From Amor

I certainly agree that if you undertake hypnosis, your fiancé should end up with control of the triggers. There are many hypnotists who agree with that notion and who make clips with that in mind. There are others, however, who want all the control for themselves and who will direct y our mind to serve them alone. So just be warned about that.

Teasing is the most delightful part of chastity play. Don’t cheat yourself by skimping in this area. Indulge in it liberally and you’ll be rewarded and he will swoon. Women are natural teases so it’ll come easily to you. But in case you’re wondering where to start, here are a few ideas to get you started.

Beginners

When you’re just starting out with chastity the teases don’t have to be complex. His head will be exploding with WTFs and TCBRs (This Can’t Be Real) so often that the slightest hint of teasing won’t go unnoticed.

There. All locked up. You’re in for some fun!

The fact that his little guy won’t be having any fun is not lost on his fevered mind. Variations on this that you can use all the time are, “Have fun!” “Don’t have too much fun!” “Enjoy!” “Enjoy your month!” etc.

Are you going to thank me?

Thanking you for taking away his favorite toy will seem insane and hot. He won’t know which but he will thank you.

Hmm, is that a banana in your pocket or are you just happy to see me?

The fact that you can feel his bulge but his bulge can’t feel you is a mind trip. He’ll wish he could act but he’ll be thwarted.

Is there something I can do for you?

He knows you obviously don’t mean that but he want to ask for it anyway. Make sure he knows not to.

It’s Friday night! I wonder what people are doin’ tonight, don’t you?

Reminding him he’s not like other men and doesn’t enjoy the same freedoms is very empowering for you and diminishing for him. Try it often. Other variations, “Guess we don’t need these condoms anymore. Maybe my friend Mary’s husband could use them.” “

Do you ever wish you could just bend me over and…?

Of course he does and reminding him every hour doesn’t help! And neither does bending over in front of him every chance you get. ;-) Other variations, “Sometimes a guy just has to take what’s his.” “Don’t you just want to break out of that thing and ravish me?”

Wish you could have played with me tonight but alas. Guess I’ll have to make do with the Hitachi again.

Continuing to have a healthy number of orgasms while he goes without is a great way to illustrate the proper balance. Stating that you wish he could join when it’s your will alone that keeps him locked is a nice irony.

Middle Stages

The big threat that scares chaste men who have gotten a few months into the lifestyle is that it has gotten out of their control. They fear it may eventually become permanent and there is no way they can stop that from happening. Use this to great effect.

We’re going to be on the road when your release day comes up. Guess you’ll just have a dry February this time.

The ease with which you casually throw away the orgasm that he has been hoping for over the past weeks will blow his mind.

I can tell by the look in your eyes that you want out. Tisk tisk. That’s going to cost you.

Adding time for the tiniest of infractions lets him know you mean business and you’re not to be trifled with. “Ask again and I’ll double it.” “You’re five minutes late. Too bad for you that’s going to be an extra day.”

I haven’t decided but then again I haven’t given it much thought

Uncertainty is a great weapon. Let him wonder. Let him stew. Never let him know what he can expect. “Don’t think too much about it. I haven’t.”

Do you ever wish we didn’t have to do this whole routine with unlocking and relocking?

Hinting at permanence can be very scary for him and very exciting. “What’s the longest time you could handle? What if we doubled it?”

I was doing some math. Do you realize you only have XXX orgasms left in your entire life? Maybe less.

Knowing the exact number can seem so finite.

Advanced

Eventually the chastity will become his life and his passion. At this point you don’t need to tease him about it anymore. It’s what he wants more than just about anything. At this point you can tease him about how far he’s fallen, what he’s lost, what he’s given up and what he’ll never have again. Erotic humiliation is a curious kink that women find baffling but most men understand intrinsically.

After all this time in that little cage, I wonder if your penis is still the same size.

