What Is This Place?

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***** Excerpt from Practical FLR: Destroying The Taboo*****

We live in a dark time. I know that we like to look back on history as the dark ages, but perhaps history was just the darker ages, because even today, humanity is still lost in the dark. When we look wayyyy back in history, ancient history, we begin to notice that they clearly had more knowledge about many things than we do today. In fact, we appear to be rediscovering all the things they already knew. we still don’t even understand most of what they stood for. From the pyramids to Stonehenge, to weird mathematical patterns all across the world, they clearly had a knowledge that we somewhere along the way, lost.

How is knowledge lost? The only way that makes sense, is if we forgot, somehow. That we disconnected from some aspect of ourselves, and many of us go through this in our very own lifetime, never mind what can occur over thousands of years. So it’s not impossible to consider the possibility that human beings were once smarter than we are today, even with all these technological wonders.

Have you ever looked back at your life, and remembered who you once were 10 years ago, and can’t even remember what it felt like to be that person? It feels like eons ago, and going back to that person would be very difficult because it would require you to get back into the same mindset, and embody the same state of being that is now foreign to you. Eventually it would come back, if you remained persistent.

What would happen, if there was another way of being, that was once the way people used to be. A way most of us have totally forgotten due to generations of of over sexual indulgence, giving way to ego desires, and social conditioning.  Creating an entire species that is confused and doesn’t even know it. Or is aware of it, but doesn’t know what to do about it.

Many of us sense there is more to this life, but can’t quite grasp what that is. They feel this pull from an unknown source deep inside themselves, like a quiet whisper they can’t quite hear clearly enough. But it’s there, and it creates a sense of longing for something more, for something real, for something fulfilling.

Yet since most of us don’t understand this, we try to cater to this whisper as if it was a void we were trying to fill.  Which typically has us running around trying to impress and prove ourselves to all the wrong people, sleeping with the wrong people, and letting booze and drugs do the thinking for us, because that void only gets bigger the longer we go without understanding it.

The result is what we see in the world today, people needing alcohol to have fun, lost without it. How is it that life can be boring without alcohol? When we are children, we’re high, not on drugs,  but on life, it’s wondrous and incredible, the sense of aliveness is magical, and that leads to a beautiful imagination of all the possibilities it can offer, and we undergo that process as children. 

Until the system comes along with it’s requirements of maintaining good grades and getting a career and paying bills and needing a job, and slowly but surely our dreams fade away, the magic of life is forgotten, and the void opens up.

Sexually, we’re often led by not just hormones, but peer pressure as well. Culture has created certain ways that sexual expression is acceptable, and certain ways that it’s not, and as a result, it creates dirty and shameful views of sex. Women especially begin to feel guilty and ashamed. Men must remain macho and not show emotions and this spirals out so far and so fast, that it affects nearly every single human being on the planet in one way or another.

Right at the age that we develop our sense of sexual identity, we’re being hit from all sides with what’s supposedly right and wrong. Everyone who identifies with LGBTQ or something else, such as submissive or dominant, is automatically in the closet and will face some kind of discrimination depending upon who they tell.  This is worse in some areas of the world compared to others, but it affects the entire world.  Some of us are so confused that we don’t even know what our sexual identity even is, because we aren’t given the chance to explore it. 

Sex education doesn’t cover BDSM or fetishes why not? That is a legitimate question, why do we deem it shameful or strange or weird to have a fetish of some kind? These things exist for a reason, and they make up aspects of who a person is, and by hiding those aspects from them, by never giving them the ability to become aware of it, they are suppressed by default.

Sexual education should be a class in school, that lasts the entire year, like math or English. It covers not only the basics of what sex is, but it also covers what it means to have a power exchange, to be dominant, to be submissive. To understand what turns on are, and what sexual energy is and how to move sexual energy beyond the sex organs to use it for powering ambition and motivation and endurance.

The class could talk about all the different sex toys, and help shatter the awkwardness about sex, so it can be something that is comfortable to talk about, not shameful. This goes for all genders, because we are all equally confused. How many boys know what their prostate is by the time they graduate? How many girls know what the clitoris is?

How is it that human body is a mystery to those who own one? Those who figure out how their body works sexually, will be smarter, and more intuitive, than those who do not. Sexual energy is creative energy, and incredible inventors, such as Nikola Tesla, used sexual energy to enhance their creativity to invent all the amazing things we cherish today.

Not only that, but why doesn’t sex education talk about all the different kinds of orgasms the body is capable of? It would certainly help a lot of people be better in bed, when they do find a partner. Just remember that the next time you have a partner that sucks in bed, they were never educated on what to do, or how to do it. Teach them. 

The different sensations the body experiences when being licked, or kissed or bitten, or rubbed, all these intimate things aren’t taught, and most of us, have no idea what to do with that. Some of us are lucky and find the right partner at a young age and experiment successfully, but many of us are lost to the void. Confused, unfulfilled, stuck in an invisible rut.

