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apparently youre supposed to perform. they love it when you perform. but it has to be authentic. they hate it when it's not authentic. but you have to perform.

My first priority as a feminist is female abuse victims. I don't care if she is antifeminist, I don't care if she doesn't want to leave, I don't care if she is a bad person or a bad mother, I don't care if she does things that you or I personally disapprove of. I don't care if she's stupid or selfish or puts other people in danger. Abuse victims live in the shadow of terror and shame. The absolute least any of us could do for a battered women is to not pile on.

I’m a social vampire u gotta invite me into ur conversation or I cannot enter

not to keep posting about this but i don’t think a lot of people realize that forcing women to be in a perpetual state of defensiveness, so much so that it is internalized and wired into our brains from the time we’re born, is actual brain damage and directly mirrors the internal wiring of trauma survivors whose nervous systems are constantly on alert and ready to defend even when they don’t need to be. when you’re living in a state of perpetual defensiveness you become neurotic, hypervigilant, obsessive, anxious, depressed, overreactive, self-conscious, afraid. all of the things that have been historically categorized as feminine traits and behaviors. your true internal needs become masked by this compulsion to always be performing to satisfy externally enforced expectations, and you lose your sense of self and create this situation where what you want/need is directly at odds with what you express (or don’t express) to others. which then is what gives birth to the idea that women never know what they want, women are mysterious and hard to understand, women are always contradicting themselves, women are never clear. it’s like well..yeah because women are repeatedly traumatized both psychologically and physically from the day they’re born and only those who are fortunate enough to encounter sisterhood or wise maternal guidance or individually break free from ideology are able to live authentically. and even then it takes so much work to resist because you still have to operate within a culture that doesn’t have a place for liberated women.

Saw the news about Venezuela. Two back to back earthquakes, that's terrifying.

‎To encourage women to participate in broader "social justice movements" and stand alongside their community men against the external oppressor, is to ask women to forget the rape, honor killings, domestic abuse, forced marriages, acid attacks, and every other form of patriarchal violence, perpetuated everyday by those same men, reconcile politically and just move on in the pursuit of what's seen as a more important cause, much like how women in abusive relationships are pressured to forget the abuse and continue to live with their abusers for the "greater good"

if you have one, tag with the "6 degrees of separation" you have with a celebrity

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