Size. The universal insecurity. Poke fun at his size and you’ll get him growing futilely in his cage. Other variations include, “Last time you were out you seemed noticeably smaller. Did I do that to you? Oops! Oh well. No, I won’t let you out so you can try to recoup.” “You used to fill me up. I guess it’s just as well that you don’t anymore since you’re not going to have that opportunity much more.”

That guy over there, the tall one. He’s hot. I would totally love to…

Cuckolding is either a genetic weakness in some males or a socialized weakness in all males. in any case, many men are wired so that when their mate is presented with a sexual opportunity with another man, something flips inside and they suddenly become vicariously aroused. It’s probably an evolutionary pressure release valve that kept tribal men from killing each other over infidelities. But in modern times it means you can twist men that much more.

That guy’s hot, don’t you think?

Without a penis he’s just one of the girls now, functionally speaking. Embarrassing for him but hey, oh well. It’s nice to be able to talk freely without worrying what he might hear or think.

You know how you made me watch that girl/girl porno with you? Well Susan just told me of this hot stud flick that just came out, all guys. Even guys with guys. You game?

When access to the penis is restricted, other forms of pleasure are magnified. Homoerotic situations suddenly seem like viable alternatives to the locked straight man, much to his alarm. This will probably be the slowest and longest slide down but it will happen.

What are your ideas?

- Most Importantly, It prevents him from masturbating. Male masturbation is a filthy habit. It’s addictive, selfish, and very disrespectful to a woman’s Innate Sexual Sovereignty . Masturbation has the catastrophic effect of substantially diminishing a man’s natural sexual yearning for his wife / girlfriend. It Also Wrongly teaches him that His orgasm is Primary, and Hers is Secondary.

- Because he can’t get an erection without her permission, it Instantly and Totally changes the Dynamics of the Relationship and his “Psyche” is Forever Changed. Whenever His Queen does let him out for Playtime, He’s Instantly and Helplessly Rock Hard for Her Entertainment.

- Keeps his focus and energy Constantly on his wife / girlfriend where it should always be. Your Femininity & Authority Will be the Last Thing on his mind at night when he falls asleep & The first thing on his mind when he wakes up in the morning.

- It will “Substantially” Increase his Hunger and Desire to Orally Service, Pleasure and Taste his wife or girlfriends femininity.

- It serves as a constant reminder “To Him"…  of Her Total Authority & Sovereignty.

- Because it makes his erections & orgasms entirely dependent upon her mood & generosity, it positively and powerfully incentivizes him to honor her, respect her, and motivates him to please her in every way possible.

- It gives him the time, opportunity and desire to substantially improve and perfect his oral skills. Thus He Quickly Learns that His Purpose, Function & Design as a Male is to Please & Pleasure His Princess.

- Her Orgasms Then Become of Primary Importance for Him and His ejaculation Becomes Secondary in the sexual relationship As It Should Be.

- It teaches him that sexual activity and gratification of his wife or girlfriend doesn’t have anything to do with his own penis pleasure/orgasm.

- It deepens his proper submission to her, and will cause him to worship the ground she walks on.

- It will significantly improve his attitude, and make him more generous, caring, kind, respectful, and Loving.

- It softens the sharp edges of his macho me-first masculinity, He’ll be more of a caring listener rather than a talker.

- It naturally prepares his vulnerable male mind for his queens “Domination” and Her seductive, sensual & subliminal programming / training with Karezza.

- It reinforces the FACT that her Glorious Vagina is a Precious Gift that must be “Earned”, and it is to be Savored and Cherished on those Exquisite occasions when he gets “Blessed” and imprisoned with the loins of her heavenly femininity.

- If his orgasms are consistently Managed, Controlled and Severely Restricted (As They Should Always ), He will eventually get to the point where he will do just about anything to cum, his dopamine levels and libido will be so high. You’ll be amazed by what he will do for you (with the potential promise of a future ejaculation).

Fantastic perspective!  What a wonderful, positive way to see things.  And…