidential. This was odd to hear since we hadnât been discussing that issue or exchanging pics. I donât share pics online. I knew he was alluding to an intimacy that hadnât happened yet. An assumed intimacy, trying to make me feel safe. But why? Iâd known him all of ten minutes.
2. He said how nice it was to be friends with me and that we were going to be such good friends, he could tell. Red flag. Friendships happen organically. People who just meet donât say âIâm so glad we are friends.â That might be said months later, but in ten minutes? You are assuming a relationship that doesnât exist.
3. He described, in long paragraphs, how he was an empath and a healer with many gifts, so often misunderstood by others. The phrasing, the wording, the way he presented this, sent chills down my back. First, because the words were exact copies from my follower friend who IS an actual gifted healer. I was seeing her words in front of me. It was so unsettling. Secondly, people with that depth of spirituality donât blurt it out to someone new in order to impress. They reveal it further on, after the relationship is trusting enough. I had a strong sense that he was telling me something he had heard from someone else. This was a pink flag that turned dark red the more I looked at it.
4. His name. Could this be THE George?Â
5. He wrote responses to my texts using my same wording and phrasing, almost like he had been studying my writing. It wasnât the texting of a person who had just met me. This is hard to describe but it was very uncomfortable, like he didnât have his own voice and I was talking to an invisible version of myself. My spidey senses were tingling.
After showing my friend his IG picture we confirmed it was him. I blocked him on all platforms. Just a few days ago, I randomly came across @somevelvetmornin and read her George story. It was eerily similar to my friends. We put together bits and pieces of ours and others stories, some of whom may still be on Tumblr. We put together facts based on IP addresses and real life interactions with George. In addition to the original post, I know the following to be true, beyond a shadow of a doubt:
1.His wife is not dead. She is alive. He lied about being married.Â
2.He is not a Dom or D/s practitioner. He is someone who has read a lot of stuff and is interested in it but has zero experience. He lies, abuses a subs trust, and puts them in situations where their consent is violated and stretched beyond their limits, then tries to punish them when they ask for aftercare or a meta talk.
3. He uses the car accident story to explain away long absences and memory loss. This is how he covers his tracks when he disappears suddenly in the middle of a scene when a sub is in physical pain at his order. During his disappearances he is usually managing one or two other women online, despite telling each one that he is a âone sub Dom.â
4. He comes across for months as a caring, nurturing man, meeting all requirements of vetting. He earns your trust. Once the dynamic is established he slowly erodes it, then blames the sub for any fallout. He makes them question their sanity and emotional stability.
5. He mirrors people. He figures out what you want to hear, what you need to hear, and mirrors back your own interests and thoughts to create a connection. This makes a woman think she has found a soulmate. He creates comfort and trust very quickly. He purposely avoids asking for nudes or coming across as a fake Dom in the beginning. After trust is established he becomes more demanding and unethical.
6. Here is a list of known blogs/IG accounts he has operated under:
dominant intentions (all varieties of URL)
7. He has been abusing women on Tumblr and other platforms for probably well over two years.Â
8. When he is in the process of a âdynamicâ breaking down, he starts trying to establish another one. Somevelvetmornin confronted George the first week of July about his marriage and lies to her. Around the same time he messaged me. This pattern is confirmed with previous victims.
I could go into many more details but the post is long enough already. This man is dangerous. He is different than your average fake Dom. He is cunning, smooth, gracious, polite, and O so understanding of your needs and emotions. He burrows into your mind and uses it against you. He is evil. He has driven several women to the point of suicide, some needing inpatient therapy for healing. He needs to be exposed so he never hurts another woman again.Â
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