Swing Both ways again, but EVEN HARDER this time

Regarding My Gender:

Like I said, I'm a Guy but I'm also not a guy But not not a guy? A guy who's also a not-guy? not a knot guy but hell even that's negotiable.

The best terms I've found are Genderqueer, Bigender, and Gender-nonconforming. I also like the phrase "Cis* Man*" with the asterisks being used to broadly gesture at all the rest of this.

I do identify with femininity, use she/her pronouns, and love to be called feminine titles (like mommy, ma'am, or good girl). But amidst all of that I also still value and identify pretty strongly with masculinity; he/him pronouns and masculine titles (daddy, sir, or good boy) in addition to the femme sides. Arguably slightly more so? I Dunno! Hard to say!

Whether or not I'm cis and/or trans depends on what definitions you use. But, the definitions I like to use aren't mutually exclusive, so therefore I consider myself a bit of both. Maybe I'll elaborate more on this another time

If your DNI includes men or even specifically cis men, I'll leave it up to you whether it includes me, and I'll probably err on the side of leaving a respectful distance (also ofc you can always block me)

My Kinks:

I'm generally pretty open with my kinks, save for the ones I explicitly say I'm not interested in. If I don't list one, and you're curious, then ask me about it. I'd love for you to tell me more...

Yes:

Please do these with me

CnC (Somno, intox, Physical Force/Manhandling), Breeding, Hypno, Marking, Impact Play, Choking, Exhibitionism, worship, Gender Play¹

Orientation Play is also a major kink of mine, but you're more likely to see that at my sideblog, along with the more intense sides of CnC, breeding, Hypno, and gender play.

Maybe:

I'm not as personally interested, but I'll probably play along if you ask nicely.

Faucest², Pet Play, Detrans³

HARD NO:

I don't do DNI's for kinks - if you're into any of the following you're still welcome to stay here. but do be aware you will NOT be doing any of it with me

Watersports, Scat, Age Play, Race Play, Feederism

~~ footnotes on my kinks ~~

¹ I'm most interested in/comfortable with gender play with myself as the subject. Being a bigender genderfluid "man" leaves a lot of room for exploration there. Especially in tandem with Orientation play.

² At the very least I looove titles like mommy and daddy. As for anything further....I'm actually warming up to it. I do have a few limits and would want to discuss it further before we do anything, but it's probably much more intriguing than even the others that I put at this level

³ Like I said above, I mostly enjoy gender play with myself as the subject. If you're into it then I don't mind indulging you (especially when paired with orientation play), but still, just less of my jam. If you're NOT into detrans play then please know I'll never try to do it with you. These are also the sides of gender play you're more likely to find on my sideblog.

DNI:

I said that I don't do DNI's for anyone who has certain kinks, and I stand by it, but there are a few other categories for which I have to respectfully ask you to just go away:

1) MINORS:

If you're a minor and you're still reading, seriously, please, you're putting us both at risk here. I imagine you're sick of hearing this, and I'm sorry about that. I do have a lot of thoughts about "minors DNI" culture and I do take issue with how much of the internet is just trying to prevent you from ever seeing any adults ever. But there's still a time and a place where those interactions should occur, and this is not the place for them. To pretend otherwise puts you at risk of abuse, and myself at risk of legal repercussions

I'll also say, any adult who isn't setting this boundary around sexual contexts is dangerous for you!!! You should stop talking to this person immediately and stay far away from them. Look out for yourself.

2) Anyone who cannot distinguish between kink and reality:

This is fantasy, and I hold a very deep and foundational belief in keeping that fantasy distinct from reality. If you you don't approach kink in the same way, then save us both the time and move on. This includes:

Anyone who tries to moralize kink. You're not going to change my mind. Seriously save us both the time.

Anyone who genuinely holds bigoted views outside of kink (including misogyny, racism, homophobia, transphobia, ableism, fatphobia, and others)

Anyone who doesn't respect consent outside of kink. This includes anyone who tries to engage with minors.

ON CONSENT:

I do have a lot of thoughts about how to 'ethically' engage with cnc and other such 'inethical' kinks. I may write about that more, and I may start a tag for it. For now I'll just say that I use the stoplight system for safewords.

Ideally I also like to add a 4th level for "orange" in between yellow and red to signify more severe instances of "absolutely do not go any further with this" before red (which I usually take as a hard stop to the scene). It also provides a bit more leeway for "soft yellows" to indicate stuff like "this subject is fine but maybe slow down" or "maybe another time".

I also like to do (ooc checkins) during scenes to clarify color and other such communications. Feel free at any point to tell me if you need me to shift course, and esp if we don't know each other, just know that I'll likely send messages in parentheses to just check in out of character.

TITLES/ HOW I LIKE TO BE REFERRED TO:

Since I'm bigender and a switch, I'm happy with any direction you want to take to me. My only preference being that you commit to the bit. Which is to say I tend to be more so-so on neutral terms, and enjoy the ends of each spectrum (mostly in terms of gender, but also dom/sub

My go to dominant terms are Mommy/Daddy. Though I'm also perfectly comfortable with Sir/Ma'am, Master/Mistress, and Your Lord (that one especially makes my worship kink go brr)

For submissive terms good girl/boy are always nice, or I can even get behind gender neutral terms that are just derogatory. Call me (and make me into) your little fucktoy, dildo, slut, or whatever other terms you feel suit me.