Today a random clip of a F1nn5ter Q&A stream found its way into my feed.
Someone asked F1nn why it was that on her larger branded social media accounts she still listed herself as a femboy in some places while in more intracommunity spaces she more readily and comfortably identified as transfem.
Now, depending on who you ask that kind of question to you'll probably get a meandering answer on the complexities of how one defines their own identity. But instead F1nn gave a very quick and simple answer.
She gets less death threats or other general threats of violence from people when she calls herself a femboy vs calling herself transfem. It wasn't any deeper than that, and some people in her audience understood that, while others were confused that femboys were more palatable to cis people than transfems.
Another Clip of F1nn made its way across my feed today, she she mentioned a little bit more on the difference on being known as a Transfem streamer vs her old Femboy days.
"As soon as I came out as trans, it felt like everyone was an asshole and I had to adapt to it again...I don't know, people just don't like it if you're not [just] some funny guy."
It was kind of incredible and sickening to witness how the wider internet shifted its opinion on F1nn when she came out. I went from seeing clips of her everywhere, to seeing clips of her talking about coming out, to not seeing anything. Soon after all I'm seeing about F1nn is that she's problematic, stupid drama being spread around for no reason. Even other transfems flipped on her, criticizing everything she does, saying she's bad for the community because she's a sex worker and other bullshit. She set up a thing to try and help people in the UK get hormones and somehow got hate from trans people about it. (I haven't looked into it that much, I could not care less what's happening on those islands.)
I've talked about it before but F1nn5ter is a pretty textbook example of how trans women are hated more than "femboys" and how even other trans women can be transmisogynistic to those they deem valid targets.
