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Massage Oil – Coconut oil soothes tired and sore muscles. Add a few drops of essential oils for more effect.

Athletes Foot – The powerful antifungal properties of coconut oil make it perfect for any fungal infection. Add a few drops of oregano or tea tree oil for more antifungal power.

Acne – Coconut oil gently fights the bacteria that cause acne. Dab it directly on the offending pimples and watch them shrink.

Cleanser – Coconut oil makes an effective and gentle cleanser to remove the grime of the day.

Lice – Coconut oil kills and removes this pesky problem.

Stretch Marks – Prevent and soften stretch marks from pregnancy with coconut oil for soft and supple skin.

Warts and Moles – Rub oil into area and cover with a bandage. Rub in fresh oil and place a new bandage each day.

Moisturizer – Coconut oil is an excellent way to soften and hydrate dry, rough, or damaged skin.

Face Scrub – Mix coconut oil with baking soda, sugar, or cinnamon and oatmeal for the perfect face scrub and exfoliator.

Dandruff – Massage coconut oil into the scalp to ease symptoms of dandruff, both itching and flaking.

Curb Appetite – Take a spoonful before meals to curb appetite so you don’t overeat.

Wrinkles – Rub into lines, creases, and wrinkles to rehydrate skin and soften those wrinkles away.

Sore Throat – Dissolve a spoonful in your mouth and let it slowly roll down the throat. This will coat and protect the throat, boost the health of mucus membranes, and fight any infection.

Ring Worm – Rub coconut oil onto affected area to kill the fungus that causes unsightly ringworm. Add tea tree oil to clear the infection even faster.

Lip Balm – Coconut oil hydrates and protects lips. Coconut even offers some protection from the sun, about an SPF 4.

Cold Sore – Coconut oil has antiviral properties that will help the body get rid of the virus that causes cold sores. Rub it on when needed and add a drop of oregano oil to speed healing.

Lubricant – Coconut makes an all-natural personal lubricant for intimate moments without chemicals.

Gum Removal – Coconut oil gets the sticky stuff out of hair, carpet, and anywhere else it doesn’t belong.

Pet Health – Coconut oil can do a multitude of things for pets, both topically and internally. It improves breath, makes for a shiny coat, eases joint problems, cleans ears, gets rid of fleas, and much more.

Stys/Pink Eye – Rub a small amount of coconut oil on the sty or around the eyes to get rid of these painful and annoying infections quickly.

Earaches – Earaches, swimmer’s ear, and ear infections clear up fast with a few drops of coconut oil mixed with garlic oil.

Cradle Cap – Coconut oil is gentle and safe for infants and helps ease the itching, pain, redness, and flaking associated with cradle cap.

Diaper Rash – Coconut oil can help heal mild diaper rash gently and effectively.

Bruises – Rub coconut oil into bruised skin to speed healing and watch the bruises fade fast.

Age Spots – Coconut oil has beneficial effects on any skin blemish. Use it to help fade age spots with powerful antioxidants.

Shaving Cream – Coconut oil keeps the razor gliding smoothly while leaving skin smooth and soft.

After Shave – Don’t want unpleasant bumps and rashes after shaving? Coconut oil soothes sensitive skin and promotes healing.

Toothpaste – Mix 1 part coconut oil with 1 part baking soda and add a couple drops of peppermint oil. This makes a refreshing, natural toothpaste that whitens and cleans without added preservatives, fluoride, sweeteners, or other chemicals.

Chicken Pox – Ease the itch and encourage healing with dabs of coconut oil. It also works on poison ivy, poison oak, mosquito bites, and other insect stings or bites.

Yeast Infections – Coconut oil fights these fungal infections internally and externally.

Makeup Remover – Coconut oil removes oil-based makeup easily, like mascara. It cleans, hydrates, and makes skin glow.

