So do you ever present male or is this just a fad to you?
...wow.
Non-binary people do not owe you masculinity, femininity, or androgyny. Non-binary doesnāt mean that if I am not presenting as one then I must present as another. Non-binary means...well. NOT BINARY.
I identify as non-binary because I donāt feel particularly attached to my assigned at birth gender. Sometimes I feel a bit more boyish or masculine. Sometimes I explore hyperfeminity through drag on my terms and not societyās.
I feel a general neutrality towards the concept of gender. Itās just whatever. Coming to understand non-binary as it applies to me helped me to come to terms with an often dysphoric frame of mind when it came to more āmasculineā aspects of my thinking and my appearance. Learning about genderfluid identities helped me become more comfortable and accepting of all aspects of myself. Most of the time I present neutral-feminine just because thatās my āblank slateā default and I have big boobs - I struggled for years to even accept that it was okay to do that and reject societyās expectations for just stepping outside my house. Sometimes I skew more on the tomboyish masculine side and that makes me tremendously happy. Sometimes I present very femme and THAT makes me happy. Sometimes I aim for a generally edgy and androgynous look, and Iād date me, Iām hot af then.
So there. I didnāt owe you any explanation, you rude asshole, but there it is. Itās not a fad and youāre a jerk.
