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Congrats on surgery! 

Hey! I did this with my underworks binders. I don’t know if this will work with gc2b (they rolled out after I had top surgery so I don’t really have any experience with them!) Maybe try with an older binder (If you have one) first? 

Idk how old you are, but when you’re a teenager it’s common to be annoyed with your parents even when you aren’t in a situation as difficult as being trans with an unsupportive parent. It’s not fun to live with someone you’re incompatible with. So I think it’s just natural that you’re upset and angry. 

If you feel like you need help with this situation, to manage your emotions etc, for your own sake, I think you should get a therapist or at least a school counselor. Even if you don’t mention trans things with them but just talk about having a difficult relationship to your dad, it could help you, at least to be able to vent to someone. 

That’s horrible, I’m sorry you have to go through that.

If you can’t get out of it in any way, I think it would be a good idea to ask your online friends to send you a bunch of supportive/happy/wholesome messages, don’t read them thoroughly, just print screen and save in your phone and look at one or a couple of messages every time you need to so it’s like your friends are cheering you up in real time.

In fact, if anyone has any supportive messages for anon, reply to this post or reblog with your message so anon can read/save your messages!

I hope this helps. And remember, it may feel like a long time, but the trip will pass and you’ll be back in contact with your friends, and you’ll be okay. <3

This is an interesting question and I will add this to our possible future topics. :)

That being said, there are sooo many different things you could run into, so I’m just gonna tell you some things I went through:

Waiting. The freaking waiting, oh my god. It’s so frustrating to wait for hormones, surgery, for people to use your pronouns etc etc. It really wears you out eventually even if you are decently good at dealing with it and have support around you. You do learn to be very resilient, though. 

Not knowing what people know about you. This can be a really tough time. For me I had this a lot with more distant relatives, that I don’t necessarily care that much about whether or not I have a good relationship with, but I still want to know where we stand and if they know I’m trans or not. Sometimes you’re about to see someone and you’re like “holy shit does this person know what I look like now???” and that can happen even a pretty long time into your transition and can catch you off guard. 

That in-between stage when I was on T but wasn’t always read as male. It was emotionally taxing to not know if I should go to work being prepared for being misgendered or if I could just relax. Some people would gender me correctly and some wouldn’t. That period of time was more awkward than when everyone misgendered me. But on the other hand I was excited and hopeful enough about the changes to come (and I knew they were coming within the forseeable future) that it didn’t get me down. 

Also about the in-between stage (not that everyone’s gonna have this experience! But I had it): no safe bet when it comes to public bathrooms/changing rooms. At least pre-T I could always go to the women’s and know I wouldn’t be questioned, but a few months on T and pre surgery there was a while when it was hard to know where to go.

People you don’t expect to be unsupportive/rude/dismissive, like health care professionals. One bad apple doesn’t kill the whole bunch, but it’s something that can happen. Even if they’re not outright hateful it can be an uncomfortable experience. For example, while being evaluated for ADHD I had one person (a professional) start asking me about trans surgeries etc which was completely unrelated to anything I was there for. 

Nervousness about coming out to people, not knowing how or when to do it. 

People you don’t know that well asking invasive questions.

Not knowing who to tell you’re trans to, and if you don’t wanna tell them, how do you prevent them from finding out if you for example are out on instagram and they ask to follow you? Do you make another instagram for those people, like your colleagues, to follow? That’s very specific, but you get my point. Possibly lots of small maintenance with that. 

I believe we all find our own ways to handle these things, and the good thing is a lot of them do only require time - and maybe the emotional support of a friend or two - for you to figure out your way of dealing with it. Remember that what you gain from transition is so much greater than the obstacles you face. <3 

If anyone wants to add anything else to this, feel free to reblog!

Not that we know of right now, but if we do we will post about it here and/or on the channel! :) 

Hi!

This is a very delicate question to answer since I’m not a professional when it comes to family relations, mental health or anything like that. I don’t want to give you an answer that potentially inspires you to do something that puts you in danger, you know? Since I don’t know you, your parents or really anything about your situation. I don’t want you to put yourself in danger, but at the same time I understand the need to have your identity respected, and for your sister to know about it. 

If you’re over 18 I suggest you find a trans friendly therapist you can talk to about this. If you’re not over 18, you can look for conseling at your school if you feel like that’s an option, talk to another older family member that’s supportive, or maybe you have an online friend with supportive parents, in which case you can ask to speak with that person’s parents for advice. 

You may find some help in some of the videos we have in these playlists:

Unsupportive parents 

Coming out advice

Social dysphoria

Dealing with transphobia

I hope this helped at least in a small way. Best of luck and lots of love to you!

Hi!

I’m afraid I don’t know what routines around this the airports have, but I can tell you my partner’s experience traveling pre-T and decently passing. 

He was wearing a slightly loose binder (tighter than a sports bra but not as tight as a proper size binder), and got asked about it in an airport in Philadelphia. He got a patdown and the staff member commented on the seam on his shoulder strap, because it was thicker than a normal seam. So he pulled down his shirt a little and showed it, and they were like “ah okay” and he was on his way. It may be relevant to add that he’s white. So if you want to completely minimize your risks of a patdown because of a binder, don’t wear one. But I don’t think it should be an issue if you do. I’m no expert so you can’t rely on that 100%, but I don’t THINK it would be a huge issue. 

Anyway, sorry I couldn’t be of more help but I wanted this to be answered as soon as possible since it’s I guess a bit time sensitive. I hope this was answered in time - I didn’t see the notifications for our last few messages for some reason so idk if anyone did. Tumblr being weird again, I suppose.

Anyway, have fun on your trip and I hope it goes smoothly!