Conditioner – Coconut oil conditions, strengthens, and repairs hair. Massage it in and rinse it out after ten minutes. A small amount can be rubbed in to dry hair to tame frizz.

Polish Furniture – Coconut oil gives a protective shine to wood furniture. Just make sure you test it out on a small area to make sure you like the outcome.

Energy – Coconut oil and its medium chain triglycerides make it an excellent energy source to improve stamina, endurance, or just to give you a boost through the day.

Deodorant – Mix coconut oil with cornstarch, baking soda, and your favorite essential oils for a natural deodorant that smells fantastic.

Eye Cream – Reduce puffiness and dark circles with a few dabs of coconut oil.

Eczema – Coconut oil reduces the itchiness, pain, flakiness, and dryness of eczema, psoriasis, and dermatitis.

Sunburn – Coconut oil can help prevent sunburn for short exposures. When you burn, it will also speed healing and take some of the sting away. Make sure you wait until all the heat has dissipated before applying it or you trap the heat in. Wait 24 to 72 hours depending on the extent of the burn.

Hemorrhoids – Coconut oil eases the pain and discomfort of hemorrhoids and encourages natural healing both internally and externally.

Nose Bleeds – Rub a bit of coconut oil in nostrils to fight the dry cracking that can lead to nose bleeds and pain.

Canker Sores – Dab coconut oil on canker sores to kill infection and speed up healing. Coconut oil is also a far tastier way to treat canker sores than most other methods.

Toothaches – Coconut oil eases the pain and strengthens teeth. You can mix it with a drop of clove oil to almost instantly relieve pain.

Acid Reflux – Take a small spoonful with meals to keep acid reflux and heartburn at bay.

Urinary Tract – Treat urinary tract infections with a spoonful of coconut oil. It may even ease the painful passing of kidney stones.

Nursing – Coconut oil works great to repair dry, cracked skin, including sore nipples from nursing.

Alzheimer’s – Some research points to coconut oil as a way to slow the progression of or prevent Alzheimer’s and dementia.

Bones – Coconut oil aids the body in the absorption of calcium and magnesium. Both minerals are important for strong bones and teeth.

Epilepsy – Coconut oil may reduce the incidence and intensity of epileptic seizures.

Fitness – Coconut oil boosts energy, increases metabolism, improves thyroid function, and aids healthy weight loss. It is the perfect addition to any workout or fitness regimen.

every tiktok expert: make short fun videos 9-15 seconds long

me: how about a 2-minute spoken word monolog about unlearning trauma responses?

1. An interesting human being. Lately I’ve come to a very defined point when it comes to my own interactions with someone I’m attracted to. There has to be something there. It cannot be all physical attraction. The gears must turn. There has to be passion for something Beyond sex. A drive to make the world better. An interest in a vocation. The desire to learn. The unequivocal Wanderlust.

2. Acceptance of what you want. I’m not saying you have to figure it out everything. There’s plenty to explore. But I want you to know that you want something. I don’t want to force you. I don’t want you to fake it. I don’t want you to pretend. I want you to love what I love.

3. An understanding of the line between fantasy and reality. This is perhaps the greatest problem of the internet age. Tumblr. Grindr. Recon. You have to know what is pretend and what is real. Know that someone cannot be submissive 24/7 nor can they be dominant for just as long. Know that there’s a time and a place for everything.

4. Embrace Humanity. A boy is not an object to me. He is a person. He’s a beautiful being. He deserves my respect. I will not dehumanize you. I will still do all the things you desire including humiliation play. But I cannot use you and toss you away. To this end, I say there’s just as much joy and fucking while you’re tied to the bed as there is going to Dairy Queen and getting a Cherry dipped cone.

5. Offer and accept affection. I can’t tell you how many times people have told me that I don’t look the part of a dominant man. I look too sweet. I look too innocent. I have a fire deep in my heart that comes out in the passionate form of restraints and control. But I do like to feel another person. I want to touch you. I want to be close to you. I want to kiss you. I want to embrace you.

