Kleio

heey, honestly I’ve been doing a lot of adulting this past years —bought an apartment, started working at multinational company, a lot of legal things i needed to do for myself, house insurance, provident fund, tax stuff.... I am also investing a lot in my career, certifications, learnings, etc. I am currently taking a Business Analyst 40-hour training on top of my work. Apart from that, I have been off my BPD meds for 2 years now, woohoo! I am literally on no meds atm, can't tell you how proud i am of myself! I paused traveling until I move into my home, so nothing really exciting is happening in my life. Countries on my mind (surf camp in Morocco, yoga retreat in Bali, solo travel in Asia, visit a friend in Australia, Japan with some friends from Cyprus, get better at surf and try Hawaiian waves) I have also been battling with fibromyalgia (a rheumatic disorder in which your nervous system sends pain signals in your body, it's painful) So my life is simple, I wake up, exercise, go to work, come home, walk my dog, have dinner, watch a series, and i am trying to incorporate a night routine where I watch less series and have some mindful time to myself (working on that one ).

I also had to cut off close family members from my life for a while, as I didn't feel valued or respected, so that was tough, but sadly necessary, as I have to prioritize my nervous system, and anything that stresses me out needs to be pushed aside, at least until i get better. I think for me the next step (if my health allows it, which I think/hope I will get there) is to have a child. I am 32 now, so I have time to prepare for it. I am considering the possibility of having a child as a single mother in the scenario that I don't meet someone in the next years. I will start looking into adoption centers and also freeze some eggs just in case. My health threw me off track on that one, but it's still manageable, i just need to find ways to work around it, thank god i am creative.

I am currently going through a "breakup" - we dated for over a year, but we never managed to get past the dating phase and into the relationship phase. I've realized that I am quite content and calm on my own, and the life I've built and the people that are part of it, I want a partner that adds value, not stress, to my life, and most people that are my age or older lack the following things that I am looking for: - emotional availability -growth mindset -have secure attachment styles (i am working on this one, my bpd can sabotage me on this one) -relationship of inspiration, not deprivation I’ve realized I need a partner who’s done some personal groundwork — like setting family boundaries, investing in their health, seeing a bit of the world, and thinking long-term about life. I’ve learned from experience that shared mindset matters more than anything. I’m not judging anyone still figuring that stuff out — I’ve been there too — but I’m past the point of wanting to grow someone into readiness. I also had to take a pause with music. I was taking piano lessons until a month ago, but had to pause because of the pain in my hands. And with the shift of focus to my physical health, I need to set music aside for now.

The only social media I use is my art page @gluemyart on instagram, which I am actually selling soon.