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Options are being brought to us, now. Read this open letter then peruse their option. -Wolf

OPEN LETTER 

To: Tumblr Jeff D’Onofrio, Tumblr CEO New York City, New York, United States

Dear Jeff D’Onofrio,

On December 17, Tumblr will be banning porn from its site.

By banning “adult content” from your website in truth you categorically ban sex workers regardless of how they are using your platform. You cut them off from the ability to build an audience for their work, and what’s even worse, you declare their very existence as obscene.

Tumblr allows every content creator, artist, or small entrepreneur to build an audience and communicate with this audience at any moment in time - if you do not work in the adult industry of course.

Many brands use social media to sell products. Social media and eCommerce are interlocked. You take this now away from every adult content creator around the globe. And that is wrong.

You mentioned in a blog post titled “A better, more positive Tumblr”:

“There is no shortage of sites on the internet that feature adult content. We will leave it to them and focus our efforts on creating the most welcoming environment possible for our community.”

You are wrong: There is a shortage of sites on the internet that feature adult content, in particular when it comes to shadowbanning and the ability to also advertise on these sites.

Look, here is what we do:

Sharesome is a site that welcomes all the people that you just kicked off your platform. You gave them time until December 17th to export a backup of their blog to save their years of work. Meanwhile we will develop an import tool, so they can move to us, and we leave you with all the white supremacist Nazi blogs – because we ban that kind of shit.

Regards,

Many think that a man should be completely deprived of any say in any discussions. I think that this is a mistake though. The male sometimes has something valuable to say occasionally. A gynarchy does not mean that man can’t say anything. In fact, I let my man express his opinion very often. Gynarchy means that the WOMAN HAS THE FINAL SAY. With that being said, here are the 5 steps we use at our home to make important decisions:

1. The woman decides what, when and where the discussion will be held.

2. Both the woman and the man should not be under any under special state of consciousness, like having drank or smoked pot. This also means that the man has been caged for at least a week prior to the meeting.

3.  The man kisses the woman’s ass and then kneels before her. The woman describes the situation and the possible solutions (30 minutes).

4.  The man expresses his opinion and any concerns that he might have (5 minutes).

5. A discussion for 25 minutes is done, where both the pros and cons of every solution are detailed. When the discussion is over, the woman lets the man know what she has decided as a head of the household. The man kisses her ass and life continues.

Attitude

1.  He will not be disrespectful or rude to me, my female friends or other  women

2.   He will not address me as anything other than Miss Sarah or Mistress. He is allowed to call me darling when it is not possible to use my correct titles.

3.    He will not put his needs before my needs or the needs of the children

4.    He will not swear or raise his voice to me or use foul language

5.    He will  not fail to listen, turn away or interrupt me when I am speaking to him

6.    He will not lie to me or attempt to deceive me in any way.

7.    He will  not wake me up whilst I am sleeping

8.    He will  not overspend his pocket money allowance of £100 per week for personal items  outside of family and work expenses.

9.    He will not disregard a request I have made.

10.  He will not try to  change or amend plans that I have made. He can offer suggestions and advice  but when I have told him that my decision is made, that’s it!!!

11.  He will not drink more that 30 units of alcohol a  week without permission

12.  He will exercise regularly and keep himself fit

13.  He will not smoke in the house. 

Chores:

He will be proactive in carrying out his core chores around the house, cooking, cleaning  bathrooms, vacuuming, washing dishes, washing clothes and ironing, taking out  the trash. These are his domestic duties and he will do them to a high  standard and without needing to be reminded. He will make sure he does his chores before he has personal time.

Sexual:

14.    He will not pester or  whine for sexual attention.

15.     He will not top from the bottom

16.    He will wear his cuff at  all times unless given permission to remove and    will not release himself

17.    He will keep himself well  groomed and hair free apart from head hair

18.    Be 100% monogamous to me.

19.    When told that he is going to be taking my strap-on he will ensure that he is absolutely clean. I will give him ample warning.

20.   Must not cum without  permission.

21.    He is to always swallow his cum, unless I give him permission otherwise 

 Review and Punishment:

His performance in following these rules will be reviewed regularly. General performance below an expected standard or specific incidents of rudeness or disobedience will result in punishment. I will determine the punishment, be that the cane, the strap, extension to time in chastity, or any other punishment of my choosing.

I LOVE making my husband have ruined orgasms. It’s like a favorite pastime.

Here’s the deal.

I want it thick and creamy. I wanna get him so close to the edge of a real orgasm, and watch the creamy, white cum just fall out of his cock. All we get is spurts of liquidy white and clear cum that shoots out. I want it THICK.

Early in the evolution of our Master/slave relationship, I didn’t fully understand the implications of the power exchange. In essence, Steven had to train me on how to be a better dominant. One thing that he explained to me early was the importance of keeping him in the submissive mindset. When we were first starting, I’d often lapse out of “Domme mode” and let him get away with breaking our “rules” or ignoring the rituals.