6. Have personal Drive. I don’t want to be your sugar daddy. I don’t want you to be lazy. I don’t want you to live an unfulfilled life. I want you to pursue your dreams. I want you to follow a career that makes you happy. I want you to embrace the intellectual abilities that you have and partner them with my own so that we can both attain our joy in our professional lives. Money doesn’t have to be everything. You could want to change the world. And I’ll still hold your hand. I just want you to want something more.

*Prologue*

Can you please for for the love of god stop paying attention to that bullshit on Tumblr that tells you that you’re supposed to be a worthless object? You do realize that everybody who is spouting off about that crap doesn’t put their face or their address online?

BECAUSE IT ISN’T REAL!

You’re not going to spend your life in a basement serving somebody. It’s a fucking fantasy. And it bullshit like this that destroys the positive and meaningful interactions with in BDSM.

No one is dominant or submissive 100% of the time. It’s not possible. We’re human beings. We need to rest. We need to rejuvenate. Yeah you can have a hot session that goes on for a full weekend. You can embrace every bit of who you are as a dominant or submissive. But there’s always a break.

And if you haven’t figured this out, real dominant men provide Aftercare and take of their boys. Full stop. It’s not even a question. If somebody is going to put you through an intense situation and can’t even fucking bother holding onto you and caressing you to let you calm down, they’re just a piece of shit. There is something psychologically wrong with them and you shouldn’t be around them in the first place.

Let’s address this Alpha bullshit. No one is better than somebody else. No person is ordained as this creature that is meant to be superior to others. If someone honestly believes that they are better than someone else on purely a basis of humanity, they are most likely a very sad individual. They never achieved anything meaningful. Maybe one day they started going to the gym and realized that someone was attracted to them and then they could exert their low self-esteem on another. I can’t fucking stand people like this. And they spout their bullshit all over the internet.

And here’s the simple truth to all of this, you may read this right now and think that I’m completely wrong. But as soon as the fantasy wears off, you will start to realize that a good man is far better than anything that this fantasy world could ever provide.

So please wake the fuck up. Believe in yourself. Know that you don’t deserve to be treated like crap. Submission is a gift. The dominant has to be worthy of it. You make that determination – not them.

Stand up for yourself. I believe in you. Look past the bullshit.

Sincerely,

I’ve been thinking about this question a lot. Tumblr has always been a welcoming place for me to articulate not only who I am but what I want to see from the BDSM community. I advocate Humanity. I encourage decency. I stand for the principle that happiness can be found between a differentially equated power dynamic.

It’s funny because I know the answer to this question so clearly.

I am a Daddy now.

I remember writing a blog post about how I utterly refused to allow anyone to call me Daddy. How I felt it was Unbecoming of my age. How I was assured that I only wanted to be a dominant and I should be strictly referred to as sir. It’s funny how times have changed.

I’ve grown to accept the tender side of my dominance as a Forefront of who I am. I still go by Sir. But I prefer Daddy. I prefer the warm. I prefer the caring. I prefer the strength that I can give and the love that I can receive. I enjoy knowing that I can tie you down and torment you for hours but still care about who you are. Not to mention how incredibly sexy it is for a beautiful boy to call me daddy while looking in my eyes.

A very good question. What can a boy do now as they seek their sir. There are many things out there. Obviously every Dom is a little different, so I am going to give you some suggestions that naturally lean towards me and my style. 

-Get Comfortable with your body. Some boys are very shy about their bodies. Doms are going to want to touch you. They are going to feel your body quiver in their hands. They are going to want to push you.

So what can you do about it… I would recommend lounging in less clothes around the house. Going to pool/beach more often, where you would only wear swimtrunks. Try sleeping naked a couple nights per week. Basically get more comfortable with the exposure element. 

