how much more delightful your love than wine

feeling some type of way abt being bi and never having been with a woman and currently being with a cis het man who i love and want to be with maybe forever ?? but also will i always be wondering abt women?? and idk the last 2 people ive been with were also queer in some way and it’s odd to not be able to relate to him on that level and like, is that something i need ??? or is that kind of superficial in a way. i hate being a bi woman in a relationship with a cis het man going”i don’t feel queer enough :(“ during pride month esp in this political climate but like genuinely i am feeling some type of way about it all

also hilarious re:hot chef drama that people just hallucinated the idea that he was 7/8 years younger than her and ran with it when he’s literally. 1-2 yrs younger than her depending on their exact birthdays. like. how is this man an executive chef of a restaurant group in paris and supposedly only 24 when they met ?? also i do think that people made out like she was significantly wealthier than him like they described it as if he was some poor 24 yo line cook and she’s some sort of Old Money WASP when he’s literally a 31 yo executive chef of an entire restaurant group in PARIS and idk what you make for that but i don’t think it’s too shabby!! and i think people’s perception of her wealth is overstated bc people turned the “rape money” thing into her having enough money to never need to work which i don’t believe she said it was that much like she just called it a “nest egg.” obviously she never stated the exact amount and she shouldn’t have to but it sounded to me like money she was using to do some things now like traveling and then also for saving up for future home/wedding/kids which like it’s a privilege in many ways to even be able to save for that stuff but also she got the money from a settlement re: being sexually assaulted & then kicked out of school for it so like it was a result of trauma so not exactly the Height of privilege. meanwhile she primarily lives off a grad stipend & patreon money (which is like less than $10,000/yr) and then re:family wealth people use the fact she went to private boarding school and private college as evidence of massive generational wealth but like. have you guys heard of scholarships & financial aid?? like i think i vaguely remember her talking about going to boarding school on a scholarship but i could be wrong. like going to private boarding school is more of a wealth flag to me than private college bc tons of people go to private college with scholarships/financial aid/loans but private school & esp private boarding school is probably a better indicator of wealth but i also think it depends on location. like some places have really bad public schools so it’s not too unusual for middle class families to try to get their kids into private schools on scholarships and i also think boarding schools are more of a thing in new england. anyway all of this to say shes definitely privileged financially in a number of ways but she also doesn’t seem like Super Wealthy to me and hot chef definitely has a good income at the top of the culinary field in a country where that’s highly valued so from my perspective it doesn’t seem like there was a HUGE wealth gap by any means, and there was practically no age gap sooooooo what are you guys still on about???

like there were tons of abuse survivors who fell for johnny depps coordinated DARVO campaign so i just don’t think that being an abuse survivor makes you magically able to know who’s an abuser and who isn’t! also using reactive abuse as evidence that the victim was the abuser without looking at context doesn’t work. not actually saying that either one of them is definitively abusive or not just that i think people take the things that are most similar to what they went thru and build a narrative around that which can lead to people seeing reactive abuse by the victim that is similar to their experience of abuse and then using that as evidence that the victim is the abuser. or maybe they never personally engaged in reactive abuse so they deny that could be an explanation for certain behaviors. i also just think that engaging in isolated “abusive behaviors”doesn’t necessarily make one an Abuser. like most people have done things once/a few times that if they were patterns of behavior would be emotionally abusive but doing them one or two times is just like. not being a perfect person. especially if we take into account mental illness & trauma!

anyway downloading threads was the worst idea i’ve ever had people are absolutely heinous over there

personally i actually think it’s within your right to make jokes about your OWN RAPE ??? like that’s your experience you get to do dark humor about it if you want to ??

okay it’s so funny that when a woman doesn’t want to share intimate details of her breakup everyone is mad but when she starts to do so bc she realizes how much he was lying to her suddenly she shouldn’t be “airing dirty laundry.” and when a woman says she’s gonna take a social media break bc she’s getting hate about her very public breakup she gets criticism for that but when she posts a bunch about how much he lied to her suddenly it’s “‘maybe she should take a social media break” like can you just shut up maybe. can you just shut the fuck up! i’m not saying katie has no flaws or is dealing 100% perfectly with the situation even but i feel like people on threads are unnecessarily mean to her about this like get a hobby/therapist/touch grass etc etc

olivia rodrigo releases a song and losers immediately try to find a song it sounds similar to so the can accuse her of plagiarism like why don’t you get a damn hobby

i really am gonna need alecto the ninth to have some good gideon/harrow content bc they haven’t actually directly interacted since book 1 and im DYING

i love when a pattern’s idea of 4XL is a 36.5 in waist like babe that’s an XL in normal sizing. that’s like the average waist size in the US for women. in what universe is that a 4XL ??????? we need to oppress people with 25 in waists more

also to be fair gideon doesn’t have a body right now but i just want them to admit they love each other like gideon shut up about i didn’t do anything for her to love me!! i mean maybe you didn’t but she DOES. she fucked with her memories to preserve your soul not bc she didn’t want it bc she doesn’t want to destroy it !!! aaaaaaaaahhh the end of this book is probably gonna ruin me isn’t it

i want gideon and harrow to kiss but they’re too insane for that. they have to do elaborate rituals instead

none houses with left grief…. okay tamsyn muir