how do you know if you're in love???
I honestly asked my friend this same question just hours ago as I was clueless myself but thinking about it now I think itβs when for the first time after what seemed like a dreadful year (or life), you look forward to waking every morning knowing he (letβs use he as itβs me talking) will be there for you. I think itβs just plain seeing him and being happy thatβs heβs around. Itβs being happy just by hearing his voice. No matter how bad your day is, one message from him would make your entire day. Itβs when he makes you want to write long letters and huge poems. Itβs not all about βlustβ- itβs more of the intimate relationship you have together. Itβs when the simplest of things count. Itβs when you start to mature and start to plan something with him for the future. Itβs when he makes you want to start fixing your life. Itβs when heβs always in your head 3 pm or 3 am. Itβs when you canβt stop talking or thinking about him. Itβs when you just really always miss him even if heβs right beside you. Itβs the βI used to like green eyes but now blue eyes are my favoriteβ. Itβs when all love and cheesy stuff just apply for him. Itβs when you begin to see nothing but him and you value him like you value yourself. Itβs not the βheart pounding, hands sweatingβ feeling but more of the βI feel homeβ feeling. Itβs more of like talking to yourself- being yourself with someone without worries. Itβs when you begin to really trust him with everything and that includes your happiness. Itβs when heβs your happiness. Itβs when subconsciously you change for the better. Itβs when you once again start opening up after a long time. Itβs when you are denying it at most cause you are afraid of how strong you feel and last I think while youβre reading this- thereβs someone in your head right now and youβre just contemplating whether youβre in love with him or not but hey the fact that he or she is the person (out of billions of people) in your mind while you read this must say a lot.
What do you do when you lose this kind of love?
I broke up with the person I was thinking of while writing this because thatβs what you do when you lose this kind of love- you let go and you move on.
You donβt cling onto the person because βtwo and a half years has been a long time and itβs a waste to end it hereβ. You end it because youβve had enough thinking twice whether the person is still worth staying with or not. You let go because you find yourself looking back, comparing and missing the old times than cherishing the present. You let go because you have to stop defending that person and start facing the truth that things have changed. You let go because you let go of anything that upsets you whether it be work, hobby or a person.
And you let go because you have to stop being selfish. There is someone out there wanting to love the person youβre holding onto and they deserve to feel this genuine love from someone and not a pity love from you.
When you lose this kind of love, you move on. You do it because itβs the best choice for you. You move on because youβve been hurt enough and itβs time to be happy. You move on because you donβt deserve to doubt the love that someone gives you. You move on and whenever you crumble, remind yourself on why you left in the first place.
And you move forward because you wonβt find the right person for you while youβre holding onto the wrong one.
This is the realest advice I could have ever read, and everyone deserves to read this.