-Evaluate your underwear selection. No matter what you do in life. Your clothes say a lot about you. Whether or not you have a suit says something. Whether or not you wear flip flops says something. Whether or not you wear night shirt. Do you own underwear that a Dom would want to see you in? Something to excite him? I am not saying you need go out and buy all new underwear, but it should be something you build up over time with a piece or two here and there. 

I think this is an important point also because it says something about your desire to be seen in your underwear. Remember the line from 10 Things I Hate About You, “You don’t buy black lingerie unless you want someone to see it.”

-Self Experiment with Toys. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, but it helps if you are not deadly afraid of new experiences. Even if you are still generally new, I recommend practicing with some toys. Two toys I think every boy should have: (1) a dildo and (2) a plug. I recommend the smaller training ones for new boys. 

-Research BDSM terms and gear. Attitude is everything in Dom/sub interactions. Subs want a Dom who is confident, Doms want a boy who will not freak out. It helps if you have explored the online world to learn about general techniques and toys. Basically, I don’t want you to have a traumatic incident if I put a collar on you. It also helps to develop an interest list: things you are willing and not willing to do.

-Taste your own cum. Its going to be alright, your own cum won’t bite. Like many Doms, I expect my boys to swallow. If you are so utterly grossed out by it, you need to taste your own. I often have done a training exercise where a boy must swallow every drop that comes out whenever he cums. It is a little rough at first, but he gets used to it. After all, spiting is rude. 

-Practice Your Manners. This last one is a big one. It is so simple, it is often overlooked. Obviously, there is a degree of training involved in Dom/sub interactions, but you can go a long way when you self-evaluate your manners. If you cannot seem to learn that you need to call me Sir as a basic sign of respect, then it is unlikely, you would be invited back. 

So what can you do? Listen to yourself for a day. How often are you saying please? Thank you? Do you hold the door for others? Or do you just act like those self entitled brats that say nothing when the door is held for you? 

I will let you in on a secret. There is ton of bullcrap on here about “breaking” a cocky boy. False. That is so much fucking work that has no guarantees and the boy is unlikely to be that sub anyways. It usually amounts to nothing more than rough fuck. True Doms want a boy who understands a lot about himself and his submissive feelings. Having good manners goes a long way. 

I just had some asswipe message me with the following phrase, “hey fag.”

Someone who didn’t follow me. Someone younger than me. Someone who honestly believes in that “cash master” bullshit. He then explained, “it was supposed to sexually excite you, faggot.”

My blood boils at such disdain towards an unwilling, unwelcoming participant. I told him off, blocked him, and reported his worthless ass to tumblr staff.

I’m writing this because I am mad.

But I am also writing this to empathize with submissive boys out there. I cannot imagine how many of you must get messages like that. And on a regular basis.

I’ve seen a lot of pictures lately. They are artificial – created by porn studios to entice the mind that such harshness is acceptable. Worse than that, there are many other that inflict such things on boys that may not be strong enough to stand up for themselves. As I have noted before, I do have a fundamental judgment principle, so long as something is agreed between two consenting adults, it is their choice. I do believe consent is negated through coercion or manipulation. That being said, I wish to make some core principles noted for the record. 

I am a Dominant. I care very deeply about my quality as a Man, and I stick to who I am. I strive to be a better Man before I strive to be a better Dom. You know where my interests lie but we have never discussed lines of nonengagement. While you may enjoy certain things and disagree with me, these are my core tenets. These are the lines that I will never cross.

1. I will never force you to do anything.

2. I will never call you a fag, faggot, worthless, piece of garbage, useless, or an object.

3. I will never slap you across the face.

4. I will never intentionally seek to cause you pain simply for sake of doing so.

5. I will never ask you to do something that harms your reputation or your personal aspirations.

6. I will never engage in activity with another boy without your consent so long as you are solely mine.

7. I will never ask you to engage in activity with another without your explicit request.

8. I will never punish you out of anger.

9. I will never assert my position as a Dominant while under the influence of alcohol or any other altering element.