Many submissive males believe they are gay, because they simply don’t understand the difference between wanting a woman to take them with a strap on, or doing it with the same gender. This distinction is huge, and important. They have to go through a long process of self discovery and become aware of female dominance, before they can figure out that they’re not actually gay. Some are, and that’s okay too. All walks of life are okay as long as it’s not hurting anyone else or themselves.  We have to stop judging people, and start understanding them.

So many women would thrive at being dominants and leaders, but they’re never given the chance, they’re never made aware of how much power they truly wield. Conditioned by patriarchy, they forever believe power isn’t for them. Or even orgasms are impossible. Orgasms are only impossible if the sexual charge is not there. A healthy woman with her own sexual desire, can and will orgasm, it’s just a matter of letting go enough.

We now live in an era where the internet is cracking down on sexual expression, adult content is becoming difficult to find. Especially adult content that allows people to express themselves in all the amazing possibilities that exist. I am not referring to porn sites, there are plenty of those. But porn sites do not allow for diversity.

Porn sites cater to cookie cutter versions of porn, and do not portray realistic or practical versions of sexuality or sexual acts.  This creates more confusion, and people eat it up, and think it’s normal, and all it does is serve the void. Porn sites aren’t going anywhere. Social porn is, and it’s still relatively new, social porn is helping people figure out who they really are. Social porn is waking people up to their sexual nature, and discovering others who are like minded and helping them realize that they’re more normal than they thought.

It’s helping people discover a new way of thinking, a new way of living, and a new way to express themselves. So many women are finding their voices in a safe place, in a safe manner, exploring what turns them on. Being able to do this without being shamed or guilt tripped back to the traditional role of being a female destined to please a man. It’s beautiful to witness so many women finding their sexual selves and creating their own styles. It’s helping everyone in the same way, and to watch it crumble with adult content bans because of bad laws is heart breaking. It’s like going backward in evolution.

We live in a world that is very very confused sexually. It’s time to rediscover who we really are. That inner whisper will get louder, and the more you follow your inner desires, the easier it will become until it’s your new normal.

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Practical FLR: Destroying The Taboo

The “Folkloric Devil” is a term applied to the figure who appears in folk-tales and legends and who is often called “the devil”, but it’s obvious that he emerges from a different source than the theological background of Christianity.

Old divinities or diminished Gods that maintained a presence in the minds or cultures of European peoples are suggested (often enough, and for good reasons) as a source of this figure; but beyond that, the pre-Christian societies had spiritual forces and persons that they related to in the sense of “outsider” powers that could be shady or tricky or dangerous at times, but who often had kinds of relationships nonetheless with human beings. These are the main source of the “folkloric” Devil/Devils.

The Folkloric devil isn’t concerned with damning souls, primarily, but he always wants to make deals or pacts to help humans who need things, but so that he can gain, too- a sign of his origin in the older world of spirit-relationship and spiritual ecology. In Christian gloss, he begins more and more to want “souls” for his help, but he is always able to be tricked, himself- and this is very important. Human heroes or protagonists can outwit him. This is something that would be impossible to do to the Theological Devil, who is far beyond humans in power, and second only to God himself in power.

Modern Pop Culture produces surprising emergences of the old Folkloric Devil- Charlie Daniel’s song “The Devil Went Down to Georgia” is an appearance of a Folkloric Devil, who can be out-played by the intrepid and arrogant local boy, on the fiddle. There is the Christian conceit of the Devil seeking souls in that song, but that’s just a minor detail, more suited to a Christian audience and born from the imagination of a low Protestant folk singer.

The Folkloric Devil is a being- and a representative of a whole class of beings- who can be engaged with by humans, for gains. They can be harmful, they can be helpful, and they can be outwitted or outdone at times. Sometimes, they become protagonists themselves.

Theological Elites in the Pre-Modern period of Europe saw no distinction between their Theological Devil and the various emergences of the Folkloric Devil. The “Devil” of witch cults and covenants and of individual sorcerers or witches was of the Folkloric variety, though in their own personal understandings, even they may have believed that he was the same as the theological devil, such was the nature of their times. It’s not like there was a neat chart that spelled all this stuff out to earlier people, and folk in Pre-Modern times heard Christian ministers ranting alongside fire-side bards telling folktales, and so the Folkloric Devil/Devils could take on Christian gloss and attributes at times, and the Theological devil could appear in decidedly “folkish” ways.

What’s important to remember is that the Theological Devil doesn’t exist except as the shadow of Christian psychology. He is born from the idealistic Christian imagination, as the necessary counter-ideal or counter-force to their idealistic notion of good, the warped good, the fallen good, born in their continuation of earlier dualistic religious tropes that posited a cosmic war between good and evil cosmological forces.

The Folkloric Devil, on the other hand, very much exists, both in the form of a powerful former divinity worshiped by practically every human culture known previous to Christianity, and as a folk-memory of certain spirit-entities (very much tied to this world) that people have always engaged in relationships with, though they are a group of entities who are, in ways, challenging, dangerous at points, and ambiguous.

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