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Nonbinary is also not a halfway point or a transitioning period, it's not inherently a period of exploration, nonbinary genders are their own full, whole genders, just like being a binary girl/woman or binary boy/man.

If you're talking about trans people, you're talking about ALL trans people. Not just binary ones.

If you're talking about men/boys and women/girls, specified trans or otherwise, you are still talking about nonbinary people. There are nonbinary guys and gals in a plethora of ways, and being a guy or gal doesn't make them any less nonbinary.

i just wish it looked like there was any hope at all but it's like we're not real. the world doesn't think i'm real or that i matter. it doesn't leave any hope for me. it doesn't even a little bit.

Hi! I'm RJ and I came out as nonbinary at 35. I started going by a different name (see above) a few years later. I started HRT just a year ago, which was at age 40. I had surgery at 37. I am not a man nor a woman and while I'm not aiming for androgyny in my appearance, I want to be genderqueer enough that people aren't sure which is appropriate.

And, oh boy, let me tell you about two weeks ago when I was at a public festival and met a bunch of new people and one of the guys asked me, "RJ, are you a 'he' or a 'her'?" He clocked me as a man. And she clocked me as a woman. And the gender euphoria I felt at that time was the best moment of my life.

Also, I've been to a queer youth leadership summer camp for two summers where all counselors and staff were 21+ . Many of them were in their 30s, and many of them are nonbinary and absolutely not trying to conform anything. I met all sorts of nonbinary adults fully successful in their lives. People were transitioned, transitioning, or not transitioning in all sorts of ways, had jobs that respected them, great family and friends, and a full summer camp where no one bats an eye at them, including the counselors who used neo and xeno pronouns.

I've been to PFLAG meetings where there were nonbinary adults there who had been out years and others who want to transition in their later life and they were all some of the kindest people.

And as always, you can BE the person you want to see in the world. There is hope. These people have always been out there, are out there. There is a place for you to be yourself. And so many stories and real people to find. I've seen so much of what you're tying to find, it's out there I promise.

I want to leave with this video that comforted me a long few years ago when I was so scared while discovering my gender identity:

https://youtu.be/Bo2FgrTfubw

Also this cool underrated channel about being queer around the world:

comic inspired by that tweet

first step✒️🌟

Happy witch hat day!