After a time, this would upset Steven. I asked him why he couldn’t just adhere to the rules and rituals without me having to remind him all the time. He explained that while it was in his nature and it was his desire to submit, he still needed the expression of dominance from me in order to submit. Psychology is a funny thing, isn’t it? Maybe it was something ingrained in him from childhood, but for whatever reason he could not submit of his own “free will” – he had to be forced, or at least reminded of why he chose to submit.

Once I understood this, I began to be much harsher on him than I’d originally ever thought that I would. Then I began to understand what he meant by the “mindset.” I found that the more assertive I was in expressing my dominance when he made a mistake, the fewer mistakes he made. I had to spend a few weeks chiding him for forgetting to say, “Mistress,” but once I started keeping on top of him about it, he quickly became “trained” and even started saying it at times that I wasn’t even expecting him to!

My first post was about how we began our journey into chastity.  That being said - I learned some lessons along the way that I wish I had learned prior to trying to introduce all of these ideas to my Mistress.

1st - This has been a kink/fantasy of mine for quite a while and I have had a lot of time to think about it and look into it and dream about the possibilities.  My wife on the other hand had lived a very conservative life and we had previously stayed quite vanilla in our sex life, what was left of it when I brought this up anyway.  We were on two completely different playing fields as far as our drives and our desires go.  WHEN PLAYING FIELDS ARE UNEVEN YOU HAVE TO WORK TO GET TO COMMON GROUND

2nd - (in connection to #1) Blasting 100 different scenarios and fantasies related to chastity right off the bat (what I consider my bull in the china shop tactic) did not pan out too well for me.  I kept trying to relay that she would benefit the most from locking me up but all of my scenarios were so elaborate and detailed that she felt overwhelmed and like she was being given another job to take care of my fantasies.  For almost a year we would go back and forth with me feeling frustrated that she wasn’t picking up on the things I was telling her about and her getting frustrated and upset because she felt like she was getting performance anxiety when I wasn’t content with the baby steps that she was taking to enjoy the ride.  (pun intended) CAN’T RUSH A GOOD THING.

3rd - When I went and bought all of the toys that I had I did so with the idea in mind that I would be able to use all of these toys to raise up my Mistress’s libido and pleasure her more and more as she became acustomed to the new means of achieving an orgasm.  I tried and I tried to do various things like putting on a strap-on while still caged so that she could ride.  She told me she prefered riding the real thing.  (Rejection #1)  I used a cock sheath.  She told me again she prefered riding the real thing.  (Rejection #2)  I attempted to tell her that I would go down on her any time that she wanted (which we hadn’t done since we were first married) and she wouldn’t ever request it but when I would ask she would sometimes reluctantly let me lick her.  Then she would tell me that she enjoyed it a lot.  But still never follow it up with requesting that I do it again.  (Felt like rejection #3).  I went and bought both a Hitachi wand and a rabbit vibe after looking at online reviews and various other sites that said that these were “women’s best friends” and how much women seemed to like them.  I tried using both of them in various ways and each time she would say “it just tickles” and “it doesn’t really do much for me”.  (Rejection #4).  I started to wonder if any of the fantasies that I had in my mind were going to be of any use between the two of us because I couldn’t find anything she enjoyed for getting sexual pleasure outside of being on top and riding me. NOT ALL SEX TOYS OR SEXUAL ACTS ARE OF INTEREST OR A TURN ON FOR ALL WOMEN.

4th - While chatting with a few people online about things and where I was feeling frustrated about my situation one gal told me that I needed to get away from the porn side of chastity because most of that was not real and/or it wasn’t in the interest of the woman involved in the chastity play.  She quickly directed me to a few websites and books to try out as stepping stones to me being able to present things better to my wife if I wanted her to take the reins as my Mistress.  She told me that one of the best books to get was Female Domination - by Elise Sutton and she gave me the website to go to read up on the author who has written a few books and has a webpage dedicated to the subject. Eventually, after looking over the webpage and perusing through comment sections and others I was determined to find a good source of material that I could share with my wife and something coming from a woman’s perspectice would hopefully be the right thing to share.  So I went and bought the book.  Of course I read through it myself first so that I could see if what the author had to say matched with what I was thinking/feeling but from a Domme’s perspective.  It was enlightening to learn more about the concept of servitude being at the core of female domination and that the sexual pleasure and enjoyment are a by-product.  I NEEDED TO CHANGE MY TACTICS AND WAY OF THINKING.  I NEEDED TO SERVE MY MISTRESS IN EVERY WAY I COULD TO HELP HER REALIZE HOW MUCH I LOVE HER AND WANT TO BE HER PET.