My mom âaccepts meâ, but she âknows I only chose to be bisexual so I didnât have to break up with my girlfriend when she started transition.â
My dad âaccepts meâ but often reminds me that âmonogamy is important no matter who youâre attracted toâ because bi girls are more likely to cheat.
My girlfriendâs mom âaccepts herâ but wonât use her chosen name and only uses the right pronouns half the time.
My pan friendâs mom âaccepts herâ but still calls her girlfriend her âbest friendâ because she âknows my friend will find the right boy somedayâ
A gay guy I met in class has parents that âaccept himâ but when he said he was being bullied for his sexuality said that âhe should just be less public about it.â
None of us have been kicked out. We still talk to our parents. They give us food and clothes and help pay college tuition. They havenât threatened to kill us. They havenât actually killed us.
Not kicking your kid out/not murdering them cannot be the standard of acceptance. Itâs not accepting. Itâs almost nothing.
If you want to be a wonderful accepting parent to a LGBTQ+ kid, you have to listen to what they say and trust them. You have to do your research and understand that this is who they are and itâs not up to them. You have to do anything you can to make their lives easier because the rest of the world is already going to make them go through hell.
And if youâre not ready to trust your kid and love them no matter what, donât call yourself progressive or accepting.