friend once said: How do I rebuild trust? It doesn’t matter how I lost it or who I lost it with but what I learned is that I lost trust because my expectations of another person were too high. I put my trust in them. It’s like, ‘how empty of me, to be so full of you.’ So something happened that I never expected in my wildest dreams. And at some point I lost my trust in them. Now the hardest part: the cleanup, which must start with honesty and if your lying to yourself as well, then it’s going to take twice as long to relearn how to tell the truth. How do you know what truth is, because it’s what happened. It shouldn’t take an hour to tell the truth, you shouldn’t be bright red, huffing and puffing trying to convince the other person you're fabricated a lie. You shouldn’t be trying to convince someone else that your bad behavior was the right thing to do. The truth shouldn’t look like an 8 million word miniseries made of text messages that are so boring you want to rip all your hair out to get to the point. The truth is easy, it’s beautifully easy; and you should never forget it. (Liars everywhere hate me now because I’ve blown up their spot when they get asked something and they say, I can’t remember”. Of course they can! And why is the truth so easy to tell and remember: it’s what happened. That’s it; it is what happened. If and when truth ever gets reestsblished you have to lower the bar. This bar is to protect you. It’s basically saying do not put all of your self l/trust back in this person (or really anyone for that matter), Then start slow, you will never forget what happened and they more than likely won’t ever feel guilt (which is like a hot stone sitting in your stomach screaming at you, “ I have to potty! I have potty right now!” But you don’t, you just need to get honest. “To thine own self be true.” I have a very difficult time staying friends with someone who broke my trust not because the other person didn’t get honest but because I cannot forget…simply meaning, I cannot forgive. Forgiveness is a whole other ballgame that requires magical powers or medication to numb out the pain. Choose forgiveness instead… it’s cheaper ;) https://www.instagram.com/p/CkHMbHeOtTkk-_3aO618wouqDzNyr_RDk1yd8A0/?igshid=NGJjMDIxMWI=












